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Vent on behalf of DH

slmille4slmille4 member
edited December 2013 in January 2014 Moms
So DH got a call to bid a job that would require after hours work (he owns his own window cleaning business). But he found out they want it done in the next few weeks. I'm current 35 weeks 4 days. So poor DH is stuck between a rock and a hard place because they need to take this job but it will put him 45 min from me and over an hour from th hospital and that is without traffic. His business partner is lazy and already making snide comments about if DH isn't there how he'll be stuck with the job and so on. DH is afraid if he stays at home "on call" with me his business partner will either make an excuse why they couldn't do it a certain or leave early pissing off the company they get their sub contracting work from or he'll pass it off to their employees who were just laid off this week because of the slow season and pay them cash which DH's business can't afford right now.
Poor DH. This hasn't been an easy third tri for either of us

Eta: the job would prolly go in a couple weeks putting me at 37 or 38
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  • cyndilouwho77cyndilouwho77 member
    I totally understand this one, my DH takes on side work all the time.  We had to establish new rules after last weekend though.  He was 30+ min away (which is actually better than the fact that he lives two hours away during the week) up a tree without his cell phone or earpiece in.  He left before I got up, when I got up I realized the baby hadn't been moving...so I tried everything to try and get her moving and nothing worked....5 hours later I kept calling him and texting him.  I ended up going alone to my Dr. who sent me to the ER all without my DH even knowing cause he didnt check his phone.  I finally had to call a friend of his that had another friend in the area to go get his butt out of the tree....I was in ultrasound by the time he got to me several hours later...looking much like a tree himself!  New rules, ear piece always stays in!!!

    Yet, I get the need to take the work. All he (and you) can really do is take that leap of faith that everything will work out just fine. Esp if this is your first baby you will prob go into labor later than sooner and it will all work out!  Good Luck!
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  • monkeybutt61612monkeybutt61612 member
    I agree with pp. Not taking it because you're due in 5 weeks seems over cautious. I completely understand the fear associated with having a husband not easily accessible this close to the end though.
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  • LatteLady5LatteLady5 member
    I'm sorry your H has such a lousy partner. I agree with PP's. Unless you're at risk for preterm labor I don't think it's an issue for him to take the job as long as he can be reached at all times.

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  • ehepnerehepner member
    Agree with PP. It sounds like he needs the job and you could be fine for several more weeks. So I would set grounds rules so you can always reach him if you need to. Labor is usually a pretty long process and those ladies who have babies on the side of the road are not the norm. (but I know the idea is scary).

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  • gina0485gina0485 member
    The good news is, if you do start to go into labor early, for most people, you have plenty of time to call your DH and get to the hospital before you move into anything active. At the end of the day though you have to do what you're comfortable with.
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  • JackapatamusJackapatamus member
    Try not to worry. DH works 45-50 minutes from home, and we are another 15 from the hospital. I had PROM for DS, and am at risk for ptl, and my dr said not to worry about the time difference. I would have DH take the work, and make a back up plan, such as an alternate ride to hospital, and have him meet you there.
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