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Problems with DC pickup--literally.

Mustardseed2007Mustardseed2007 member
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So I'm 21 weeks pregnant and have been diagnosed with complete placenta previa at the moment and a cord problem called VCI.

With these issues I have been told to refrain from exercise and lifting more than 20 pounds. My toddler is 2 years old and weights 27-28 pounds. I normally do daycare pickups, and yesterday I was able to park in a parking spot very close to the front door and had him walk out with me. I had to pick him up to put him in the car seat, though.

Even though putting him in the car seat is a relatively quick motion, DH is very adamant about not wanting me to do that anymore, which I understand. Our last pregnancy ended in a loss (we don't know why the loss happened) and I don't want it to happen again. However, it's not really typical for DH to be able to do pick ups b/c with traffic he is an hour away, it's something I've been handling just b/c my office is closer so I can pick DS up at 5:30 vs. DH would have to pick him up at 6:00 or later (deadline for pick up is 6:30 but I really don't want to leave DS that long).

DH wants me to ask if someone at the DC can put DS into the carseat for me...on the one hand I see this as a reasonable request b/c it should only take a moment, but I haven't asked yet b/c I just am feeling like it would also be an imposition that may be more burdensome than it seems. When we pick up at 5:30 pm there aren't all that many kids left. Certainly there are some, but not a lot. But every staff member there is doing something and I kind of feel like they would be too busy to help with this and we should figure it out. Thoughts?


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Re: Problems with DC pickup--literally.

  • NicoleWINicoleWI member
    edited December 2013
    Absolutely ask. What have you go to lose by asking? You have a unique situation and I bet they would be happy to help as long as there is someone who can leave the building for a second.
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  • aglennaglenn member
    I'm sure they would not mind helping you at all.  I would go ahead and ask.  I have had to ask for help juggling my two crazies out the door on occasion and our day care teachers were more than willing to help.  Could your DS climb up into his seat with a step stool?  That might be a good backup plan just in case.  My DS is about the same age and loves to use a step stool any chance he gets.  We have a few of the cheapo non-slip IKEA ones and keep one in the car.
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  • jf198400jf198400 member
    I would definitely ask for help.  They do have to stay in ratio, so just be prepared that you may have to wait a few minutes until someone is available, but I can't imagine them not helping given your situation.  I also think that other parents would be willing to help if you ask someone that you see frequently at pickup.
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  • daisy662daisy662 member
    I also think you should ask. But, I'm curious, how will you get him out of the car once you get home? Can your DH flex his work hours to go in earlier and be out in time to do pick up?
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  • financialdivafinancialdiva member
    Definitely ask. I am sure they would be more than willing to help. I am guessing he can climb down out of the car seat, hopefully he can climb up into it.
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  • emberlee3emberlee3 member
    I would teach LO to climb in and out, using a step stool if necessary.  DS learned to climb in and out when I was pregnant with DD, and it helped tremendously even though  I did not have medical restrictions.
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  • plus12012plus12012 member
    Are there any other parents that you know that pick up around the same time? Maybe they would be willing to plan on meeting you at the center at pick-up and helping you get your LO strapped in.

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  • LoCarbLoCarb member
    edited December 2013
    Definitely ask! My DC was awesome when I had an infant and toddler they helped me daily with walks to car and placing DD in the car seat
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  • Mustardseed2007Mustardseed2007 member
    edited December 2013
    Yeah I don't know why I felt weird about asking. They were fine with the idea but I am going to put a step stool in the car too so I have both options .

    Sometimes dh can leave work early but sometimes he's in court and he just can't.

    Thanks y'all so much for the responses...I really did feel odd about asking; maybe i really felt more weird about explaining. I didn't go into it terribly much, I just said I was having complications and I had a lifting restriction and they said they would help.


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  • PseudoMamaPseudoMama member
    If you can afford it short term, you might try looking into some part time nanny help. Maybe there is someone reliable you could hire for 1-2 hours a day to handle pick ups and maybe dinner prep. It sounds scary but we just hired someone off of care.com for a short-term nanny and she is amazing. It is unbelievable how much stress it has removed from my life. Take care of yourself and your new baby and find some extra help if you can.
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  • funchickenfunchicken member
    Kimbus22 said:
    I think the stepstool and teaching him to get in and out himself is your best bet.  Even if the DC workers can lift him into the car, you'll still have to lift him out at home.

    ITA. Not a board regular, but I happened to see your post. I had a complete previa at 20 weeks, and I had the same restrictions. Even though DD2 is small for her age, she was able to climb in and out of her seat. Sometimes I gave her a little boost. My previa resolved by 28 weeks. Hope yours does, too!
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  • mrsshawnavanbmrsshawnavanb member
    NicoleWI said:
    Absolutely ask. What have you go to lose by asking? You have a unique situation and I bet they would be happy to help as long as there is someone who can leave the building for a second.
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