Vent about ttc

AandStilltrying · December 2013

Well as most of you know today was our poas day. S had no signs of aunt flow but on her way home she started. We are bit completely devastated. Not only do we get a BFN, but S job changed insurance providers and we lost any help we had. New company won't pay a dime...not even for an ultrasound. They won't even cover a co-pay at his office. There is no way financially that we can keep going with paying every little thing out of pocket. S works for a small company and so she has a close relationship with her boss. She called him crying last night to tell him that she was going to have to look for a new job because of insurance and explained what is going on. He told her to calm down and he would take care of it all today. They had hired a new hr guy who "found" them this great insurance that was way cheaper. Supposedly he told him it had to be the same in order for them to switch...but it wasn't and we are left with the pain. Not to mention how rude and degrading insurance co. Was when S called. Telling us you have zero coverage and are considered infertile! There were so many tears in this house last night. All I want to do is take her pain away and I can't. I hate that so much. I can't stand to see her hurting. I've tried so hard to be strong for her. This really blows! Ok...thanks for listening. I just needed to get that off my chest before heading into work today.

healz413 · December 2013

I am so sorry to hear that. The in/fertility process is exhausting and devastating for so many of us. I hope that A's boss works things out with the insurance.
Sending you lots of supportive thoughts.

trisholio · December 2013

I am really sorry to hear this difficult news. This process is so exhausting mentally, emotionally and financially. I hope that things work out with the insurance company and you can get better coverage.

Support one another and never give up :-)

GoaliesWife123 · December 2013

Sorry to hear this. Sending thoughts your way.

Jazibel · December 2013

@andstilltrying - so sorry to hear this. I hope yesterday's tears give way to smiles over good news today. I'll be sending you & S positive thoughts :-)

aslmander · December 2013

oh no, so sorry to hear this. keep your head up! you guys are in my thoughts and prayers!

doodah1013 · December 2013

I am so sorry to hear this. I know how hard it can be to keep trying and trying with no positive result. It looks like you all have had quite the journey, and it can be so draining. Some days it is just better to scream and shout then to fight the sadness.

I also understand how hard it is to pay out of pocket. A and I have often wondered if this would be less horrible if we weren't spending all of our life savings for something that some people never pay a dime on. Then we remind ourselves, this is our journey, and it just proves how much we want it. I hope you can get the insurance issues worked out, but if not, I hope you kind find a way to save, or make ends meet some how. A and I are always shocked at how much we have cut our budget to continue TTC.

Sending T and P's your way, and hope for some serenity for you soon!

AandStilltrying · December 2013

@doodah1013 thank you. You always seem to say the most calming words that bring me off the ledge a little bit.

I love my bump family and love knowing that I have a group of friends who understand and don't judge. That's the best feeling.

wishiwaspreggo · December 2013

So sorry you're going through this My insurance company completely lacks compassion for our situation so I know how you feel. Not a single dime of my IF treatments are covered my insurance. Not the ultrasounds, not the medicines, not the office visits, not the blood work... nothing. I'm keeping all my receipts for tax purposes. At least I can deduct everything in January since I definitely have paid more than 10% of my income on this. It's rough. But know that the end result is worth it and try to stay strong.

StacyLH24 · December 2013

I'm sorry that #7 didn't work. I'm sorry that you even had to get to #7. I hope that the insurance issue can be worked out. Simply being on the journey to try to get pregnant is stressful...adding financial stress to that just doesn't seem fair. May there soon be a bright light at the end of your TTC tunnel...and some nightlights along the way

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