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missenchanting78 · December 2013

Thank you for your advice. I am choosing to remove myself from this group. I am appalled at how some of you ladies are taking count of how many post or replies people give. Unfortunately none of want to be here but we are. I am new to this board and I do not even know most of the abbreviations for the board. Heck it has been less than a month since the ectopic and less than a week since my block tube diagnosis. This is the hardest thing I have been through and still trying to figure this out. Someone not offering support because I do not post enough is disappointing. I wish you all the best and pray for you all each day. Sorry again that I do not have enough replies to fit the criteria.

BethKate2 · December 2013

Ok....?

I clearly missed something.

jbasore1123 · December 2013

Wait, you're leaving because only 7 people responded to your post??

jap618 · December 2013

GBCB?

I'm definitely confused. I'm sorry you didn't feel that this was the right place for you. Best of luck.

E&B0811 · December 2013

I'm sorry for your loss and also sorry that you feel like you were now welcome or supported appropriately. The first few weeks after a loss are incredibly hard and sometimes, at least for me, makes people extra sensitive and can skew the way things are perceived.

To echo the other ladies, though, if you stuck around you'd see that this is an incredibly supportive group of women going through various stages of grief (sometimes multiple stages in a given day!). We support each other and cross fingers, toes and all other things in the hope and fervent prayer that we will each make it to PgAL and pal. I'm sorry you didn't see that, but in your short time here I must say, you hardly gave it a chance.

To paraphrase @meladoriestar, I will more enthusiastically support my friends. But, that does not mean that I would wish ill on a stranger. To imply as much, as you have, is insulting and total a front to the supportive network that this community is to so many of us. A quick look at your post history indicates that you feel that many women on TBs are mean girls. That's too bad. I can tell you, as a matter of fact, if it weren't for these mean girl internet strangers, I would not have made it through the last 6 months in as reasonable shape as I did.

If you decide to stick around, read the blog. You'll see that it is in fact not about the number of posts, but rather, about the support you give. This is no more the "Give Love and Support to E&B Only" board any more than it is so dedicated to another bumpie. It's mutual respect and reciprocal support. Please don't twist it into some imagined horrible unnecessarily.

KMW08 · December 2013

I also wanted to add, there might not be a lot of responses because there aren't many ladies around who have tried holistic methods or know anything about them to offer advice.

I myself know NOTHING of holistic methods, so I didn't respond because I felt like I had no advice to offer.

Poppy715 · December 2013

She is GBCBing because people asked her to give a little instead of only taking. It doesn't work in the bedroom and it doesn't work here. Sorry you don't feel this is the right place for you. I'm thinking you might not have lurked to see how things are done. Best of luck to you.

missenchanting78 · December 2013

No I am not leaving because the number of responses. The number of responses do not matter to me. I have issues with some members giving advice and then criticizing if you do not post enough to their standards. I was not planning to be a pop up member and I believe you should invest in this community. All I am asking is for a newbie to be given sometime to learn the board and feel their way around.

Poppy715 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:

No I am not leaving because the number of responses. The number of responses do not matter to me. I have issues with some members giving advice and then criticizing if you do not post enough to their standards. I was not planning to be a pop up member and I believe you should invest in this community. All I am asking is for a newbie to be given sometime to learn the board and feel their way around.

There's still time. You don't have to leave. Its easy to give (((hugs))) and welcome others. It also goes a long way to try and get to know others or offer condolences. You don't have to totally peace out.

peggels24 · December 2013

KMW08 said:

I also wanted to add, there might not be a lot of responses because there aren't many ladies around who have tried holistic methods or know anything about them to offer advice. I myself know NOTHING of holistic methods, so I didn't respond because I felt like I had no advice to offer.

I was just coming here to post almost exactly this. OP, I am sorry for your loss and I'm very sorry that you did not feel that you received adequate support in less than 6 hours. However, I would suggest that next time you post in a public forum and you are looking for a mass quick response....you should try to broaden the caption of your thread.....I didn't open it because I've been busy doing work and after work things and then didn't have anything to offer regarding a holistic approach. I had no idea it was an intro of sorts. I wish you the best as well. For the record, I would encourage you to hang around....this board is fantastic.

Drgn30 · December 2013

My advice is to not give up on this board. It's a wonderful place.

Poppy715 · December 2013

peggels24 said:

KMW08 said:

I also wanted to add, there might not be a lot of responses because there aren't many ladies around who have tried holistic methods or know anything about them to offer advice. I myself know NOTHING of holistic methods, so I didn't respond because I felt like I had no advice to offer.

I was just coming here to post almost exactly this. OP, I am sorry for your loss and I'm very sorry that you did not feel that you received adequate support in less than 6 hours. However, I would suggest that next time you post in a public forum and you are looking for a mass quick response....you should try to broaden the caption of your thread.....I didn't open it because I've been busy doing work and after work things and then didn't have anything to offer regarding a holistic approach. I had no idea it was an intro of sorts. I wish you the best as well. For the record, I would encourage you to hang around....this board is fantastic.

It wasn't an intro. She said in her original post that she intro'd a few weeks ago. I know I haven been around tons but im guessing OP hasn't posted much since her intro, until the holistic thread.

missenchanting78 · December 2013

Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.

Poppy715 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:

Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.

Lurking is good. It helps you understand the board. Where exactly did I insult you? I'm so confused. I told you to stay and not miss out on the best support system I have. Re-read my comments. They were not rude or hurtful. I'll say I responded quite gently. Much nicer than many after your reaction. No one was criticizing you. They were saying you might get more responses if you offered others support in addition to taking support.

carlsonbaby2014 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:
Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.

Whoa, whoa...poppy did not insult you. She offered you great advice on how to be a contributing member of our board (and therefore get support in return). And if you did lurk, you'd realize that we consider it a good thing to get a feel for the board and it's members.

KMW08 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:
Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.

OMG. Seriously @missenchanting78 if your intentions were to become part of this board, please do so.

If you would take as much time to give some support to others as you've spent in this thread, you would've made your point & been on your way to being an active poster in this community.

Nobody is trying to get you to run away, it was simply a friendly reminder that it's polite & very much appreciated that you give support to get support. There's no harm in being reminded of this.

Poppy715 · December 2013

meladoriestar said:

Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.
When did poppy insult you? Please quote. I've never seen poppy insult anyone.

Ha! This makes me blush. Im not a saint by any means but rarely do I insult people. I thought I was being helpful. I'd love a QFP right now.

Poppy715 · December 2013

meladoriestar said:

meladoriestar said:

Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.
When did poppy insult you? Please quote. I've never seen poppy insult anyone.

Ha! This makes me blush. Im not a saint by any means but rarely do I insult people. I thought I was being helpful. I'd love a QFP right now.
I'd QFP everything if I weren't mobile. Now there's too much to go back to and keep track of. Or did you mean a quote of you insulting OP? For the record, I went back and reread everything looking for you to insult her. Nothing. I thought you were quite nice.

I WAS nice! I told her not to leave. Not to GTFO but to lurk and then contribute. No meanness anywhere.

BethKate2 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:

Poppy715 You are entitled to you opinion. If you feel you have to insult me to feel better then go ahead. Your comment was disrespectful and I still wish you the best. You can call me a lurker but I know what my intentions really were and being a lurker was not it.

Stop with the drama. Seriously. No one insulted you.

I see no reason for you to leave the board, but if you feel it's not a good fit for you, then leave. Starting a new thread to tell everyone that you're leaving is just an AWish thing to do. Then, to say that people are insulting you when they weren't just adds to the drama.

If you want to stick around, great. Read, post, support people, and you'll get plenty of support in return. If you don't want to stick around, then don't, but don't bother telling us how appalled you are.

missenchanting78 · December 2013

"She is GBCBing because people asked her to give a little instead of only taking. It doesn't work in the bedroom and it doesn't work here." Heck you think I am here only here to take and not give. You are wrong to say what my intentions are and I found that offensive Poppy.

Poppy715 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:

"She is GBCBing because people asked her to give a little instead of only taking. It doesn't work in the bedroom and it doesn't work here." Heck you think I am here only here to take and not give. You are wrong to say what my intentions are and I found that offensive Poppy.

Have you posted support? Like any at all to the members of this board? I can't guess about what your intentions are. I can only go off what I saw. People offered you feedback and advice. Have you done so on threads you haven't started?

carlsonbaby2014 · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:
"She is GBCBing because people asked her to give a little instead of only taking. It doesn't work in the bedroom and it doesn't work here." Heck you think I am here only here to take and not give. You are wrong to say what my intentions are and I found that offensive Poppy.

Oh, cry me a river. This is an online forum. If you want to give support you do so by participating. And your history left something to be desired there.

jap618 · December 2013

...Still so confused... Why did this start? Did I miss where someone told her to offer support (prior to this thread?).

Poppy715 · December 2013

jap618 said:

...Still so confused... Why did this start? Did I miss where someone told her to offer support (prior to this thread?).

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12181712/holistic-approach-loss-mentioned#latest

Sorry, no clicky on the kindle.

AnyMax · December 2013

missenchanting78 said:
"She is GBCBing because people asked her to give a little instead of only taking. It doesn't work in the bedroom and it doesn't work here." Heck you think I am here only here to take and not give. You are wrong to say what my intentions are and I found that offensive Poppy.

Oh FFS. You have only started three threads, and have only commented on those three threads. That is taking, not giving.

Poppy715 · December 2013

Poppy715 said:

jap618 said:

...Still so confused... Why did this start? Did I miss where someone told her to offer support (prior to this thread?).

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12181712/holistic-approach-loss-mentioned#latest
Sorry, no clicky on the kindle.

Apparently immediately a magician, and a liar. Click away!

jap618 · December 2013

Ahhh reading fail

Thank you @ktlovess & @Poppy715 for the assist!!

Here is a "Pomosa" for my reading troubles:

Pomosa - Pomegranate juice and champagne. Perfect for a Christmas Eve toast and Christmas brunch!

jap618 · December 2013

ktlovess said:

@jap618 - it's ok. I read it and I still don't get it. I've never have a pomosa!!

Me either it just sounds delicious

Champagne & Pom juice

Poppy715 · December 2013

jap618 said:

Ahhh reading fail Thank you @ktlovess & @Poppy715 for the assist!!

Here is a "Pomosa" for my reading troubles:

Well, doesn't that look like the most muthereffing delicious thing I've seen today. I'll take 7!

carlsonbaby2014 · December 2013

jap618 said:

ktlovess said:

@jap618 - it's ok. I read it and I still don't get it. I've never have a pomosa!!

Me either it just sounds delicious

Champagne & Pom juice

Hot dang that looks good!!!!

uneek1323 · December 2013

buggirl72 · December 2013

meladoriestar said:

Poppy715 said:

jap618 said:

Ahhh reading fail Thank you @ktlovess & @Poppy715 for the assist!!

Here is a "Pomosa" for my reading troubles:

Well, doesn't that look like the most muthereffing delicious thing I've seen today. I'll take 7!

Agreed. I'll also take 7.
Hold it! It has Pom in it? Does that mean it helps build ute lining?

gingerkid9989 · December 2013

uneek1323 said:

If I could love this a thousand times, I would!! I spit my coke out all over my keyboard at work!

)

blackbird818 · December 2013

jap618 said:

ktlovess said:

@jap618 - it's ok. I read it and I still don't get it. I've never have a pomosa!!

Me either it just sounds delicious Champagne & Pom juice

PS they are AMAZEBALLS!!!!

ETA: As far as OP goes and her dramatism of my & others responses to her original post, I was pretty darn nice and was trying to offer a helpful reminder to a newbie.
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BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014

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