Aaahh! Vent (bfp mentioned, not mine)

JMForte33 · December 2013

Aaahhhh!!!

So on thanksgiving my mom texted me to tell me that my cousin was pregnant (no one in my family knows we are going through IF treatments so it was nothing bad on her part). I had my WTF! moment and moved on and I really am happy for her. Then we had a party for DH's work group and one of the wives is 20 weeks pregnant (we have know for a few weeks) and that was all anyone wanted to talk about. Once again no one knows we are doing treatments and I congratulated her and am super happy for them….but now I just found out my friends sister is pregnant….why am I surrounded by pregos! Not only that but I am in my first 2ww after IUI so i'm trying to stay rational/calm as it is….grrr.

Ok feeling a little better

How do you ladies deal with the 2ww without losing it or crashing the internet with research?

Cutiecruz327 · December 2013

I crash the Internet with research! Lol. I am impatiently waiting for Friday. I am in my 2WW after my 1st iui too! i decided not to test out my trigger thinking it would help to keep sanity. Wish I had! Good luck to you! FX!

JMForte33 · December 2013

I didn't test my trigger either and i'm going to try my best not to POAS before my testing. Good luck on Friday!

pcrumley · December 2013

I feel ya @jmforte33 3 of my cousins announced that they are all pregnant this past month all due in the same week, I was like "really" of course I'm bitter, so it's okay to be upset. We all know the feeling. Everyone knows that we are battling IF In our family and friends, and i don't know if that's better or worse bc the you get the stupid unwanted advice like "just stop thinking about it and you'll get pregnant", or stupid wivestails. After our first two clomid cycles, I've stayed off google, and research with my 3t bumpies instead.

missvolvo · December 2013

I totally feel you. My sister-in-law just announced she was pregnant, knowing that I have had trouble, but don't worry she knows "exactly what I am going through" and knows how hard it will be to "watch her progression." I love when people without fertility issues know what we are going through! All I wanted to say was, Progress this! I am in my 2ww too and trying to wait until test day (12-12). It's brutal. Good luck to you!

kristi&p · December 2013

I totally understand. Today as I type my cousin is having her baby. They started trying about 4 months after we did. I also have a friend that started same time as we did and is loving on there twins right now.

I just have to keep telling myself to relax and be happy for them and one day our time will come.

DreadGamerWife · December 2013

I also understand. My sister in law announced that she is pregnant during Thanksgiving (first month trying, grr). DH and I joked that wouldn't it be funny if we were both PG at the same time. Well, that isn't looking likely so I am trying to stay happy for them. Luckily, we aren't getting together for Christmas so hopefully I can avoid all of the pregnancy craziness (and the questions about us). Most of our family is also not aware of our IF struggles.

pcrumley · December 2013

Sometimes when I hear of friends/family getting pregnant so fast. I secretly hope their baby is colicky, and my husband says he hopes their baby will be ugly !!!! hahaha it deff helps to poke fun (privately) at the situation and have someone else to share in the grief. ANYONE ELSE DO THIS? OR ARE WE TERRIBLE PEOPLE?

X_X

JAsargalski91512 · December 2013

I am also in my tw waiting period..who invented the two week rule anyways hmmm.... its so frustrating cause you don't want to get your hopes up but everyone around you is announcing their pregnant and some with more then one baby ... they all say oh don't worry it will happen to you.... its like yea but I want it nowwwww .

absolutelymaybe · December 2013

I'm pretty sure I crashed the internet with research during my 2WWs, so not much help there. But good luck on your beta! Hopefully you will have some good news soon!

Allison7 · December 2013

pcrumley said:

Sometimes when I hear of friends/family getting pregnant so fast. I secretly hope their baby is colicky, and my husband says he hopes their baby will be ugly !!!! hahaha it deff helps to poke fun (privately) at the situation and have someone else to share in the grief. ANYONE ELSE DO THIS? OR ARE WE TERRIBLE PEOPLE? X_X

I always take note on either 1. how unattractive the baby is or 2. how stupid the baby's name is. DH is not so good at doing this with me, but my BF who is not married totally understands. For her, we bash peoples weddings and spouses

JMForte33 · December 2013

Thanks girls, this is the best place to vent because I think we've all been there!

brittneyandadam · December 2013

I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's always the worst when you have to fake the smile and be happy happy happy! My step brother and his wife just announced that they're having their 3rd (no troubles of course) and a coworker's wife just gave birth (they weren't even trying).

Even after 4 IUI's I still find something to look up on the internet. It's ok to feel crazy during the 2ww...it really messes with your head!!!

malerina · December 2013

@JMForte33, I totally relate to every word! I crash internet and I get pretty obsessive. I like numbers too. Last 2ww I found statistical models for IUI success with PCOS patients on pubmed, and it kept me occupied for a couple of days. Also, I focus on my work (love my job!), and do art projects (art gives great relief). Anything to get my head occupied works, until my willpower decides to quit.

Closer to AF date I avoid social events with possible preg announcements. I thought I was doing fine, until some months ago I had to seek refuge in unfamiliar people's bathroom for a private cry. I blame hormones for that...

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