Offending people

readyornot12345 · December 2013

We have been invited to a number of large parties lately for thanksgiving etc. I have politely declined hugs and kisses from people because I just don't want to get sick this close to delivery. I feel really bad and some people seem to get really offended. We have 2 more big parties coming up and I just feel bad to upset people but don't need 30+ people's germs either. : (

Athena0303 · December 2013

I don't blame you. I honestly plan to avoid most parties this month - I'm just NOT into it - too tired, too many people, too much noise, ehhh....just rather be at home!

monkeybutt61612 · December 2013

I think its weird to decline a hug if you're a already at the party. Why not just not go if you're that worried about getting sick?

lba0614 · December 2013

yeah...if you're already at the party with people who might be sick, you'll more than likely get those germs just from being in the same room and touching the same surfaces, etc.

Aycul18 · December 2013

I can definitely understand kisses, but hugs I would say are ok... Plus, if it's airborn rather than transmitted via saliva or touching your mouth/nose/eyes, nothing will save you unfortunately, unless you put yourself in a bubble... I agree with PP that the best line of defense is to just keep washing your hands.

grannyweatherwax · December 2013

Washing hands, bring hand sanitizer with you.

I don't actually like hugs anyway, so I tend to avoid them year round. Do whatever makes you worry the least amount.

peitri · December 2013

Agree that hugs are safe. Kisses definitely not. But I don't kiss anyone except DH and my pets so I'd be safe there. Wash your hands lots, and don't share food, drinks, or utensils. I'm sure you'll be fine.

kimberly4411 · December 2013

I have hubby's Christmas party Friday. I couldn't imagine telling people to stay back. I don't like hugs to begin with but I don't refuse them pregnant or not.
Nothing is more awkward than me coming up trying to give you a ihg and you tell me no. I would be slightly offended as well

lp0 · December 2013

Nrg2020 said:
Just tell them you are feeling sickly and don't want to get them sick and avoid their hugs and kisses.

This is what I was going to suggest.

notkateanymore · December 2013

I'm in the "why go if you're that worried" camp. A hug isn't going to get you sick, unless you hug a completely different way than most people.

notkateanymore · December 2013

ColeRose said:

Honestly I find that a little strange, if you are that concerned about germs just don't go.

I can honestly say it's right up there with one of the oddest things on the board. I couldn't imagine saying "Sorry, no hugging, you might get me sick"

thesportsgal · December 2013

KateMW said:
I'm in the "why go if you're that worried" camp. A hug isn't going to get you sick, unless you hug a completely different way than most people.

When I got pregnant, my young niece and nephew wanted to know how the baby got in there. My sister said it was from a "special hug" that moms and dads do. Cracks me up. But OP should be fine, since she's already pregnant.

readyornot12345 · December 2013

Lol I admit I'm a germ a phobe and its even worse now since so close to delivery. Sounds like I should just stay put and avoid crowds! Family are kissers as well as huggers so that's why I was worried mostly. I just don't want the flu.

lollipoppoop · December 2013

Yeah I find that strange but everyone is different

greenbeanqueen · December 2013

readyornot12345 said:

Lol I admit I'm a germ a phobe and its even worse now since so close to delivery. Sounds like I should just stay put and avoid crowds! Family are kissers as well as huggers so that's why I was worried mostly. I just don't want the flu.

Did you have a flu shot? I work around snotty nose kids all day who will hug without warning. If you have had a flu shot, you should be relatively safe. No it's not total protection, but you are already in the room with them...

Nechamamaslovsky · December 2013

If you don't want a hug, you don't want a hug. Who cares if people want to hug you and you don't want them to. You're prego! You get to be the queen. When they are creating a life inside them they can decline whatever they want. Until then I don't want to hear any complaints out of anybody. Give it them straight. But not to close up because then they'll be breathing their cooties in your face and that's no good either.

monkeybutt61612 · December 2013

Nechamamaslovsky said:
If you don't want a hug, you don't want a hug. Who cares if people want to hug you and you don't want them to. You're prego! You get to be the queen. When they are creating a life inside them they can decline whatever they want. Until then I don't want to hear any complaints out of anybody. Give it them straight. But not to close up because then they'll be breathing their cooties in your face and that's no good either.

Please tell me you're not serious.

thesportsgal · December 2013

Lol to Queen Prego. I wish I could be there when you walk into a room, asking people not to breathe on you.

peitri · December 2013

Nechamamaslovsky said:

If you don't want a hug, you don't want a hug. Who cares if people want to hug you and you don't want them to. You're prego! You get to be the queen. When they are creating a life inside them they can decline whatever they want. Until then I don't want to hear any complaints out of anybody. Give it them straight. But not to close up because then they'll be breathing their cooties in your face and that's no good either.

What? My pregnancy did not come with a tiara. This is weird advice.

thesportsgal · December 2013

peitri said:

Nechamamaslovsky said:

If you don't want a hug, you don't want a hug. Who cares if people want to hug you and you don't want them to. You're prego! You get to be the queen. When they are creating a life inside them they can decline whatever they want. Until then I don't want to hear any complaints out of anybody. Give it them straight. But not to close up because then they'll be breathing their cooties in your face and that's no good either.

What? My pregnancy did not come with a tiara. This is weird advice.

Weird advice plus we're still talking about the deadly complications from A HUG...

shoeflypie · December 2013

Plus, your immune system better be strong enough to handle these germs. If it isn't, maybe you're missing some key nutrients?

Nechamamaslovsky · December 2013

Was a bit tongue in cheek ladies. My point is, if you don't want people touching you, people shouldn't be touching you. It's not such a big thing. If you are slightly hormonal and a touch touchy about being touched so be it- life will go on for all involved.

Ansleyturner · December 2013

Nechamamaslovsky said:
Was a bit tongue in cheek ladies. My point is, if you don't want people touching you, people shouldn't be touching you. It's not such a big thing. If you are slightly hormonal and a touch touchy about being touched so be it- life will go on for all involved.

A synonym for touch mightve been nice here

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