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MissMandyD · November 2013

I had a wonderful Thanksgiving. We hosted my folks at our house and I made an amazing meal, we played board games, laughed, drank wine and watched my one of my favorite holiday movies.

And then I come back to my computer and mindlessly check out facebook for a few minutes and 1 out of the top 8 posts is NOT about babies or someone being pregnant. I know that none of my friends children or fertility has anything to do with my fertility but I was supposed to be 35 weeks pregnant right now and I try every day to not feel cheated and robbed of my sweet girls. Is it bad to just wish that people would shut the f*** up and not post about their babies? That is all.

Thank you for letting me vent. I hope you all had an amazing Thanksgiving.

Ineedmorecoffee · November 2013

I'm sorry for your loss, and I sympathize with you but I think you're being a little dramatic. I'm sure when you're pregnant again you will post on Facebook about your baby.

MissMandyD · November 2013

I hope when I am pregnant again I will feel like I can share the news on facebook but when you experience a loss at 20 weeks it is hard to imagine ever feeling secure enough to announce the news publicly without fear of something going wrong.

Valancyy · November 2013

If you don't like to see the posts, just hide them from your feed.

I do that for people who post too many annoying things, like those recipes that have become the newest thing to share.

kleigh926 · November 2013

I agree with the PP's. I'm very sorry for your loss, but it's unrealistic to think that your friends with kids aren't going to post things about them, especially around the holidays. When I was struggling with infertility and seeing an RE, it hurt to see posts about pregnancies and babies. But now that I have a baby I post things about her all the time. My whole life kind of revolves around her, so of course she's going to be on my Facebook. Sorry you had a bad end to your day though.

Valancyy · November 2013

fuzzylogic said:

I completely understand. A friend of mine is obsessed with her pregnancy, and has even gone so far as to host a contest guessing the "gender" of her baby. Those who guess correctly will be entered into a contest for a $10 Starbucks or iTunes gift card. Squeeeeee! She posted pictures of her parents eating their "gender reveal" cupcakes, but won't tell until Monday when the contest is over.

jenandtim828 · November 2013

I'm sorry that happened to you. It's not a personal attack but I know that when you've suffered something devastating things can easily seem that way. That's why I commenting, because I understand how it feels in way. My mom died 7 years ago when I was 25. Some times when my friends talk about shopping or holidays or anything with their mom it feels like my hearts been ripped out. I just have to remind myself that they don't deserve less happiness because I lost my own mom. And they aren't doing it on purpose. I agree with PP that you should either stay at from FB or hide the people who's post you can't stand. Because sometimes things are just too big for us, and that's ok. Good luck to you.

mamadomino · November 2013

fuzzylogic said:
I have had a really hard time not responding with wooly mammoth or some other ridiculous answer, mostly because I have a really hard time with the phrase "gender reveal." You're not revealing the gender, people!

Agreed. I find this obnoxiously annoying.

ladybuginl0ve · December 2013

I feel so bad for feeling the same way a lot of times. Every time I hear someone is pregnant I cringe inside a little. Especially when I hear it was an accident. I don't meant to feel that way, but it's something I can't control. I think it's totally normal.

catmagick · December 2013

fuzzylogic said:
I have had a really hard time not responding with wooly mammoth or some other ridiculous answer, mostly because I have a really hard time with the phrase "gender reveal." You're not revealing the gender, people!

ILY

BeeGirl2 · December 2013

PP are right that Facebook is the place to share your babies pics and such but with that being said I would feel the same way as you... It is a difficult time and it is hard to find peace in a situation like this. My sister lost her twin boys at 24 weeks and her due date just passed. We are all so heartbroken. She feels similar about Facebook and I tell her to avoid it but it is hard because you WANT to be ok with your friends happiness and it generates a lot of feeling when you are not ok.... I get it. Time does heal... I hate to say that because it bring little to no answers but it is true. Hang In There.... Thoughts and prayers for your angle babies

MissMandyD · December 2013

@BeeGirl2

Thank you. The conflicted emotions you describe are exactly right. I want and am supposed to be ok with other people's happiness and yet sometimes I am not. It creates a very complicated internal dialog. Thank you for understanding and I hope you and your sister are celebrating BFPs very soon.

Brandiwine14 · December 2013

I understand these emotions entirely. It is a conflict of emotions as MrsMandy said, because I know I should be happy for them and am happy for them because I know how happy being in their shoes would make me. But I really don't feel happy for them as a first emotion, only jealousy and disappointment that it is them and not me. I think it is a natural human emotion so I certainly cannot judge anyone for it, but we just have to make the best of the situation. I'm so sorry for your loss! I have never been pregnant, so I do not know how that must feel, but I can imagine and my heart hurts for you

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