Previous Thanksgivings?

zazu13 · November 2013

I am sitting here feeling so overwhelmingly happy and grateful and thinking what a contrast it is from the last few years of Thanksgivings. Of course I have many things in my life I have always had to be grateful for (career, family, and friends) but the past few years have been overshadowed by our failed cycles and sadness about IF. Three years ago we were reeling from our initial diagnosis of MFI. Two years ago we received news of IVF #2 resulting in a c/p the day before Thanksgiving. Last year we were between cycles, but switching RE's after 4 failures with RE #1 and doubtful about the future. Now I am sitting here 5 months pregnant with miracle twin girls and overwhelmed with Gratitude that we have passed that part of our journey. It was a rough few years, but worth every heartache.

How about you? How does this year compare for you?

katekat8721 · November 2013

Two Thanksgivings ago hubby and I were optimistic that cycle #6 would be our lucky one. I had busted out the thermometer and OPKs and we were ready to have a Christmas baby.

I spent last Thanksgiving upstairs in my mom's bathroom crying my eyes out because a family member made an insensitive IF comment. They didn't know we were having trouble TTC but you know how it is. It was a very hard time as I knew the next month I was turning yet another year older with no baby in my arms.

This year I am 10 weeks pregnant with twins and while I'm exhausted, nauseous, and feeling overall pretty crummy physically, I am so, so happy and thankful.

tryingyetagain · November 2013

I woke up this morning with similar feelings. Two years ago, we were pregnant and found out a few days before Tgiving there was no heartbeat. I had to wait a week and then go back the day after Tgiving to confirm, and then schedule a D&C. It was devastating. Last year on Tgiving, I laid in bed crying and crying thinking about that lost baby and our other losses and thinking it would never happen for us. We feel very blessed and thankful now.

jezebel57 · November 2013

holidays are always rough for me! i spent countless hours coming up with terrific plans of announcing my pregnancy for each and every holiday, that never happened. we started actively TTC in March of 2009 and by November 2009 had started to see an RE for a consult. November of 2010 we had 3 failed IUI's and I was trying to lose weight on my own to hopefully conceive because they said that would give a greater chance. November 2011 I had weight loss surgery 2 months prior to lose the weight to be able to conceive. November 2012 we had decided to see another RE because the weight loss didn't help and were starting to talk about IVF. Now November 2013 I sit here 5 weeks and 5 days before i get to meet my babies. Year after year of planning and it's finally here and I am so very thankful to be in this position right now. I truly thought I would never be pregnant.

ThereBeDragons · November 2013

5 years ago on thanksgiving I cheerfully announced to my parents that we were going to be TTC in the new year. Fully expecting it to be quick and easy. Thanks given all around, happiness abounds.

4 years ago at Thanksgiving, we were mildly frustrated that it hadn't happened yet- but assumed it would happen Soon. Still hopeful, still cheerful- thankful and happy.

3 years ago at Thanksgiving, we had a diagnosis and a treatment plan- but were still too shell shocked to actually follow through on IVF. Tired of TTC already but hopeful that IVF would bring us a baby. We took the holidays off of treatments to enjoy them before the inevitable baby arrived next year.

2 years ago at Thanksgiving, we had already been through 1 IVF, 2 FETs- and a loss. And we started to talk about what happens if it never happens. It wasn't a very thankful time. But again, we took the holidays off treatments with the express purpose of living life to it's fullest before baby arrived next year.

1 year ago at Thanksgiving, I was a total basket case- having had a loss at 17 weeks at the beginning of November. Just the sight of babies made me sob- and while my family respected that enough to warn me to stay home... DH's family had an unexpected happy healthy bouncing baby (family friend) and I.... just couldn't do it. We made our excuses as quickly as possible and I went home to cry. Not feeling thankful. At all.

This year... I'm pregnant. Again. I'm in my second trimester. I'm so darn scared of losing this baby too that we begged off Thanksgiving entirely because there might be sick children present or it might stress me out- and I'm living a life dedicated to being utterly calm and gestating peacefully. So I'm thankful- but also a little too world weary to feel confident that this is all going to turn out fine. As I told DH- we made it to Thanksgiving. Next objective- Christmas. After Christmas- 24 weeks. One step at a time.

74dragonfly · November 2013

2011 : I lost a baby at 8 weeks. At thanksgiving the baby would have been a month old. A friend gave birth that day.
2012: found out IUI #2 failed. Lost a baby earlier that year. At thanksgiving baby would have been two months. Really doubting if I would ever get another baby.
2013: Aaron was home in time for thanksgiving.

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