DH will not help pick a name for baby.

Bunni52 · November 2013

I know at 17 weeks that I haven't even reached the halfway mark quite yet, and still have quite a while to think about names, but it's just so frustrating to feel like I'm the only one who cares about names. My DH doesn't show any interest, at all.
I've asked him to think up names, look at baby name sites, make a list, but to no avail. I was hoping to pick one boy name, and one girl name, before finding out the sex. Well, we just found out we're having a boy, and he still doesn't seem to care.
For two and a half months, whenever I ask him if he's thought of any names, (even now, knowing it's a boy) all he says is "Jenny" in a weird way, like how Forest Gump says it. That got annoying after the first two weeks.
He's been great with all the doctors appointments, and seems to be excited that we're HAVING a baby, after 2 years of trying. He is, absolutely, no help in the name department, though. On top of that, I've spent hour upon hour putting together LISTS of names, and he hates them ALL.
Please, tell me I'm not the only one, and how you got your husband involved in the naming process.

hfooter · November 2013

Hmmm I say you have an advantage here. Name the baby what you want!

Man if I had all the rights to our future kids names they would definitely be different than what we compromised on.

RedInLove · November 2013

Maybe you've gone overkill with the topic of baby names? Two and a half months of talking names, that means you've been talking names since you found out you were pregnant. DH and I have barely discussed names, and we won't until we at least know what we're having. I'd give it a few weeks, and then maybe toss a name or two his way.

KKcowgirl · November 2013

I think u get naming rights!

rcbuko · November 2013

This has been my husband for all three of my kids and now with this fourth baby. He is an awesome father and is very involved once they are born but hasn't offered even one name during all of my pregnancies. He vetoes a lot but offers none. I basically keep offering up names until he approves one. The advantage is that I'm on,y offering names that I like so the baby still winds up being called something I like. It is frustrating for sure but works out in the end.

erind0213 · November 2013

DH and I make it a point not to worry about names till after we know the sex. We may make suggestions prior, but we don't get serious or worried about it till we know what we are having, and feel there is no sense in causing stress and coming up with a boy and girl name when you are only going to be using 1 of them.

So while you want a name, I would give him till after your A/S and/or you know the sex and go from there. Perhaps he will show more interest in it then.

KariB509 · November 2013

hfooter said:

Hmmm I say you have an advantage here. Name the baby what you want! Man if I had all the rights to our future kids names they would definitely be different than what we compromised on.

This is exactly what I was going to say.

fsumom · November 2013

My DH didn't really help too much with naming DD 1. I had a name picked out and then at 32w he let me know he didn't like it so then I mentioned another first name I really liked and he was on board. He did help with choosing her middle name. I haven't really discussed many names with Dh with this LO yet as I want to wait until we find out what we're having first. The names I have mentioned, however, Dh has been much more vocal than the 1st time around. He will certainly let me know if he doesn't like the name.

momthatlifts · November 2013

My husband doesn't like any names. And then I ask him to tell me ones he does like and he doesn't even know, we decided on one and then he changed his mind. Just take it to your advantage and pick the name yourself.

jodyen · November 2013

I agree with fusmom! Pick a name you like, let him know it and just in case have 2 or 3 backup names...so guys are really into the naming thing and some are not, I don't think that means he not as execited or happy as u are about the baby but to him the name might not be as important then what is going thru his head right now, he prob thinking of how nervous he is about the baby..Congrats btw, especially after 2 yrs of trying! Gl hope this all helps

Sisimama10 · December 2013

Oh my gosh I am crying I am laughing so hard picturing your DH saying that.

I know exactly how annoying and frustrating that is. My SO is doing the EXACT same thing except he has only come up with the name Pandito. I'm like wtf umm no. He says it every day and it's to the point where I get so angry. No advice to you - just know it's not just you.

tbmadeamistake · December 2013

DH was the same with C! I would just randomly shout out names as I thought of them. As I had my fave, and he said if we couldn't think of anything else we'd go with it, I just started to suggest names that I knew he'd like less than C's name. Eventually he came around and agreed

. This one was pretty easy (we have a name of each sex already!) because the boy's name was leftover from last time and the girl's name sort of grew out of the boy's name (Charles or Charlotte, so we get a Charlie). Give him time, and once you have a sort of agreement on a name you like, just start suggesting worse names. He'll come around!

Erica314 · December 2013

My fiance is obsessed with the name Kasper, and will absolutely not drop it and it is SO annoying. Even though we have a couple of boy names that we both adore and agree on he still refers to my blump as "Little Kasper."

This is what ended up working for us (so far.) I literally went on babynames.com and went through all of the boys names over a couple of weeks and 'favorited' all of the ones I liked. I had a list of roughly 50 or 60. Then we sat down together and went through it and I deleted all of them that he vetoed. We then had two left!

If I were you, I would make a decently sized list of names over the next month or two that you like and say, "I'm going to pick a name with or without your help. These are the options that I like, so choose your top three to five from this list and I will pick one of them. Or, if you don't want to be a part of it I will just pick one myself."

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