My DH is driving me nuts about the baby bathing or showering with my sisters and mother he thinks only parents should do it. I grew up in a family of all girls to this day we shower and bath together so I don't think anything is wrong with it he grew up with all boys is this why he thinks its strange? What do you think how do I explain to him ?
Natural cycle Dec 2010 BFP M/C 6 1/2 Weeks, D&E Jan 2011 1 Clomid/Ovidrel BFN May 2011 Natural cycle Aug 2011 BFP M/C 4 Weeks 1 IUI Sept 2011 BFP M/c 7 weeks Provera Dec 2011 BFP M/C 3 Weeks
DQ ALPHA HLA MATCH, High NK Cells Diagnosed Dec 2011 IVF March 2012 BFP m/c 4weeks 5 days (IL, Prednisone) IVF#2w/DS July 2012 MEGA FAILURE BFN (IL, Dexamethasone) Diagnosed No real HLA Match, DQ Beta Triad, High TNF, Low NK Cells Oct 2012 Natural Cycle m/c 4wks (Lovenox, Prednisone) Went to Beer Center- high tnf, low lad, implantation failure
Nov/Dec 2012 LIT Treatment
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I probably would also have an issue with DS bathing with anyone other than DH or me. And, in all honesty, we wear bathing suits whenever we do it. I grew up in a family of all girls, but never bathed with my sisters (they were already in late elementary school and past the bathing together stage and I can't even remember a time when I would have seen them without clothes). I'd be okay with the boys bathing with preschool aged relatives, but that's about it. But, you should know that I worked in foster care for a LONG time and I've seen too many "innocent" bath time stories to be comfortable with adult or older child nudity and my boys. My SIL thinks I am a little paranoid (and she is probably right), but that's what works for us.
TTC in 2009, Dx: Unexplained IF
Three TI cycles (BFP...miscarriage), five IUI attempts and 2.5 IVF cycles later...BFP!!
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Our perfect baby boys were born at 36w1d!!
I had friends that were twins that continued to shower together in high school. But then it became uncomfortable for them. I have to say I also wouldn't be comfortable having my LO bathing with anyone over the age of about 7 except DH or myself. I recognize every family has different values but based on that I can see where your DH is coming from.
I grew up with 2 sisters and once we got past the whole bathing part, we never showered together. So I can see where your DH is coming from. We don't bathe with DS, but if we did, that's as far as it would go. We'd be the only adults to bathe with him.
Honestly, I agree with your dh. I do think it is a very personal decision though. No matter what I think this is one of those situations when if your dh is not ok with it I think you have to respect his wishes.
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2 After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
I think it's fine for small children who are siblings to bathe together and parents with their children under 3, but that's all I would be comfortable with.
I think it's fine for small children who are siblings to bathe together and parents with their children under 3, but that's all I would be comfortable with.
This exactly for me too. But that's how I was raised so I'm sure that has something to do with why I feel that way.
Re: Bathing with adults
12dp5dt: 765; 15dp5dt: 1979; 17dp5dt: 3379...TWINS!!!!!
Our perfect baby boys were born at 36w1d!!
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Trying for #1 since May 2010 l DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011
IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks
November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!
Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26
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Trying for #2
FET #1 - October '13 - c/p l FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled l FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN
~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~
Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14 **TEAM GREEN!**
Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14
Unexplained Infertility
After two Clomid cycles, three injectable IUI cycles, two IVFs, two miscarriages, and one lap surgery, IVF #2 has brought us our little boy!
TTC #2
After months of being postponed or cancelled, FET #1.3 (Natural FET) brought us twin girls!
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