So since I have been having some pretty consistent pre-e issues it looks like I will be induced next week at 39 weeks. Well my doctor starts them at night and babies are normally born the next day. I can pick a day as long as it's after Thursday (when I turn 39 weeks). DH and his family want me to do Friday 12/6. This is where the weird part comes in. Last year on 12/7 my BIL passed away. He had very sever down syndrome and spina bifida. He was 26 years old and for someone in his condition that was an amazing life to get and he was very loved. He basically was the reason my MIL got out of bed every day. She was his care taker his whole life and gave up everything to be there for him. She was basically a zombie until we told her that we were having a baby and she would get to be her care taker while we work. Basically LO has been what has gotten her though this.
They think it would be a nice way to "change the meaning of that day." My DH has never lost someone close to him prior to this. It's been 12 years since my grandpa (who was my "father figure" and we were extremely close) died but October 19th still hits me every year. I don't want to make LO's birthday about her uncles death. But how do I say that to a grieving mother and 3 people who lost their brother?
I don't know if I am just being dramatic thinking about how that would make me feel if I was in his moms place and lost my child that was my whole life for 26 years or if it really is a bad idea. What would you do?
Mom+Dad+Josie+May 2015=2 under 2!!!!