UNCOMFORTABLE!

ForevAAROSE · November 2013

I hate to complain after going thru IVF, and now being PG. But gosh, everyone should be able to vent.

I am so uncomfortable omg! I am huge. LO is moving all in my ribs, it hurts! I have been suffering from hip pains so badly lately. My hips feel like someone broke them. I'm still working fulltime and can't flippin wait to go out.

I feel like dh isn't being as sensitive as I need him to be. I need him to hold me, tell me all kinds of lovely things in my ear, cuddle, rub the belly. And all he's been doing is falling asleep on the couch. And I've been asking him to lay with me in bed, and he says I fall asleep way too early (which is true, I'm usually asleep by 8-9pm, if not ealier). But I just want to be held.

It took so much for me to get out of bed this morning, I cried all morning, and was an hour late to work. I cancelled xmas eve at my place and thankfully my brother took over for me.

Ugh. I don't wanna cook anymore, I don't wanna do anything. 8 more weeks its such a struggle.

PhillyJ33 · November 2013

Ugh- so sorry that you are uncomfortable! Vent away- that's what we are here for!
I hope the week gets better for you!

rcnavywife · November 2013

I'm sorry you're so uncomfortable. I'm totally with you! You're getting so close now, you can do it!

ForevAAROSE · November 2013

Thanks ladies. It's so bittersweet. I am totally just wanting to stay home in bed all day long and just let her move around at her own will, and not make me uncomfortable.

MJC1116 · November 2013

I followed this blog about a gal struggling with infertility and when she finally got pregnant, she was candidly talking about her first trimester struggles. She said something that really stuck with me, "Complaining about pregnancy symptoms is not wishing the pregnancy away. It's just struggling with the difficult changes to our bodies."

That last trimester is tough. I remember feeling so exhausted and uncomfortable at the end. DD's kneecap was lodged in my rib cage. The cute little kicks started to really hurt and I'd question the status of my internal organs. You feel so close, but still so far. Talk with your DH and tell him what you need from him now. Maybe have him hold you on the couch?

And vent away!! I'm sure we've all been there or will be there at some point. In the meantime, go pamper yourself in some way.

katekat8721 · November 2013

You are human, and pregnancy is hard, complain away babe!

I've found with husbands, sometimes it's best to clearly state exactly what you need from them. Whether it changes in five minutes is another thing, but at the moment when you needs hugs and love, tell him. It's ok to need some extra loving right now, you have a lot going on and you're probably exhausted.

(((hugs))))

Keephope2012 · November 2013

Sorry to hear you are so umcomfortsble but I agree with pps, growing a baby is hard work! I also think it would be helpful to let DH know what you need. If he's open to it, maybe just read some snippets from books or websites about what is going on for you (backache, fatigue, frequently needing to pee, etc). I feel like after my DH talked to a friend about his wife's pregnancy he was extra supportive of me after that- even volunteered to vacuum! Hang in there and good luck!

ForevAAROSE · November 2013

MJC1116 said:
I followed this blog about a gal struggling with infertility and when she finally got pregnant, she was candidly talking about her first trimester struggles. She said something that really stuck with me, "Complaining about pregnancy symptoms is not wishing the pregnancy away. It's just struggling with the difficult changes to our bodies."

That last trimester is tough. I remember feeling so exhausted and uncomfortable at the end. DD's kneecap was lodged in my rib cage. The cute little kicks started to really hurt and I'd question the status of my internal organs. You feel so close, but still so far. Talk with your DH and tell him what you need from him now. Maybe have him hold you on the couch?

And vent away!! I'm sure we've all been there or will be there at some point. In the meantime, go pamper yourself in some way.

I love that! I'm not regretting my PG by any means at all, just hard. I get seriously scared because everyone is saying "it gets worse" or "wait till the 9th month" and its truly scaring me. I'm terrified because I feel so crappy now idk what's near. I feel so close but so far. 8 weeks so close but when you're so uncomfy its so damn far.

I spoke with dh when I got home from wwork, he said he will work on it. Hes been working two jobs, and trying to deal with my emotional ass too so he's overwhelmed but I need him to sacrifice. Come to bed with me, is that really too much to ask? Ugh

jezebel57 · November 2013

ugh! i hate the "it's only going to get worse". DH says that to me all the time.

i'm sorry you are struggling. and i hate that we feel guilty for complaining just because of how we got here. pregnancy is hard!!!!! i keep saying that no one told me about all this stuff! i was just concentrating on getting pregnant for so long i didn't stop and think what pregnancy, birth and parenthood was going to be like!

i agree with PP that giving men specifics does help. DH can't read my mind and i've tried to stop expecting him too, because then i get resentful and angry and he doesn't know why.

hang in there lady, almost there!!

ForevAAROSE · November 2013

Thanks ladies. Reading all the responses makes me cry (hormonal). My ankles are so swollen they look insane. I got great news, my 3 hr gtt came in, and I'm safe!! So with that said, I'm getting in a bubble bath and to bed I go. Thanks again, you ladies are so amazing. Promise to stick around after we have our LOs!!!

MJC1116 · November 2013

I shoved it back in people's faces when they told me "it'll only get worse" by telling them that my dd slept through the night at 5 weeks. OK so maybe that was luck, but it still felt good afterwards when they kept insisting I'd be sleep deprived.

It doesn't get worse...it gets better. You are days closer to your baby and once she is here, all those sacrifices are worth it!!

Enjoy your bath. Go tell you H to paint your toes

Edit: mobile bumping = terrible auto correct

mlamping · November 2013

I hear you. I feel like she is in my ribs all day. I have a two year old to take care, which is hard when 32 weeks pregnant. Very hard. I ache and most days just want her out. I will make it, but I hear you for sure.

ForevAAROSE · November 2013

mlamping said:
I hear you. I feel like she is in my ribs all day. I have a two year old to take care, which is hard when 32 weeks pregnant. Very hard. I ache and most days just want her out. I will make it, but I hear you for sure.

Ahhhh. Bless your soul. Not sure if I can deal with a two yr old and a baby in my ribs. Hang in there.

tryingyetagain · November 2013

I agree with everything PPs said. Pregnancy is not comfortable, especially in the third trimester, and you have every right to vent. Don't feel bad, especially here with ladies who get it! That's great news about your GTT... one less thing to worry about!

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