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Hello! Re-intro & Adoption Story
Hello! I thought I should re-intro since it's been a few months since I've posted on here (and even then I wasn't very active). While I wanted to be more involved with the community on here, I found it easier during our wait to try and stay busy and keep my mind on anything other than how long we were waiting.
My husband and I are adopting a baby boy who was born one month ago! We first got the call about the match over labor day weekend, so our life has changed pretty quickly and we couldn't be happier. This is our first adoption and our first match too. We had only been waiting about 6 months from the time our profile was active, so we feel very blessed with everything. We have an open adoption with his birthmother and were able to meet her a few times before he was born because she lives nearby. She asked us to be at the hospital after the birth and to share care during her stay. The hospital staff was unbelievably great for the 3 days we were there and we were even given a private room on the same hall so it was easy to bring the baby back and forth between our room and his birthmom's. It was totally unexpected, but also the most amazing experience to be able to meet all of his extended birth family and friends while we were at the hospital. Since coming home we have been emailing with his birth mom a few times a week and hope that she will want to meet up when/if she feels ready to see us again. I feel so much respect for her and also wish there was more we could do for her to help her through this time.
We've been home for over 4 weeks with the baby and still aren't sure about when our final court date will be. Our agency hasn't been very good with checking in on us and we feel left in the dark about why things aren't progressing. We have had one in-home meeting with our social worker but that was just to see how we were doing and weren't given have any news on the TPR court date. It sounds like they are still trying to contact the birthfather but have no idea where he is living or working now and he won't return calls or emails. He had said that he was ok with the adoption plan and has had nothing more to do with the birthmother during the pregnancy. We are really hoping that things get resolved soon so we can feel more settled as a family at home. Other than this (very major thing!) looming over us, we have been loving being new parents and feel so lucky to get be be a part of this little guy's life.
My husband and I are adopting a baby boy who was born one month ago! We first got the call about the match over labor day weekend, so our life has changed pretty quickly and we couldn't be happier. This is our first adoption and our first match too. We had only been waiting about 6 months from the time our profile was active, so we feel very blessed with everything. We have an open adoption with his birthmother and were able to meet her a few times before he was born because she lives nearby. She asked us to be at the hospital after the birth and to share care during her stay. The hospital staff was unbelievably great for the 3 days we were there and we were even given a private room on the same hall so it was easy to bring the baby back and forth between our room and his birthmom's. It was totally unexpected, but also the most amazing experience to be able to meet all of his extended birth family and friends while we were at the hospital. Since coming home we have been emailing with his birth mom a few times a week and hope that she will want to meet up when/if she feels ready to see us again. I feel so much respect for her and also wish there was more we could do for her to help her through this time.
We've been home for over 4 weeks with the baby and still aren't sure about when our final court date will be. Our agency hasn't been very good with checking in on us and we feel left in the dark about why things aren't progressing. We have had one in-home meeting with our social worker but that was just to see how we were doing and weren't given have any news on the TPR court date. It sounds like they are still trying to contact the birthfather but have no idea where he is living or working now and he won't return calls or emails. He had said that he was ok with the adoption plan and has had nothing more to do with the birthmother during the pregnancy. We are really hoping that things get resolved soon so we can feel more settled as a family at home. Other than this (very major thing!) looming over us, we have been loving being new parents and feel so lucky to get be be a part of this little guy's life.
TTC #1 9/11-12/12, 9/12 Dx: Hypothyroid + DOR (AMH .76), IUI #1 & #2 BFN's
1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed 5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed 5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!
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Re: Hello! Re-intro & Adoption Story
Welcome back!
Your story sounds somewhat like ours, at least from the birthfather's perspective. We adopted in a state that is very sensitive to birthfather rights, so TPR took a while. Our lawyer ended up using an abandonment clause in state law to get TPR on DD's birthfather, but he still had to be served. Quite the adventure, but it was all finalized after 7 months.
Congrats on your new baby and your relationship with his birthmom and her family
Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.
*May Siggy Challenge - Parenting Fails*
We are having our first post-placement meeting with our son's birthmom tonight and I am nervous and excited! It will be the first time she's visited our house, so I really hope our house is what she had imagined it to be and she is happy knowing her son is here with us. Our place hasn't been this clean since our first homestudy visit with our social worker
1/13 Decided to pursue DIA, 4/13 Home study Approved 9/13 Matched!
10/13 DS home with us! 2/14 TPR completed 5/14 ADOPTION IS FINAL!
3/14 Surprise BFP 11/14 DD is here!