Update

mrshudson618 · November 2013

My midwife told me to go to the ER this morning, so we could have a definitive answer sooner. After five hours, blood and urine tests, external and vaginal ultrasounds, we did not have a definitive answer. My hormone levels were great. The ultrasound showed a baby still there but no heartbeat, but the Dr. said it was quite possible that it was early enough that they just couldn't see it. The Dr. was "worried but optimistic". We were sent home with instructions to get new blood work and another ultrasound in 3-5 days. I had assumed that we had already lost it and a little bit of hope was actually harder to hear, and I cried a little at that.

But then on the way home I started cramping a little and could tell I was bleeding more. I stopped at my church on the way home because I knew my mom was there in the adoration chapel, and when I stopped in the restroom I passed a large clump and more blood. I found my mom and told her there in the chapel and we cried together for a while. I kept bleeding and passed another clot, so DH called the Dr who treated me at the ER to see if we should come back as the paper said, but he said to just go home and take it easy and as long as the bleeding didn't get worse we should just let nature take its course. It has eased up, so I guess I will just take it easy here at home for a few days and call my midwife for a follow up.

Thanks for all the T&Ps. It was nice to know there were people there for me, since no one IRL knew yet. My mom told my sisters and DH told his parents, but a couple of friends texted me tonight, and honestly, I just pretended I didn't get the text because I didn't feel like getting into why I didn't want to hang out. I will tomorrow after some rest.

Thanks again- love you guys.

ETA- I was just estimating my due date, but found out after the ultrasound that it would have been July 6, DS's EDD was July 5. kinda cool.

KMRR86 · November 2013

J13 sends you love

[Deleted User] · November 2013

I'm so sorry

I've been thinking about you all day. We love you, take it easy.

jackson290721 · November 2013

So sorry. Sending you good thoughts! Giant hugs.

mullinstherapy · November 2013

One of the hardest things you will go thru. No matter what anyone says. Take as best care of yourself right now and take as much you time as you need for you.

roashem2008 · November 2013

>:D< thoughts, prayers, and hugs. So sorry! Hope you are able to get some rest tonight.

yelyah4826 · November 2013

My thoughts are with you and your family- get some rest

KTZ17 · November 2013

So sorry you're going through this. Ts, Ps, & hugs.

kaylakim · November 2013

Thoughts and hugs for you! So sorry you're going through all this and that you didn't get a definitive answer. Keep us posted hon!

ceechie · November 2013

Take care of yourself. It's hard and scary not knowing what's going on with your body. Happy your drs are watching out for you.
Eta: @ramy3695 same thing happened to a girlfriend. Didn't really want to say too much here, except give support. But my friend thought she was m/c and later went on to find triplets. Good luck.