Tough decisions

chrissynena · November 2013

So awhile back (August) we put down a deposit to do our FET in February. In October we decided to try IUI, since my body is now cooperating (fail). DH and I talked about pushing back our FET until like May and trying IUI until then to see what would happen. Sigh I already am feeling impatient. I don't want to go thru 6 more failed iui's. We only have about a 10% chance. Thoughts??

pettycrocker · November 2013

I feel you. That was the reason I decided to just go ahead with the IVF. They gave us 10% with the IUI- I had an amazing IUI, 4 mature eggs, and a stellar sperm sample that failed. I figured if it was that effing amazing and still didn't work, there was really no point in trying again.

You already know what you have to go through for IVF, but I think it's slightly less taxing on you for a FET, right? I mean less than 9 gagillion shots? lol Maybe only 8 gagillion?

Do you have no desire left to try another IUI? By the time we tried IUI, we already had 19 amazing TI cycles, 4 of which were Clomid cycles, so this also came into play when making my decision. We felt like we were at the end of our rope.

It's a lot to think about. You have to really do some soul searching and have those heart to hearts with your H and hopefully you can come to a decision you both feel good about!

Jen071407 · November 2013

Is cost a factor? If not I'd probably vote for ivf. I feel like each IUI cycle is harder and harder emotionally.

chrissynena · November 2013

Well before we did IVF, we did about 17 cycles of ttc. About 10 of those were with clomid

I am not opposed to trying iui again, but I am not sure emotionally if I can do it over and over with no success. I think it's because we had success with IVF, so going back to the disappointment is really hard. Does that make me sense? Ugh

As far as cost goes, with iui our insurance pays for about 75% of it. Our iui last month cost us about $150. Insurance does not pay anything IVF related, so we were completely OOP when we did IVF and also when we do FET. FET will cost about $2400.

MH is on board for whatever I want to do.

pettycrocker · November 2013

chrissynena said:

As far as cost goes, with iui our insurance pays for about 75% of it. Our iui last month cost us about $150. Insurance does not pay anything IVF related, so we were completely OOP when we did IVF and also when we do FET. FET will cost about $2400.

MH is on board for whatever I want to do.

Well this is a big deal too. If I had to make the decision with these numbers, I think I would definitely try a few IUI cycles- and then maybe you can bank that $2400 for the future, you know?

The Dr does seem hopeful about the IUIs in your case, right? I think I remember you mentioning that you just recently found out that you are Oing on your own, so that is also something to take into account.

So many factors to consider!

chrissynena · November 2013

Yes. Oing for the first time ever. Everything sound logical in trying more iui's. I guess I should just be patient. I also feel lucky we do have some frozen, just in case we need them.

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