10 weeks and still haven't told family. When did you??

TUGOsQueen · November 2013

Today my husband joined me for our first u/s for our 4th child. With the holidays approaching, we're trying to figure out if and how to tell our parents. No clue how they will react. I started to tell my mom and sister this weekend but stopped short thinking that they would spread the joy (or make snarky remarks behind our back) the next week of holiday family events. I kind of like our little secret. just my husband and 2 of my closet friends know.

But, i feel guilty I haven't at least told my sister and my mom. I think if I wait too long they will be annoyed I didn't tell them. but...

When did you tell your family about a 3rd or 4th or more baby coming???

QOTR · November 2013

I'll be 15 weeks tomorrow and we're telling family on Thursday & Friday when we gather for Thanksgiving.

Krisd6 · November 2013

I told my parents and sister just this past weekend. We are going to tell the rest of our family on thanksgiving. I'll be 14 weeks.

marleybarne · November 2013

I was about nine weeks. But I know plenty of people who waited until up to 15-20. It's your business...but I know what you mean about wondering what people will say. I worried that my husband's family would think we were a. too old and b. that we already had enough kids! But they were thrilled. Good luck!

jenwashington · November 2013

I think I'm 8 weeks today but first appt isn't until next Wed. I'm dying to tell someone (DH only knows) but am nervous until I at least hear the heartbeat to say anything and even then, I'd like to get past the nuchal and other screens before I'll really feel comfortable. I don't like keeping this from my family, especially my girls who are both teenagers and have already asked if I'm pregnant yet since they want me to have a baby and I am lying to them by saying not yet. These next weeks will be tough. Best of luck to everyone else struggling with sharing their news.

kelley72 · November 2013

Congratulations first off! I told my boys at 8 wks / I was soooo icky and tired I needed to explain more than just I'm tired and sick. I told my mom at 10 wks. We had been to dr already and had an ultrasound with a heartbeat and a due date so I felt good about sharing the news with them. My mom wasn't as enthusiastic as I wanted but she very quickly warmed up. I hope your family surprises you with their support but no matter what Congrats! Have a wonderful pregnancy!

zetaqueen551 · November 2013

Congratulations! I've also been having this debate - I had to tell my mother and 1 sister because they were harassing me about my sister's wedding plans, and all I could say was "we'll see how things work out" because I am due 2 weeks before hand. If this little peanut is anything my first, it might stay in until 42 weeks!!

We are waiting until the results of testing to tell our families, and I should be about 14 weeks at that point.

SurpriseAt39 · December 2013

Hey...

I don't come here often, but thought this one would be funny to share.

I'm 40 years old, third baby, and 24+ weeks pregnant.

Only my DH, DD, and sister know.

We haven't told any parents, friends, relatives or employers/employees yet.

Trying to save it til Christmas.

No one has to tell early, and we didn't want to tel MIL and FIL too early because they treated me like an invalid last time. It got tiring quickly. Secret for us until I can't hide it anymore.

quiana55 · December 2013

I told my mom at 12 weeks. I had planned to wait until Christmas, but she start calling me fat!! lol...

TUGOsQueen · December 2013

I finally told them and get the negative reaction as expected. Old people think they can say what they want. Oh well, even though it was hurtful, we're happy with our decision to have another! Glad we waited to tell as long as we did.

QOTR · December 2013

I'm sorry they weren't more supportive.

akflutterby · January 2014

I waited until about 13 weeks for my parents and my kids to get the news. They were all really surprised (my youngest is 9), and my dad was definitely not supportive, but we wanted to wait until we were out of that danger zone before we broke the news and made it real. Now we're at 27w and everyone is doing really well with the news.

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