Setting up family visits

Re: Setting up family visits

• Lisadi member

  November 2013

  Ha! I'm a Stm and said Mil also shared an article with me that sounded helpful. (How to soothe baby with pressure points on feet. Ds2 is not fussy at all.)
  I just had Ds2 this past Sat. I still plan on hanging out in my mesh panties and sweats for just a little bit longer.
  But, now I have to be the bad guy and politely tell Mil to give me more of a break- as I never know yet what time Lo might decide to nap. I'll have to remind them that I was up all night not long before giving birth when Ds1 had a fever from strep throat.

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• mamato3girls member

  November 2013

  We don't really discuss it as much as one of us saying "do we have plans on xyz day?" and then "Ok, I think my mom (dad, sister brother etc) are coming over for a bit." Neither of us really mind a bit of company here and there but I don't pass my newborns around so most of our family has learned by now if they come over they MAY get to hold baby for a few minutes but more than likely they are just coming over to look at baby and watch me nurse.  My MIL will usually bring some sort of meal over when she comes which is helpful and she pays a lot of extra attention to our older girls which is helpful with a new baby as well.

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• olga1311 member

  November 2013

  M parents live on the same street as is so my mom/dad are over almost daily. I don't mind. I welcome the company. Also I am glad for a chance to get a little break and have someone else change/hold LO. My in laws live in another state so we typically see them once or twice a year

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• PB102012 member

  November 2013

  My Mom rides the train up to see us at least twice a month, she loves 3 hours away. She helps, cooks, and loves to watch LO and sending DH and I on dates by ourselves. We have had other family visitors but we will only have one couple/person at a time because that's all the room we have (we have a guest room). We made the mistake of having four people over one time (2 couples). I didn't have anywhere to go when LO was up for a while at night because people were on our couch. Never again.

   

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• kcs7 member

  November 2013

  It's left up to me to make invites ir dh asks first, always. (Mil lives 2 mins away and so does my mom)
  My mom is over 4-5 times a week. She helps a ton though and is very non pushy.
  Mil does not get to come over but about once every week and a half. When she comes it means younger 12yo sil and sometimes also step fil are also coming. They do not help. Only hold lo and shove paci in his mouth if he cries. Wont change diapers. Step fil asked what ge could help with once so I asked him one thing. Which he didn't do jst joked about it instead. Um thanks.
  So they do not get invited as much and dh gets it. They are not as bad as that sounds. Ok maybe so. But they are good people. But difference of them being visitors vs my mom who is a helper makes the difference of how often they come over.

  
  

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• slh6363 member

  November 2013

  No we don't check with each other beside making sure we have no other plans. DH works late a few nights a week so my mom comes up about once a week to keep me company and visit DS. MIL also likes to see DS at least once a week so usually comes over on Saturdays and stays a few hours. She pretty much holds him the whole time, I don't mind, it actually helps and gives us a chance to do some laundry etc.

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