How long did you wait out a missed m/c?

AnneUCSB · December 2008

I had a missed m/c (or blighted ovum) discovered at an ultrasound Wednesday morning. ?I was 6 wks, 3 days pg and only a gestational sac measuring 4 wks, 4 days was found. ?OB is recommending the "wait it out" method until I m/c naturally, but this wait is horrible. ?Yesterday was my birthday, today is a family Christmas celebration, tomorrow Hanukah with DH's family, then Christmas Eve and Christmas- there is so much going on. Not knowing when this is going to happen is horrible. ?

Just looking to see what your experiences have been with the "wait it out" method... How long did it take from discovery of missed m/c until the actual m/c occurred? ?Thanks, ladies.?

Anna&Matt · December 2008

We had the same issue and it was diagnosed on Monday. We were given the option between waiting it out and having a d&e. We ultimately went with the d&e since we were told it could take weeks or even a month or more. But we were further along and I have a history of bleeding issues so our situation was a little different. ::hugs and good luck::

luckyangel · December 2008

I was diagnosed on Monday Nov. 24th. My doc was out of the country so the doc I saw advised that I wait it out at least until my doc was back. By thursday of that week I was spotting pretty well...by Friday afternoon was bleeding pretty steadily-like AF...by Sunday I was in excruciating pain and bleeding very heavily. I passed the mucus plug Sunday night and alot of big big clots sunday night. Come to find out on Monday the 1st, My body was trying to open my cervix to let the sac & baby pass but it had jammed up so I was having all out contractions-which was why I was in so much pain. The longer it was stuck, the harder my body contracted trying to open the cervix, and the worse the pain got.

I had my d&c on Monday the 1st of Dec.

NOW that being said-what happened to me isnt normal. Also, I was supposed to be at 10 weeks but measuring at 7 1/2 so it was further along than you. The cramps will probably start in and get worse as you go, the bleeding will probably be heavy. If you really cant handle it or just feel like its too much, call your doc and tell them. I know when you arent as far along they like to try to do natural but if its too much its too much for you and they need to respect that I think.

I would at least call and talk to your doc today or monday. Explain your situation. After the d&c was over, I was a space case from the anesthesia for 24 hours but once that wore off I was back to normal (as much as possible). If this happens again to me, I will go d&c right away and not screw around like I did. I dont even want to deal with that again.

On the other hand...despite the pain, it was kind of good emotionally to have a week to come to grips with the reality of the situation before having my little one leave my body.

Talk to your doc. It cant hurt to try. Good luck sweety.

equestrian@heart · December 2008

my blighted ovum was discovered a little over two weeks before I ended up having a D&C. I was about 7weeks when it was discovered, dr. had me come back at 8w just to confirm. At that point, my body was still not showing ANY signs of recognizing that it was not a healthy pregnancy - the sac was continuing to grow and measured on track with how far along I should have been. I waited one more week to see if my body would take care of it and then had a D&C a few days past the 9 week mark. Waiting was difficult, but in hindsight I have some comfort knowing that we had that time to get used to the idea of surgery (I'm a wimp when it comes to that stuff). This type of surgery is traumatic as it is (emotionally... not so much physically), so I needed the extra time to prepare myself.

I hope either happens naturally very soon or you are able to schedule the procedure with your dr. - did he say how long he wants you to "wait it out?"

GL to you!

viollett99 · December 2008

My RE said it could take 6-8 weeks for bleeding to start. They found my blighted ovum at 6 weeks and I went with the d&e 3 weeks later, the wait and recurring U./S were horrible

jam1111 · December 2008

Well, w/ my 1st I was about 9 1/2 weeks but the baby I think measured 6 ish. I ended up miscarrying naturally (and cancelled the D & C) b/c it happened before the surgery. I was already spotting.

W/ this one, I had no spotting and didn't want to wait weeks for it to come naturally (and who knows where I'd be when it started). I opted for the D & C and I think it was the right choice. I wrote a post about my 'play by play' experience yesterday. Sorry...the waiting is so hard!

azureanemone · December 2008

i just found out wednesday i had a missed miscarriage (i was at 12 weeks, baby measured 9 1/2). there was not even any discussion of me waiting it out - they scheduled me asap for a d&c - i got in the next day.

personally, the fact that i carried it around for nearly three weeks as it was is unbearable. there is no way i could have knowingly carried it any longer and waited for it to happen naturally. i would not have been able to function knowing that that was coming.

i'm so sorry you're going through this.

lnle · December 2008

azureanemone:
i just found out wednesday i had a missed miscarriage (i was at 12 weeks, baby measured 9 1/2). there was not even any discussion of me waiting it out - they scheduled me asap for a d&c - i got in the next day.

personally, the fact that i carried it around for nearly three weeks as it was is unbearable. there is no way i could have knowingly carried it any longer and waited for it to happen naturally. i would not have been able to function knowing that that was coming.

i'm so sorry you're going through this.

just wanted to say that I felt similarly to this poster. My m/c was discovered at 8 weeks, but the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. My doctor wanted me to wait a week or so before doing the D&C, but due to scheduling issues I got in 4 days after the 2nd ultrasound to confirm no heartbeat. I had a tiny bit of spotting before the procedure but the doctor still let me go ahead with it. I just wanted it over, without any more torture from waiting.

good luck with whatever you're able to do. ((hugs))

adreamisawishyourheartmakes · December 2008

i was further along than you, my missed m/c was discovered at 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing around 8.5 weeks. My dr gave me the option of waiting it out or scheduling a d&c. Right after I spoke to him, I started to spot and for a day i thought maybe i would let it unfold naturally, but decided to have the d&c instead a day later after realizing that having it occur naturally would be too hard for me emotionally. So technically I waited it out 2 days after discovering, but I had been carrying the baby for at least 3 weeks after it had stopped growing and I never had any spotting or cramping during that time. Good luck.

adreamisawishyourheartmakes · December 2008

ps --- i am so so sorry for your loss. mine was discovered just the day before yours.

maramarrie · December 2008

We knew the baby was dying before it actually did. At 7w1d we had a fetal pole, measured 6w1d, and h/r of 100. At 7w5d it was still alive, but just barely (still measured only 6w1d and h/r of 86). We didn't have another u/s until 9w when it was confirmed that it died - still measured around 6w. It probably died around 8w but we didn't know until the u/s a week later.?

The doc told us to wait 2 weeks from the day we confirmed it for the bleeding to start. Bleeding started just shy of 11w. It continued from there, but slowly. It was all over by around 13w and then just tapered to spotting.?

Heidisean · December 2008

BO found at 7 weeks through US with no bleeding or cramping at all. Had a D & E at 8 weeks and 2 days and still would have never knew I had a BO because I still wasn't bleeding or cramping. If I never had the early US I would never have known until 9+weeks. HCG levels were close to doubling and everything. It was a cruel thing to go through! HUGS!!!!

rose76 · December 2008

I was spotting brown when it was diagnosed...dr said to wait 5 days and I m/c'ed a few days later.

Rose

3 m/c's

Rosieoutlook · December 2008

My missed m/c was discovered at 10 weeks and the baby was measuring 7 weeks, 5 days. I had the natural miscarriage at 10 weeks, 6 days but would have scheduled the d&c if the bleeding hadn't started within a week of discovering the m/c.

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