A little vent update

Munchie2.0 · November 2013

My second shower is today (DH side) and yesterday his brother and wife announced they were 6 weeks preggo! It goes without saying that we are so happy for them and are super excited our LO will have #6 cousin within 1yr age difference (yea, I have 6 family members whom are expecting and/Or had a LO this year)... I just wish they would have waited a day or 2 to make the announcement. I know this May sound selfish, but I wanted today to be about our LO... I know she isn't trying to steal/get attention, but I know the family is going to be so excited about the news and is going to want to talk about it today

And for the record, they just started TTC 2 months ago... Ayyyy.. I feel like I am being bitchy/ over emotional about it and I can't turn it off Ummmm yea- 20 min before the party and that's all everyone is talking about.. They are telling more family as I type this... I am trying really hard not to cry!

peanutmuse · November 2013

I agree, I think it would have been much nicer for them to wait. I'm sorry.

aessary03 · November 2013

I'm sorry. That was pretty poor timing. I hope today is all about you, lady!

jwp325 · November 2013

That stinks! It's your day and you should be the focus. I hope everything goes well and the conversation stays on you and your LO.

Kc101212 · November 2013

That stinks. I totally understand how you feel, we have 6 close family/friends all expecting within 4 weeks before or after us. Each time we do something that's supposed to be about our baby the same thing happens to us and I feel just like that. I'm sorry and hope the attention today is on your little one!!

megs12914 · November 2013

You aren't being a bitch. I'm sorry they didn't wait!

cowscrub · November 2013

Today should've been about your LO. Sorry they didn't wait.

ThankfulSnail · November 2013

I'm sorry. They definitely should have waited to announce. That was a really shitty thing for them to do. I hope you still have fun at your shower!

Hmvbaby14 · November 2013

It's great news, but a bummer they couldn't have waited a few days. Just focus on you today and your LO and your shower!

Hkula · November 2013

I would feel the same way! It wouldn't have hurt them to wait a couple of days. I don't understand why people announce babies around other people's baby events, or get engaged the day before someone's wedding. Especially in families...it makes it a little tough.
But I hope you have an awesome time at your shower! Just remember today is about your LO!

Munchie2.0 · November 2013

Thanks everyone! I feel better knowing that it's okay for me to be upset.

mommygrams0730 · November 2013

I totally agree with PP's that they should have waited...I mean they are only 6 weeks what would it have hurt to wait a few days or one more week before announcing.

Jmattis · November 2013

I would be hurt as well and feel its very insensitive of them. They could have waited a few days so you could have enjoyed your special day. Hope you at least got to enjoy the rest of your day and the noise died down a little once things got started XX

Ljessen13 · November 2013

I would def have my feelings hurt and I would def had said something.

I am so sorry!!!!! That is like getting engaged at someone's wedding?!?!?

bellamatson · November 2013

My first shower, my cousin announced to everyone she was having twins... Lol she was only 17 weeks pregnant at the time. Thank God she waited until the day after to announce she was having twin girls.
I'm super happy for her though. She did ivf and had so many issues... So I'm just thankful she finally got what she wanted

SandFHasse · November 2013

I just saw you updated and I am so sorry. They should be paying attention to you and LO. I hope your shower gets better.

LimeDrops · November 2013

I'm sorry. I don't think you're off base in feeling hurt. My SIL's shower was in our first trimester and we were very careful to not tell anyone that didn't already know, and not to make it a topic of conversation. It seems like common courteousy to me. I hope that your loved ones were able to put it to the side and re-focus on you and LO. And I hope you had a great shower.

stellar77 · November 2013

I don't get people like that. Do they just not know any better? Or are they really just that selfish?

I'm sorry, but I would feel exactly as you feel right now. It's totally not cool.

Sorry doll, but try to enjoy your shower.

Tcbrannon222 · November 2013

I am sorry I totally understand. I hope the shower goes well. Good luck!

RedSaffron · November 2013

I'm sorry she's being insensitive about it. To me, 6 weeks is too early to be announcing it to the world and at someone else's baby shower nonetheless.. I know you don't want any drama, but I would rather talk to her about how you feel so she is aware what she's doing is rude.

jmdaisy2 · November 2013

Ahhh that is such a bummer, some people just do not use their rational heads at times. I hope it was all about you and your baby at your shower and you had a wonderful time!

I feel like there are a lot of people in my family who do not think about things like this! For example:

My brother just announced him and his GF of 4 years are 12 weeks pregnant. I am 100% sure that the only reason they waited to tell after my shower was reduce chances of having a miscarriage after announcing, otherwise they would have done the same thing to me. I wouldn't have been surprised if they actually did it at my shower because they just do not think about things like that.

My fiance's cousin is pregnant, about 3 weeks behind us, and she does really strange things. When I posted my siggy pic to fb, the next day she did the same exact pose, black shirt and blue ribbon to announce she was having a boy also. Every time I post a bump pic (which is not too often imo), she posts one within 12 hours.. It is bizarre, but I try to take it as a compliment (i.e. tell myself "ohhhh she must dig my ideas").

I'm happy for them, but just wanted to let ya know I feel ya on insensitive/non-thinking family members .

sugarland726 · November 2013

Hkula said:

I would feel the same way! It wouldn't have hurt them to wait a couple of days. I don't understand why people announce babies around other people's baby events, or get engaged the day before someone's wedding. Especially in families...it makes it a little tough. But I hope you have an awesome time at your shower! Just remember today is about your LO!

I get the appeal of doing it at family events. All the family is gathered and you can tell them all at once. But the family is gathered for someone else's big event, and it's only polite to find another time to tell.

last14real · November 2013

I'm going to go with RedSaffron saying that 6 weeks is a little early to be announcing let alone the day before your shower. It was very insensitive to your feelings and I understand why you would be upset. Hope you still had a good shower though!

ChuggingWater · November 2013

I would have been upset, too.

mkat10414 · November 2013

I know exactly how you feel.

3 weeks ago at my shower, my sister did the same thing to me. Best part? She was only 4 weeks at the time. That's all anyone talked about the whole shower.

Sorry you had to go through that as well, it isn't fun.

MissRdotS · November 2013

How did the rest of the shower end up going? I'm so sorry they stole your thunder like that, that is so not okay!

MJOJwedding · November 2013

I understand, too, and I don't blame you for being upset. My sister is 16 weeks behind me. She wanted to wait until after my showers this weekend to tell me but I found out at 5 weeks. It's her second and she and her hubby weren't even trying. And here my DH and I had been trying for two years and had two losses. So at my shower this weekend, people could see her bump and everyone was asking her about it and I got jealous of her attention. It sucks. But I know in the big picture, it'll be awesome to have tr cousins so close in age. But I was being very selfish and wanting this weekend to be all about ME. I get it.

I hope your shower ended up being wonderful!!!

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