Most annoying response...

Kdstevens1984 · November 2013

I can't even count anymore how many times people have responded to my pregnancy news with "Yay, are you excited??!!??" Um what am I supposed to say? No? Lol just seems like such a weird question to ask someone...

snmetz7 · November 2013

@kendracoleslaw when I was buying opk I had the lady ask me if I was married. I said no that I was going to use them to trick my bf into getting me pregnant so I could get child support.
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Edrami · November 2013

It's better than congratulations who's the father :-L

Kdstevens1984 · November 2013

Wow sounds like all of us are getting some pretty ridiculous comments! My husband and I already have a little girl so when I tell people we are having another little girl they look so disappointed! Others have even said "Well maybe next time it'll be a boy!"

katieharpiceland · November 2013

I got a response of "Why would you want to do that?" LOL. People are full of stupid or rude things to say. I'm lucky, most responses have been genuinely sweet and lovely.

NatalieBier · November 2013

I am getting sick of " how in the world are you going to manage 3 kids and work full time?!!" I don't freaking know people, but I will make it work !

selina1113 · November 2013

I got the same question as OP and it was so awkward! My DS was right there too & at the time he was still getting used to the idea of a sibling. So, double awkward. Then the lady judged my reaction as not excited enough.

Also got the was it planned question. So rude.

*sparky* · November 2013

You should say "No, actually I'm not", just to see what they do.

smashton14th · November 2013

People are always saying to me "Two kids under two, how are you going to manage?" . Like i am not thinking that myself?

SavannaG24 · November 2013

I always get oh u must be tired? How are you feeling? Dude, I'm pregnant not dieing, but thanks for the concern. I know most people prob mean the best but it gets real aggravating hearing it 12 times a day.

nycgirlkat · November 2013

I'm getting a lot of, "you look great!" Um....What am I supposed to look like??? Or from current moms the pitying look and the, "enjoy your pregnancy". I can almost hear them all finish the sentence with, "because your ass is going to look like the back of a bus soon, you will never sleep again, and your life will be miserable for the 18 years". Wtf!?!?!?

junebug1027 · November 2013

Kdstevens1984 said:

Wow sounds like all of us are getting some pretty ridiculous comments! My husband and I already have a little girl so when I tell people we are having another little girl they look so disappointed! Others have even said "Well maybe next time it'll be a boy!"

I get this too. The first time was ok, after that it got really frustrating. My family has a lot of girls (my parents had 3 girls, my sister has 2 girls and now I'll have 2 girls). When an aunt found out she said "Oh, that's ok." Ugghhh why does everyone think the perfect family must be 1 boy 1 girl?

LittleLady77 · November 2013

When I tell people it's twins about HALF ask if they are natural?!?! My response: well, they certainly aren't made of plastic! Ugh! I hate that one... Probably because we had to use one of the most extreme form of infertility treatments legally available in the US.

Lindsay808 · November 2013

snmetz7 said:

@kendracoleslaw when I was buying opk I had the lady ask me if I was married. I said no that I was going to use them to trick my bf into getting me pregnant so I could get child support.
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The cashier rang up my test and said, "Uh oh." Ummm...what do you say to that? I just

at her.

HNRomance · November 2013

I'm tall and curvy so the kid has a lot of room in there right now. I keep getting "you don't look very big". All I can say is thanks! I don't think I'm supposed to look like I swallowed a beach ball at 19 weeks lol. Pregnancy seems to remove the filter between people's mouth and brain for some reason.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

KendraColeslaw said:

I can't believe people are asking some of you ladies if it was planned.... So tacky. OP, when I bought the pregnancy test at Walgreens, the freaking cashier asked none too excitedly "are you going to be happy if it's positive?" And I was sooo tempted to play to the young mom stereotype she was no doubt looking for in me and be like "no, because I had a one night stand after partying at the club last month and I never got his number. Oops."

I worried that I would get some kind of comment when I was buying a pregnancy test when I was pregnant with DD (I was 23, but probably looked younger). I worried about it with this one too (I'm 25, but again, I probably look a little bit younger). Luckily I ended up with cashiers that weren't tacky as all hell. However, I was working part-time while I was pregnant with DD and one of my co-workers (a middle-aged guy) gave me the "I'm judging you" look when I told everyone I was pregnant and he asked how old I was. He thought I was in high school. ~X(

Kdstevens1984 · November 2013

I totally agree!! I keep getting "So are you all going try for a 3rd??" Um can I just enjoy, celebrate, finish this pregnancy first before every starts on #3?!

Cameronsmomma11 · November 2013

When my coworkers found out we are having our second boy one of them said, "oh, we were all really hoping for a girl for you" what do I say back to that?!

sking72 · November 2013

As an unmarried pregnant lady who was in college, I have gotten a lot of very rude responses. the "Was it planned?" always follows the "Should I be saying congratulations? I don't know what you feel..." I'M KEEPING IT SO YES SAY CONGRATS. I wouldn't have told you if I wasn't. I've gotten the "Are you sure it's Jeff's?" are you FUCKING kidding me?? One part of me understands the people I don't talk to constantly because if you looked at my facebook I look like I've been single for life, but Jeff and I have been together for a year and a half with no mention on social media and only two photos together. Very frustrating. Not to mention the "Well how did it happen, were you on birth control? did you use a condom?" So yeah, people are rude. My standard response and what I believe should be every response when someone says they are pregnant "Oh wow! Congratualtions that's so exciting! When are you due?" and then let them do the talking. Even if they aren't excited about it, it's reassuring when someone else is supportive of your decision.

lilmama412 · November 2013

When I was pregnant with DS, DH and I were married but got pregnant on the honeymoon. DH was finishing his last year of college. When he told his fraternity we were expecting one of his frat brothers goes "Oh...are you guys going to keep it or get an abortion?" I was about ready to hit him, but DH stepped in and called him some choice words.

jsoubel · November 2013

The lady at the drug store that helped me find the pregnancy tests asked, "Are you hoping?" And I thought that was a really sweet way to ask. With my first pregnancy, I got a couple of "Good luck"s and I thought that was a weird thing to say.

Serenla · November 2013

ErBear1010 said:
I got "is it your husband's?" from a coworker. I couldn't say anything I was so shocked. I think my face said it all.

I got this from a coworker, I told her it was her husbands.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

Serenla said:

I got "is it your husband's?" from a coworker. I couldn't say anything I was so shocked. I think my face said it all.
I got this from a coworker, I told her it was her husbands.

Serenla · November 2013

Bluebird2318 said:

Serenla said:

ErBear1010 said:
I got "is it your husband's?" from a coworker. I couldn't say anything I was so shocked. I think my face said it all.
I got this from a coworker, I told her it was her husbands.

Haha whatever shuts them up right? I have not gotten a stupid question from her or the dude that called my chubby since I snapped lol.

laf83 · November 2013

Oh my, y'all!!! I've mostly gotten nice responses but we haven't made huge announcements yet (just friends and family and church family) and I'm not teaching anymore so I don't have students or coworkers to deal with.

I'm really appalled that cashiers would say anything at all. They should just keep their mouths shut and ring up your stuff!!! That should be in their training somewhere!!!

When I was pregnant with DS one of my coworkers (who is very overweight) starting pointing out how swollen my face had gotten near the end. It took every fiber of my being not to say, "I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant, what's your excuse?!"

Cecilbear · November 2013

This one is not the same type of bad, but we told my husband's grandparents when I was about 7 weeks and the morning sickness and food aversions were kicking in with a vengeance. His grandpa's response was so excited and happy, but he also said something like, "Are you sneaking off to the kitchen in the middle of the night for sauerkraut, ice cream, and pickles?" Just the thought of that combination made me make a run for the bathroom!

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

Just wait until the end when people start asking you if you've had this or that sign of impending labor. or if you've tried spices food/bumpy car ride, etc etc.

moonsparkles · November 2013

Some of these are so shocking and so unprofessional.

I also got asked once if it was planned which I was surprised about. But I can't imagine anyone asking if it was my husbands or not. Beyond comprehension.

My sister's first words after I told her were asking whether a mutual friend of ours already knew. Guess that was more important.

mrsredmond2011 · November 2013

A stranger noticed my belly and asked if I was married! How rude! Im married but still u don't ask a pregnant woman that, it's none of your business! Anyway I always have my wedding rings on, if it bothers u look at her hand before u open your mouth. Ehhh the nerve of some people!

LittleLady77 · November 2013

@MaiTaiBeth me too

People are crazy.

Edrami · November 2013

sking72 said:
As an unmarried pregnant lady who was in college, I have gotten a lot of very rude responses. the "Was it planned?" always follows the "Should I be saying congratulations? I don't know what you feel..." I'M KEEPING IT SO YES SAY CONGRATS. I wouldn't have told you if I wasn't. I've gotten the "Are you sure it's Jeff's?" are you FUCKING kidding me?? One part of me understands the people I don't talk to constantly because if you looked at my facebook I look like I've been single for life, but Jeff and I have been together for a year and a half with no mention on social media and only two photos together. Very frustrating. Not to mention the "Well how did it happen, were you on birth control? did you use a condom?" So yeah, people are rude. My standard response and what I believe should be every response when someone says they are pregnant "Oh wow! Congratualtions that's so exciting! When are you due?" and then let them do the talking. Even if they aren't excited about it, it's reassuring when someone else is supportive of your decision.

I'm the exact same way other than the who's is it my favorite was from SO's "best friend" (they used to date) she asked if it was even his. It got even better when he posted a picture of the u/s and she deleted him off fb.

JulianneJacks · November 2013

Ha ha- I was married for seven years before we got pregnant so I experienced the opposite of what you ladies are describing. I got a lot of comments as to why we hadn't had kids yet before we were expecting. I'm sure the people who said those things to me would have been the same people to say things if we had been young parents.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

Edrami said:

sking72 said:
As an unmarried pregnant lady who was in college, I have gotten a lot of very rude responses. the "Was it planned?" always follows the "Should I be saying congratulations? I don't know what you feel..." I'M KEEPING IT SO YES SAY CONGRATS. I wouldn't have told you if I wasn't. I've gotten the "Are you sure it's Jeff's?" are you FUCKING kidding me?? One part of me understands the people I don't talk to constantly because if you looked at my facebook I look like I've been single for life, but Jeff and I have been together for a year and a half with no mention on social media and only two photos together. Very frustrating. Not to mention the "Well how did it happen, were you on birth control? did you use a condom?" So yeah, people are rude. My standard response and what I believe should be every response when someone says they are pregnant "Oh wow! Congratualtions that's so exciting! When are you due?" and then let them do the talking. Even if they aren't excited about it, it's reassuring when someone else is supportive of your decision.
I'm the exact same way other than the who's is it my favorite was from SO's "best friend" (they used to date) she asked if it was even his. It got even better when he posted a picture of the u/s and she deleted him off fb.

Uh, YIKES! There are obviously some deeper issues going on there!

emanresu14 · November 2013

Ha I got my first "are you excited?" and "was it a surprise?" yesterday. Really? I've actually been married 3 years... And tried for this baby for 2 out of those 3 years. I can't imagine someone asking me if it was my husbands baby. For real. And if I wasn't married, please enlighten me, how the eff is it your business??

J&NL · November 2013

I thought about this thread when I checked in for an appointment at my new Dr office and the receptionist asked me if I was excited. Lol I never really thought about it before but if I guess that is a pretty popular question.

Serenla · November 2013

J&NL said:

I thought about this thread when I checked in for an appointment at my new Dr office and the receptionist asked me if I was excited. Lol I never really thought about it before but if I guess that is a pretty popular question.

Next time we should all just say "No" and walk away lol.

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