Baby shower plans: What do you think

JaneW2 · November 2013

So my friends are putting together a baby shower, which is awesome. What's not awesome is that it's been scheduled for January 5th, when I'll be almost 38 weeks, and two hours from my house. I'm not sure the organizers understand why this isn't a good plan.

a) I don't want to travel that far that late in the game
b) Large chance of the baby being born before the shower.

What do you think?

forevergraceful · November 2013

I wouldn't be comfortable traveling that far at 38 weeks. Did they consult you about the date first?

JaneW2 · November 2013

BalletLover said:

I wouldn't be comfortable traveling that far at 38 weeks. Did they consult you about the date first?

Um, no, just said they were doing it. First it was going to be at friend's house a bit over an hour away, which made me slightly anxious, now they're talking about friend 2 hours away's house. (In rush hour, it can be closer to three, though I'm not expecting massive traffic on that particular day.)

forevergraceful · November 2013

I would politely decline the shower and give your reasons- they should understand.

csandroo · November 2013

I agree it's so far esp if you'll need 2 cars to fit all the presents in if you get bigger items...We needed both our cars.

RedSaffron · November 2013

I know its the holidays and I can understand why they would choose a date after the new year, but I would decline. The drive is a bit much around 38 weeks and they should understand how risky it is and if they don't, then explain that you don't want to be put into a difficult situation if something happened that day.

susieandmarty · November 2013

It's not a surprise and clearly plans are not finalized. Express your concerns and ask if it is possible to move it to a lication closer to your house or hospital - perhaps to one of the hosts homes - obviously not looking to require them to pay money to rent a venue. Hopefully they will be unserstAbfing.

It is so nice of them to plan a shower bug it has to work for you too. If you can give input - then everyone wins

Hmvbaby14 · November 2013

I agree with PP. Talk to the hosts and express your concerns. I don't think we're the only ones that get a little loopy when we're preggers. I feel like everyone around me is, too!

sugarland726 · November 2013

It's too late in your pregnancy and too far away. Showers are ideally around 32-35 weeks. That makes it much more unlikely you will have already delivered, and gives you time to get what else you need off the registry. I'd suggest the weekend of 12/14-15 and they get moving ASAP.

Shannahbee · November 2013

I'd say no too... I'd rather have an "after-baby" shower than worry about being so far from home/the hospital that late!

gracete · November 2013

wowza that is really cutting it close, I would let them know it would be a little much for you to travel so far out

Jmattis · November 2013

I would blame it on my Obgyn and say he/she said they don't want you traveling more than 1 hour from home starting at 37 weeks and then that way you don't feel unconfortable and you have an excuse to change the date and location. That is way too far and cutting it close- I wouldn't feel confortable doing that as well and it also doesn't allow you time to purchase the items you didn't recieve.

Jackapatamus · November 2013

Very sweet of them to want to host a shower, but how far will you be from your hospital? I know my doctor likes me to be in an hour radius from the hospital. I would check with your dr. and then consult with your friends. Let us know how it turns out!

pennstated912 · November 2013

That's cutting it really close. I would be less concerned if it was within driving distance of your Ob/hospital, so if something were to happen, you could leave immediately.

If I were you, I would suggest he weekend of 12/14 or decline the shower altogether.

gina0485 · November 2013

Will your OB allow you to travel that far? After 36 weeks I was told no more than 1 hour from home, and I am not considered an at-risk pregnancy.

Tcbrannon222 · November 2013

I would ask your ob. I will not let me travel that far that late in my pregency. Very sweet of them but not realistic.

mommygrams0730 · November 2013

Is this your first, mobile so I can't see siggy but if it is I'd say more than likely baby won't be here yet...but I can see how you'd want to be caustious.
Personally I'd have no problems traveling that far (we'll be about 2 hours away from the hospital for a week during winter break and I'll be 38 weeks) but not everyone is that comfortable with being that far away.

Since plans aren't finalized maybe adjust and have a sip n see party after baby is born?

Munchie2.0 · November 2013

I have already been told by my OB that she doesn't even want me going an hour away after 36weeks... She explained that even though it's not really that far, you never know how labor is going to go and you sure as hell don't know what traffic is going to be like.

You should let your hostesses know now that your OB has put you on no travel past 35 weeks.. You can't argue with dr's orders

jinkybink · November 2013

Shannahbee said:

I'd say no too... I'd rather have an "after-baby" shower than worry about being so far from home/the hospital that late!

I agree with this. Suggest a sip-n-see or something after.

JaneW2 · November 2013

OK, thank you for confirming that scheduling a baby show at 38 weeks would be nuts.

I talked to them, and we MIGHT be able to do it Dec 21st, which would put me right before the 36 week mark, which I'm fine with. We're going to visit family for Christmas who are just as far away anyway. The ceiling beyond which I'm not making plans or traveling is 37 weeks, which for me is Dec 30th.

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