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Parenting after a Loss
JulyMomma2U2
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A sad truth.. (JulyMomma)
JulyMomma2U2
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A very close family friend just lost her son. He was 23 years old. He struggled with addiction, and despite his family doing absolutely everything they could (he just returned home from in-patient treatment), his illness got the best of him.
My heart aches for his parents. I can not imagine the grief, the sorrow and the guilt his parents must be feeling. Although I was never really close with their children (despite me being the same age as their oldest son), I was always very close with the parents.
As I've sat here grieving for my friends, a brutal truth hit me. As parents.. as a Mother.. there is only so much I can control in my children's lives. I strive to raise them to be wise, caring, responsible and loving individuals.. I aim to teach them right and wrong, and provide them with the tools necessary to navigate this complex scary place we live in, but at the end of the day, their choices are their own. I can not control them..
That is a terrifying fact.
My heart aches for his parents. I can not imagine the grief, the sorrow and the guilt his parents must be feeling. Although I was never really close with their children (despite me being the same age as their oldest son), I was always very close with the parents.
As I've sat here grieving for my friends, a brutal truth hit me. As parents.. as a Mother.. there is only so much I can control in my children's lives. I strive to raise them to be wise, caring, responsible and loving individuals.. I aim to teach them right and wrong, and provide them with the tools necessary to navigate this complex scary place we live in, but at the end of the day, their choices are their own. I can not control them..
That is a terrifying fact.
Loss #1: 18w5d.. D&E 04Mar03
BFP #2: Jun2011.. missed miscarriage. D&C 08Jul2011 8w4d.
BFP #3: Nov2011.. Our Rainbow Baby!!! DS Born: 15Jul2012!
BFP #4: Nov2012.. 2U1 - DS2 born 12Jul2013. BFP #5: 01Jan2014..3U3!!
My blog about raising 2U2!
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Re: A sad truth.. (JulyMomma)
This morning I attended the funeral service for a former student of mine that was murdered. She was only 18. Her mother raised her to be a beautiful, bright, and strong young woman. And just one wrong choice in her life led her to the hands of an awful man who took her life away, just like that.
We can only do so much to keep our children safe. It is frightening how many dangers are out there. But like Rusalka said, there comes a point where we need to have faith that we've done everything we can, and let our children make their own choices and learn from their own mistakes.