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August 2013 Moms
janneann1127
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BTDT Moms: Anyone have a great toddler discipline book?
janneann1127
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We are having a HELL of a rough time with our 3 year old. In addition to the transition to big brother, he's just at an all around tough age. Really acting out, especially for me when I'm home with him all day. One of our biggest problems, as mentioned in a previous post, is naptime. It's turned into a battle. He used to go down so easy, and sleep for 2-3 hours. Now the minute I close the door, it begins. Loud stomping on the floor, kicking the walls and screaming. He does this because he knows that it will wake the baby, and that I will come in or let him out eventually because I want baby to sleep. This goes on for 1-2 hours until I just give in and let him out.
He also will stomp around and try to be as loud as possible anytime baby is sleeping. ESPECIALLY if you tell him the baby is sleeping, or you go in to put baby down. He will immediately start making as much noise as he can (jealousy, I'm sure). We've tried time-outs but I have a hard time a) getting him into the timeout, and b) keeping him in the timeout. Esp when I'm dealing with a baby.
And this is honestly just the tip of the iceberg. I could go ON AND ON AND ON as I'm sure many of you with toddlers can as well. Anyone have a great book that won't take me 3 hours to read?? I got The Child Whisperer but I'm not really impressed.
He also will stomp around and try to be as loud as possible anytime baby is sleeping. ESPECIALLY if you tell him the baby is sleeping, or you go in to put baby down. He will immediately start making as much noise as he can (jealousy, I'm sure). We've tried time-outs but I have a hard time a) getting him into the timeout, and b) keeping him in the timeout. Esp when I'm dealing with a baby.
And this is honestly just the tip of the iceberg. I could go ON AND ON AND ON as I'm sure many of you with toddlers can as well. Anyone have a great book that won't take me 3 hours to read?? I got The Child Whisperer but I'm not really impressed.
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Re: BTDT Moms: Anyone have a great toddler discipline book?
I also wanted to commiserate. Our 3.5yo won't leave the babies' toys alone. He gets his grubby hands all over them all the time. And the outright defiance - screaming NO!
We do timeouts, but they're really more "cool downs" where we remove him from the situation, give him some space, and let him come back to reality. We ask if he wants a hug and if he says yes, we talk about what happened. If he says no, we leave and give him more time to cool off.
It's far from perfect and we have many other issues. We also use timers to transition between activities and that has helped so so so much.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
I don't think happiest baby is all that great and think happiest toddler is a fucking joke. Sure, the 5 "s" are great and work well, but the rest of the book is pretty dumbed down. Personally the tactics in happiest toddler are not how I want to treat my child. I don't feel caveman talk is necessary. Conscious discipline (dr bailey's tactics) are much more in inline with how I want to parent and I feel are more effective.
I love Dr Becky Bailey.
https://www.amazon.com/Easy-Love-Difficult-Discipline-Cooperation/dp/0060007753/ref=sr_1_1_title_0_main?ie=UTF8&qid=1385169178&sr=8-1&keywords=becky+bailey
This book was helpful to us. Mine is a bit younger than yours, so we are at the beginnings of "toddlerhood". It's the "theory" his child's day out program (school) uses for discipline as well.
I can't imagine how tough this is for you. I've been lucky DS1 isn't affected much by DS2. It's as if I hit a magic time where he doesn't really understand and isn't jealous. I have friends going through a 3 year gap and say it was awful for awhile, but that it gets better!! Hang in there, friend!
I did try the reward chart, as we did that last year to help with his resistance to bedtime routines (bath, brush teeth, etc) and it totally worked. But it did not have any effect on nap. I just watched Super Nanny, wondering how I get in touch with her?!
I did see a parent do the "YOU WANT, you want, you want!" In the bookstore the other day. It cracked me up. I'm not sure if it worked for their toddler or not...I was busy trying to distract mine who kept yelling "baby sad!!! Baby SAD!" At the poor kid.