Constant Attacks

Re: Constant Attacks

• MsAmandaPants member

  November 2013

  svancura1 said:

  I can NOT understand the constant attacks. I have done my best to keep my quite and say as little as possible. Yet people keep coming at me. I get it, your all angry that my comments were considered offensive, but I don't think bullying me, sending me private messages, posting on my profile and breaking me down every which way is necessary. It's worse than high school. I'm sorry if i unintentionally hurt someones feelings with any of my comments and that was never my intention. But by coming after me non stop doesn't make the situation any better nor does it help. Please people just move on. I'm already upset about my loss, and to constantly see more and more attacks just makes things worse. This may have been started over something silly, but now it's just plain wrong.

  Again, I'm sorry for offending and that was not my intention. I truly hope everyone can just move on now.

  I'm curious what "something silly" you think started this.  Was it my respectful comment that you should be aware that "God's plan" comments are offensive to many or your white knighting over an inappropriate drive-by BFP?  Either way, neither is particularly "silly," and your responses speak to a complete disregard and disrespect for this board, our community, and the etiquette guidelines that keep it a special, safe and supportive place.
  
  You've been told that you should step back, take some time to lurk, read the blog, apologize,  and make an effort to respect the board culture and etiquette. You seem to have refused. Given that, while I'm truly sorry for your loss,  it seems that this community is not the best fit for you.
  

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• luciddreamer106 member

  November 2013

  

  
  

  
  

  No one is attacking you. I understand that you're fresh from a loss and that you're being extra sensitive. Maybe you should step away, lurk for a bit to get a feel for this board, and then decide if it's the right place for you. If you don't like the way our board works, then move on to one that you do like. You're not going to change our etiquette rules and culture.

  

  

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  BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13

  9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs

  3/14: IUI#1 letrozole/Bravelle/Menopur + trigger = BFN

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• E&B0811 member

  November 2013

  You could have used the time you spent posting this rant to, as suggested above, lurk or read the blog. Make better choices. Read the blog.

  

  

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• PinkCamino member

  November 2013

  svancura1 said:

  I can NOT understand the constant attacks. I have done my best to keep my quite and say as little as possible. Yet people keep coming at me. I get it, your all angry that my comments were considered offensive, but I don't think bullying me, sending me private messages, posting on my profile and breaking me down every which way is necessary. It's worse than high school. I'm sorry if i unintentionally hurt someones feelings with any of my comments and that was never my intention. But by coming after me non stop doesn't make the situation any better nor does it help. Please people just move on. I'm already upset about my loss, and to constantly see more and more attacks just makes things worse. This may have been started over something silly, but now it's just plain wrong.

  Again, I'm sorry for offending and that was not my intention. I truly hope everyone can just move on now.

  So am I. This is why I find some of your comments offending.

  
  

  
  

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• Drgn30 member

  November 2013

  Your grammar is appalling.
  

  
  

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• PinkCamino member

  November 2013

  I'm just so confused guys.

  
  

  The timeline here is ridiculous. First she intros, then she cracks us in the sticky and now this???

  
  

  Honestly... move along OP... move along.
  

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• luciddreamer106 member

  November 2013 edited November 2013

  svancura1 said: I can NOT understand the constant attacks. I have done my best to keep my quite and say as little as possible. Yet people keep coming at me. I get it, your all angry that my comments were considered offensive, but I don't think bullying me, sending me private messages, posting on my profile and breaking me down every which way is necessary. It's worse than high school. I'm sorry if i unintentionally hurt someones feelings with any of my comments and that was never my intention. But by coming after me non stop doesn't make the situation any better nor does it help. Please people just move on. I'm already upset about my loss, and to constantly see more and more attacks just makes things worse. This may have been started over something silly, but now it's just plain wrong.Again, I'm sorry for offending and that was not my intention. I truly hope everyone can just move on now.
  
  
  To the bolded... How about you give a sincere apology, read the "Read this before posting" sticky post, read the blog, and then come back to start giving support to others here. You are the one who keeps dragging this on, you are the one you made a whole post about this and bringing more attention to your doucheness.

  
  

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  BFP #1: EDD 4/16/13~~blighted ovum w/ 2 gestational sacs~~Loss on 9/18/12
  BFP #2: EDD 9/3/13~~Slow HB at 1st U/S~~MMC -Loss on 2/13/13

  9/13, 10/13, 1/14: letrozole + trigger + TI = All BFNs

  3/14: IUI#1 letrozole/Bravelle/Menopur + trigger = BFN

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• Drgn30 member

  November 2013

  ktlovess said:

  Drgn30 said:

  Your grammar is appalling.
  

  
  

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• MrsHamon09 member

  November 2013

  OP I am religious but I don't believe God chose to take away the one pregnancy I have had after years of trying. We understand that everyone has their own opinion and beliefs and we respect that. However, because we respect that we refrain from comments that might offend the ladies on this board whom we love and care about.
  People were being truthful and just giving you a heads up about what you said. Then you came back overly defensive at the comment. We would love to have you be a part of this board but we have rules for a reason and expect they be followed.
  If you want to stay please read the blog and the sticky post and make an apology.
  I am sorry for your loss.

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• RustyGirl3 member

  November 2013

  Drgn30 said:

  ktlovess said:

  Drgn30 said:

  Your grammar is appalling.
  

  
  

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• svancura1 member

  November 2013

  I've been trying to apologize. It clearly no longer matters and I feel just as alone as when this all started. I have my faith and it was not my intention to rub it in anyone's face. I tried to telling ppl where I was coming from and that didn't work. Once again I'M SORRY FOR OFFENDING PEOPLE.
  And the chess piece was not intended to be nice. She actually told me so. But thank you jalara48 for trying to calm the waters.

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• Drgn30 member

  November 2013

  @svancura1 - for what it's worth, I didn't mean to be hurtful. Just trying to lighten the mood in my own fucked up way. I am truly sorry for your loss.

  
  

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• Drgn30 member

  November 2013

  As a further sign of peace, Ryan Reynolds says, sorry girl.

  
  

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  Dx PCOS and Septate Uterus
  

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  brand new cuterus
  March 2014:   first medicated cycle + iui = BFP!

  Baby Drgn born December 3, 2014
  
   
  
  

  
  

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• HeyMrsPotter member

  November 2013 edited November 2013

  svancura1 said:

  I've been trying to apologize. It clearly no longer matters and I feel just as alone as when this all started. I have my faith and it was not my intention to rub it in anyone's face. I tried to telling ppl where I was coming from and that didn't work. Once again I'M SORRY FOR OFFENDING PEOPLE. And the chess piece was not intended to be nice. She actually told me so. But thank you jalara48 for trying to calm the waters.

  
  Thank you for apologizing. Please do read the blog. Things here will make much more sense when you do.
  
  Edited for clarity. Also ETA: This apology still seems less than sincere, as you do still seem to be playing victim more than truly apologizing. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and hope you can get it together. And I'll say a third time, read the blog. Time will tell, I guess. It always does.

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