Going from 1 to 2

savish · November 2013

My daughter is currently 13 months and I just got my BFP yesterday. I'm not sure how far along I am since I'm breastfeeding and my periods are super wonky. The only real symptom I got was feeling movement haha so I could be 5 months pregnant for all I know, I find out for sure Friday. Just wanted to ask what the hardest part about going from 1 baby to 2 was? I keep getting the comments "oh you're going to be busy" oh really do you suppose? I haven't already gathered that, thank you for letting me know haha.

Arnegard · November 2013

1 -2 kicked my ass.

But it also could be moving 1000 miles during my pregnancy, living with MIL for 2 months, finding a house, remodeling said house while sleeping on the floor (which was better than with MIL) and not knowing a soul in the dead of a ND winter.

Good Luck with your pregnancy. Be sure to update us after your u/s - tomorrow or next week?

savish · November 2013

Arnegard said:

1 -2 kicked my ass.

But it also could be moving 1000 miles during my pregnancy, living with MIL for 2 months, finding a house, remodeling said house while sleeping on the floor (which was better than with MIL) and not knowing a soul in the dead of a ND winter.

Good Luck with your pregnancy. Be sure to update us after your u/s - tomorrow or next week?

Holy crap, no wonder eh. Sorry you had to deal with that.

& Thank you! It is tomorrow, I'll let you guys know

ChicagoBroad26 · November 2013

I thought going from 1-2 was way easier than 0-1. The first one was such a shock to the system (and she was colicky as hell). When we had #2, we were already in "kid-mode" and, while it was an adjustment, it was way easier to add her to the mix. Good luck with everything!

babywisher · November 2013

1 to 2 was much harder than 0 to 1 for me. The worst part was not being able to be there 100% for ds. There are often times when he wants me to do something or watch him and I am nursing or changing dd. Bedtime is a little difficult. Now that i can put them both in the bath together it is easier. Going out is not really hard. I will wear dd and put ds in the buggy or he will walk. Congrats and good luck!

eaglesfan700 · November 2013

My oldest are 16 months apart and 0-1 was definitely harder. The first month of having 2 was kind of a blur, but as pp said, once you get into sort of a routine it isn't bad. I should add they have always been great sleepers - if you are sleeping you can do anything

The hardest part of 2 for me was physically leaving the house. Getting an infant and a toddler dressed, changed, fed, while making myself somewhat presentable, was quite a process. Once we left the house it was great, but just give yourself lots of extra time to get anywhere!

mylittlesunshine · November 2013

Going from 0-1 for me was harder since I had no clue what no sleep meant and the huge change from being just a married couple to having a little person that was my and DH's responsibility. When DD2 came I knew what I was in for. I knew that there was going to be no sleep and I had knowledge I hadn't had when DD1 was born.

That said I think the hardest part for me that I didn't grasp until after DD2 was born was how different from DD1 she was. Things DD1 liked, DD2 hated and vice versa. DD2 had reflux and mspi issues which made her very colicky. The HARDEST part for me from going from 1-2 was feeling guilty for not giving DD1 all of my attention. But, you learn to include the older child and I basically let DD1 help with anything within reason and let her be very hands on. Now that DD2 is older it is so awesome to see them play together!

Congrats on your pregnancy!

monalua · November 2013

Congratulations! For me 0-1 was harder than 1-2. I was really overwhelmed with one, I am still overwhelmed now with two, I don't think I'm any more overwhelmed than I was though.

I did not enjoy being pregnant with a toddler. When our second baby was a newborn it was really pretty easy. She's eight month now and mobile so everything is more challenging.

The hardest part for me is sleep and aways being tired, my kids are not good sleepers. Congrats again!

bumpuser924057 · November 2013

Well, I just went from 1-3 five months ago, and while it's insane and I'm mentally and physically exhausted, I still think it was harder sometimes just having one. I was so anxious about him all the time - he had terrible reflux, never wanted to lay down, hated the swing and bouncer, cried for six months straight, all that jazz. This time around I knew better, the babies are easier, and I am not playing the "all or nothing" game with things like breastfeeding and cloth diapering. I just do what I can for everyone, and most of the time it's enough.

You will be fine. Just prepare for lots of crying, because sometimes someone's going to have to wait before their needs are met, and they don't like that so much.

pitterpatter129 · November 2013

The first six months were really difficult, but after that, it got much easier. I put DS1 in daycare/MDO during my maternity leave (before deciding to just quit) and that really helped a lot during the no sleep newborn stage. You'll be fine! Congrats!

jlpev · November 2013

CurlingRocks said:
1-2 was easier than 0-1 for me. With DS, everything was a new experience, and we were learning the ropes and not used to the physical demands. With DD, I was already used to some sleep deprivation, having to do all the child care tasks, SAH, knowing what is and isn't normal, and dealing with other people in my kids' lives. We also already had a lot of stuff we needed, so the financial burden wasn't the same.

I will say that it is important to prep your older child in a manner that is appropriate to his/her age. Like we read books about a new baby coming into the family and taught him that my belly was so big because I was growing a baby. Of course, it was way too abstract for my 2 year old to fully grasp, but once we brought DD home, I was glad we'd done some legwork because he got it soon after. We also spent a lot of time the first month reassuring him that we still love him and that we are all adjusting to having DD in our lives. And we find ways to involve him, like letting him turn on her swing and put her PJs in the hamper when we get her dressed in the morning. He doesn't always love having a sibling, but for the most part, he's a good big brother.

This exactly!

new+tothis · November 2013

ChicagoBroad26 said:

I thought going from 1-2 was way easier than 0-1. The first one was such a shock to the system (and she was colicky as hell). When we had #2, we were already in "kid-mode" and, while it was an adjustment, it was way easier to add her to the mix. Good luck with everything!

This is how I felt too. I thought 1-2 was sooo much easier than 0-1. Honestly, DD just kind of got thrown into the mix and things haven't been too bad. I've baby worn a lot out of necessity and I had to get a backpack diaper bag instead of a purse style. Otherwise it was business as usual.

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