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Neighbor kid - would this annoy you?

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Our neighbor walks with his 2 year old son every day around the neighborhood.  I see them when I'm walking DS and the dogs most days. 

Every time I see them, the little boy is running around on people's lawns, pushing his wagon up someone's driveway, going on porches and sitting in the porch chairs or playing with decorations, etc.  I've even seen the dad chasing the boy b/c he went along the side of the house into someone's backyard. 

I'm all for kids exploring their world, but this seems like too much to me.   I feel like it's important to teach kids boundaries and to respect other people's property.

Thoughts?

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Re: Neighbor kid - would this annoy you?

  • Capechick2007Capechick2007

    I would agree on the boundaries. It seems pretty dangerous. What is someone had a dog? It also doesn't seem to be teaching him to keeep a distance from strangers. it is too easy to get pulled into someone's home on the way home from school or something.

    I see a lot of parenting techniques that annoy me, but I try and remember everyone has different values. I like to vent to my DH about what I see though.

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  • Michelle110Michelle110 member
    I don't know that it's annoying going on other people's property, but it would annoy me if the kid did this at my house. The kid's parents need to teach him to respect others' property. Just hope he doesn't get hurt on someone else's driveway or yard.
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  • cvincent0423cvincent0423
    personally, i wouldn't have a problem with him running on my lawn or pushing his wagon on my driveway if he isn't being destructive. ?these seem pretty innocent and a kid off in his own world. ?i would have a problem with him sitting on my porch or playing with decorations or going in my backyard. these are intentionally a violation of your private property. ?i don't expect the kid to understand but his dad should.
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  • jessicasuzannjessicasuzann
    yes, it would annoy me. I agree that kids need their parents to teach them boundaries.
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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Answering as a mother of a 2.5 yr old.

    I wouldn't think twice abouy my toddler driving his tricycle up someone's driveway a bit.  And I also don't stop him from walking on someone's grass (unless it's got a pesticide warning posted).  I'm right there with him and watching him.  I'm not going to let him damage their property and if they head down their drive way I'm going to have him removed wayyyy before he could ever be in their way.

    Everyone in our neighborhood is like this - maybe that's why it doesn't bother me?  We all welcome each others' kids to play around our houses.  It's a fun kid friendly neighborhood and we love it!

    I draw the line at the porch.  Getting close to someone's door or window could frighten them or make them uncomfortable.  I've explained this to DS.  He's cool with it and understands the boundaries I've put in place. 

    Now.... the dog peeing on my grass?  That I'm not so happy about.

    The kid doesn't destroy anything when he walks on my yard.  The dog piss leaves a dead patch and that irks me.

    I'd love to see all of you revisit this post once you've got a toddler on your hands.

    You've got to pick your battles.  "No" to being in the street is the most important thing for that kid to be learning right now.  If he's getting "no" messages about everything else he's missing the importance of the street lesson.  One or 2 "rules" for walks is probably the most he can handle well at this stage of cognitive development. 

    Let him master those first and give him another year developmentally..... 

    Be patient with him! 

    But - for those who are totally passionate about this - his dad probably has NO idea you're this annoyed by it.   I'm sure if you were direct with him and told him you don't want his kid on your yard he'd be respectful of your request.

    There is one neighbor whos yard I try to keep Dylan out of because they're really not very kid friendly people and I suspect it would piss them off....

     

    Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
    Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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  • sunshine723sunshine723
    True that people have different values, but I'm sure that guy wouldn't want people trampling all over his yard.  The earlier boundaries are taught, the more likely the kid is to be respectful of them.
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