How do I tell him?

CaliKitten82 · November 2013

Hi Ladies!

I'm a newbie here. I'm 4 weeks and 4-5 days along and I haven't told my boyfriend yet. This pregnancy was completely unexpected, and although I am very happy, I'm not entirely sure he will be. I think he's going to freak out. He'll come around eventually..he's a good guy and he loves me..but he's definitely going to panic at first. What is the best way to break the news to him?

Thanks all, and I hope everyone is feeling well and happy right now.

knitsandgiggles · November 2013

Just tell him straight up. No matter what way you spin it, at the end of it, you'll still be pregnant. If he is the "good guy" who loves you as you say, he'll get to where he needs to once he digests the news.

Besides, you didn't get yourself pregnant

Edit - spelling

Hollyhelton · November 2013

Hey lil newbie! Congrates and welcome!!!! Well idk any of ur history age how long you have been together ect. So I'm not sure the best route to take when breaking the news. But keep in mind everyone gets a lil nervous when they start thinking about all the changes $ & worries that come w becoming a parent My Dh and I tried for a long time and wanted this baby bad. But even he became stressed and worried!!! It comes w the territory;) GL!!!!

cakebatter27 · November 2013

Welcome and congrats dear! Being straight up is the best. I had a whole thing planned on how to tell DH and when I saw the line I just started crying and saying, "That's a line, yes it is! That's a line, Look, LOOK!!!" DH looked at me like I was a mad insane crazy woman.

We were trying and we were shocked. Any big change is a change but you have 9 months to adjust and prepare for it. Just take a deep breath and tell him. You didn't mention your age or how long you were together so I can't offer much more than that. And as PP mentioned, it takes 2 to make a baby

GL and let us know how it goes!

klillis13 · November 2013

It will be fine! I was nervous to tell my DH. I had been off the pill, and he knew that....but we werent exactly "Trying" lol. It came as a huge surprise to him, and his first reaction was definitely shock more than excitement. But he is gradually getting more used to the idea. And he has been trying really hard ans being very sweet. Just know he will be excited, it just might not be right away. I think thats pretty normal for the male species

CaliKitten82 · November 2013

Thanks everyone. I'm going to tell him this weekend (I'll see him tomorrow and I want to do it in person).

We are NOT kids..we're both far too old to have let this happened. We split up over a year ago but we never really stopped seeing each other, and we recently decided to get back together. Very recently. We're in a very delicate place right now, which is why I'm so nervous.

1982Babies · November 2013

I say cook him a nice dinner and be like "I have something to tell you".. and then hand him the test, or if you don't have it, a note "I'm pregnant..."

I imagine you're 31 since you have 82 in your thingie. Mother Nature was showing you! haha

allardr · November 2013

I always see "fun ways to tell DH" and I get so confused...for me everytime DH is right in the other room as I test so as soon as I know he knows.

Obviously your situation is different, glad youre doing it soon and in person. GL!

V1981 · November 2013

Just be honest and let him have his own reaction - good or bad. Don't force him to be happy. Let it roll out however it is. Let him know your feelings at the same time and see how you both feel.

abrazz · November 2013

I didn't tell DH for over a week and we have 2 kids together already. I was worried how he would react since this is his last semester of nursing school and super stressed. I didn't want him to have a nervous breakdown. He was fine, a little shocked, but fine. I hope all goes well. Just be ready for all reactions

CaliKitten82 · November 2013

I am 31 (forgot I had my year in my name..maybe pregnancy brain is starting already, haha). He's older than me. So yeah, we're a little old for this to have happened. But we're both in a decent place financially, and I have good insurance (although I absolutely despise my job and my evil boss and I'm worried the stress is going to hurt the baby).

I'm not going to do anything cute, I think that would freak him out more and I don't want him to think I planned this or anything (I didn't). I'm just going to have an honest conversation with him and I will let him choose what he wants to do, since I've already chosen what I want to do. If he decides not to be a part of our lives, I'll be sad, but I'll be ok.

Thanks again lovely ladies.

Jennik30 · November 2013

I was in the same boat when I found out. We haven't been together for very long (2 months) and I was beyond nervous telling him. He took the news very calmly which surprised me since he has two teenage sons and since then has made sure I take proper care of myself. He was an absolute rock with the scare last night and kept me calm.

1982Babies · November 2013

CaliKitten82 said:

I am 31 (forgot I had my year in my name..maybe pregnancy brain is starting already, haha). He's older than me. So yeah, we're a little old for this to have happened. But we're both in a decent place financially, and I have good insurance (although I absolutely despise my job and my evil boss and I'm worried the stress is going to hurt the baby).

I'm not going to do anything cute, I think that would freak him out more and I don't want him to think I planned this or anything (I didn't). I'm just going to have an honest conversation with him and I will let him choose what he wants to do, since I've already chosen what I want to do. If he decides not to be a part of our lives, I'll be sad, but I'll be ok.

Thanks again lovely ladies.

It takes two to tango! Good luck. Be sure to update us with the reaction. haha

I hope he is excited!!

TurtleMonsters · November 2013

I'm 36 and this is our second, that we've been trying to have for a while now. I had some big life changes in work and wil be tackling expanding business and work hours in january, because I couldn't put everything on hold hoping I'd get preg. I was freaked to tell DH!
Seems like you have a healthy attitude over it all and can provide for the little surprise. I hope it goes smoothly and he sticks around. let us know!

chance_encounters · November 2013

I was a little nervous to tell my Husband because this pg too was unexpected. So I sat down with him and handed him a little box. I told him that I loved him and this gift is very precious and I hope he keeps it dear to his hear because it can not be returned. He understood when he opened it and was in total shock. I handed him a beer lol. It took a few days for the shock to wear off but he is very excited now. Good luck!

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