Is it rude to ask people to include a gift receipt for any presents?

janellemj928 · November 2013

We are team green and my friend that's due in December is also team green and she received a lot of gender specific clothing and hardly any receipts. I'm debating whether or not to include a note about it on the invitation.

avidkeo · November 2013

I would say rude to ask. Im pretty sure that most stores would be willing to exchange... besides is there really a big issue with boys wearing pink and girls wearing blue??

amhah09 · November 2013

Most stores will let you return for store credit even without a receipt so I think you'd be fine as long as you have the tags. I'd be offended if I saw that on a shower invite. I'd probably decline to even come, honestly.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

Yes, it's rude. Anything other than graciously accepting a gift and saying thank you is rude.

Mustardseed2007 · November 2013

Rude but also pointless.

A) It implies right from the get go that you may not keep their gift. And of course in a big gift getting situation you are likely to get doubles or change your mind about something. But it's not nice to be so blatant about it.

It's a lost cause to ask anyway. It's not like you have to tell people that gift receipts are available so make sure to ask for one, people know about gift receipts. They are going to remember to get one and include it or they are going to forget about it completely, in which case I don't think you asking about it is going to help.

rtv3 · November 2013

Yeah, people are giving you gifts out of the kindness of their hearts. To tell them you want to be able to return their gift if it's not good enough is pretty rude, IMO.

*sparky* · November 2013

rtv3 said:

Yeah, people are giving you gifts out of the kindness of their hearts. To tell them you want to be able to return their gift if it's not good enough is pretty rude, IMO.

Yes, this. I am sorry - I get that you may receive some things you can't use, and you'd love to be able to return the items for something you can use, but to put that in an invitation is like blatantly saying "I'd like to be able to return your gift for something I really want" and that is just rude.

JulianneJacks · November 2013

Yeah- it's rude. I would definitely re-gift something without a receipt if I got an invitation that said "attach a receipt" just to stick it to someone who made that request.

rbrouillard · November 2013

Yes prob not a good idea, but I get it I'm team green too. But for example, I received a wedding present of a coffee maker that wasn't on my registry (and received the one on my registry) but I knew it came from macy's, so they let me return it because that's where I registered. I would be concerned if you don't know where they got the clothes.

LEIGHLOVE09 · November 2013

Completely rude. A lot of stores give you credit for the stuff. It's not so bad. I returned/exchanged a lot and what i couldn't I kept and gave to others as gifts

DaisyJanie · November 2013

ColleenSwerb said:

It's completely rude. My GF did it earlier this year (the top of the amazon registry said "please include gift receipts" or something like that) and I specifically didn't get a single thing off the registry just to be an asshole (I made the baby a quilt, so I wasn't being a total asshole, but still).

That's especially dumb because if it's bought from the Amazon registry it's super easy to return to them regardless.

And to the OP, I suspect that people who buy frilly pink clothes for Team Green parents are not going to follow receipt instructions anyway

maelic · November 2013

Most you can do is ask your host/hostess to remind people you're team green in the shower invite (in a fun way, not in a BUY ME STUFF way) and not mention gifts at all.

loveyoga7 · November 2013

I voted that it's not rude because if someone ends up getting you a gender specific item how else can you exchange it? I would maybe state "Since we are team green and do not know the gender of our baby, please include a gift receipt with your gift."

This is the reason why my DH and I wanted to know the gender because everyone kept asking us and they also kept saying how are we supposed to buy anything for the baby if we don't know the gender?? Both side of the family know that DH and I are not big fans if the color yellow and green and there are hardly any gender neutral baby outfits out there. It just seems a lot easier on everyone to know the gender in our case.

AcaAwkward · November 2013

Tacky tacky tacky.

Although I think it's bizarre people would bring gender specific items to a shower where they didn't know the sex of the baby. I've been to several Team Green showers and no one did that.

AcaAwkward · November 2013

loveyoga7 said:
I voted that it's not rude because if someone ends up getting you a gender specific item how else can you exchange it? I would maybe state "Since we are team green and do not know the gender of our baby, please include a gift receipt with your gift."

This is the reason why my DH and I wanted to know the gender because everyone kept asking us and they also kept saying how are we supposed to buy anything for the baby if we don't know the gender?? Both side of the family know that DH and I are not big fans if the color yellow and green and there are hardly any gender neutral baby outfits out there. It just seems a lot easier on everyone to know the gender in our case.

Seriously? There are eleventy-billion baby items available that are not gender specific. Even clothes... We have tons of sleepers and onesies that were DDs that will work just fine for this LO (a boy). How do you think Team Greeners create a registry?

No matter what "team" you're on, there is bound to be a gift you want to return for whatever reason (duplicate, not your style, wrong size, etc). It's not too hard to figure out what store it's from... Take it to the store and return it for store credit. Not difficult.

cfthoct292011 · November 2013

I know people dont always follow the gift registry completely...but if you make a registry why ask for a gift receipt?. Theyre pretty much buying what you asked for. I had a problem with a gift i got for my wedding we were supposed to get a waffle iron and grilled cheese maker. Someone switched the grilled cheese maker out the box for a waffle iron, so we ended up with two. I mentioned it to the person that bought it and they returned it because target has a crappy No receipt no return policy. I wanted the gift the factory just screwed up. They had already recieved a thank you card by that time it wasnt mentioned until they asked if i used it yet. If something is broken or theirs a major problem just mention it to the person i say. Then again maybe its because i only have family to deal with.

hlm184 · November 2013

AcaAwkward said:

Tacky tacky tacky. Although I think it's bizarre people would bring gender specific items to a shower where they didn't know the sex of the baby. I've been to several Team Green showers and no one did that.

Funny story.

We had a baby shower last year for a coworker. Another coworker, older lady, came up to me and said "I couldn't remember if she is having a boy or a girl. So I got her something bi-sexual!" Everyone stared at her. "That's the word, isn't it? Bi-sexual?" "Uh... no. Gender neutral is the word. Bi-sexual means something very, very different."

AcaAwkward · November 2013

hlm184 said:

AcaAwkward said:

Tacky tacky tacky.

Although I think it's bizarre people would bring gender specific items to a shower where they didn't know the sex of the baby. I've been to several Team Green showers and no one did that.

Funny story.

We had a baby shower last year for a coworker. Another coworker, older lady, came up to me and said "I couldn't remember if she is having a boy or a girl. So I got her something bi-sexual!" Everyone stared at her. "That's the word, isn't it? Bi-sexual?" "Uh... no. Gender neutral is the word. Bi-sexual means something very, very different."

::dead::

I am trying to imagine what a true, bi-sexual gift for a baby might be...

AcaAwkward · November 2013

Ooooo, I've got it! Tiny jerseys from rival baseball clubs so the baby can bat for both teams!

J&NL · November 2013

Yes, it's rude. You can easily return/exchange baby items without a receipt.

Rrrrrachel · November 2013

And you know what, if you can't return it? Give it away. I got a bunch of clothes from my shower at church. Some of them I just didn't care for, so I just gave it to good will! No big deal and no skin off my back.

isamaraguirre · November 2013

Rude to some...not to others.

What you can do, is write a note in your invitations for gender neutral gifts.

AcaAwkward · November 2013

isamaraguirre said:
Rude to some...not to others.

What you can do, is write a note in your invitations for gender neutral gifts.

Maybe I'm way traditional when it comes to these things, but I don't think this is okay either. I think any qualification / instruction on gifts written on an invite or registry is tacky.

If you are THAT concerned, mention it to your hostess(es) so they can remind guests you don't know the sex of the baby if guests ask for gift guidance.

spocker · November 2013

Yes, it is rude - you are coming out and saying directly "I want to be able to return whatever it is you are giving me as a gift." And you haven't even seen the actual gift yet!

It is thoughtful to include a gift receipt with a gift you are giving, but it's not rude to forget it or not include it. It is very rude to ask someone giving you the gift to include the gift receipt.

Bluebird2318 · November 2013

It's rude because it indicates that you value the contents of the gift more than the generosity with which the gift was given. You can't dictate how other people spend their money on you, period.

Merlyna04 · November 2013

like I say " I am having the baby" I am only inviting people the I love and they know me I request nothing pink.

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loveyoga7 · November 2013

toothpastechica said:
I think its rude for the reasons already mentioned. Plus most box stores will return it anyways...and in response to @loveyoga7 I think its equally rude to gift a pink frilly dress to a team green baby....don't get someone/ask for clothes if you don't like gender neutral stuff.

If you do get something you don't like/have doubles of/don't need something you get, thank them, and then put it aside and take it back to the store and ask if they will exchange it, if they won't donate it to a cause/fundraiser or re-gift it without the person who gave it to you feeling slighted.

I never said that I buy gender specific clothing for team green showers. You obviously read my comment incorrectly. Since the OP mentioned that she attended a shower where people purchased gender specific items and the Mom didn't know if she could exchange/return because bot every item had a gift receipt. So I made a point that this is exactly why my DH and I are not team green because my Mom and his Mom want to buy gender specific clothing for their grand child. I do not expect gifts at my shower nor do I personally plan on making a registry. If someone wants to get a gift great! If not, I don't care.

So calm yourself.

Plus not very store will let you exchange/return and if someone does not leave a gift receipt and how do you know what store they even purchased it at? I guess you could ask the person who gifted it to you but wouldn't that be more awkward?

loveyoga7 · November 2013

ColleenSwerb said:

loveyoga7 said:
I voted that it's not rude because if someone ends up getting you a gender specific item how else can you exchange it? I would maybe state "Since we are team green and do not know the gender of our baby, please include a gift receipt with your gift."

This is the reason why my DH and I wanted to know the gender because everyone kept asking us and they also kept saying how are we supposed to buy anything for the baby if we don't know the gender?? Both side of the family know that DH and I are not big fans if the color yellow and green and there are hardly any gender neutral baby outfits out there. It just seems a lot easier on everyone to know the gender in our case.
Your family is stupid if they can't figure out what to buy for a baby that isn't dependent on the gender. NOTHING is dependent on the gender.

I am just blown away by your comment @ColeenSwerb. How is my family stupid again? Did you even read my comment about how my family knows that my husband and I do not like the colors green or yellow???

You are rude and your comments are so ignorant and demeaning. I really don't know why I took the time to even respond to your comment.

maelic · November 2013

loveyoga7 said:

I voted that it's not rude because if someone ends up getting you a gender specific item how else can you exchange it? I would maybe state "Since we are team green and do not know the gender of our baby, please include a gift receipt with your gift." This is the reason why my DH and I wanted to know the gender because everyone kept asking us and they also kept saying how are we supposed to buy anything for the baby if we don't know the gender?? Both side of the family know that DH and I are not big fans if the color yellow and green and there are hardly any gender neutral baby outfits out there. It just seems a lot easier on everyone to know the gender in our case.
Your family is stupid if they can't figure out what to buy for a baby that isn't dependent on the gender. NOTHING is dependent on the gender.
I am just blown away by your comment @ColeenSwerb. How is my family stupid again? Did you even read my comment about how my family knows that my husband and I do not like the colors green or yellow??? You are rude and your comments are so ignorant and demeaning. I really don't know why I took the time to even respond to your comment.

I actually also think that your family is stupid if they can't figure out there are other colors besides green and yellow. "My family doesn't know how to shop for gender neutral baby clothes" is just a dumb excuse all around.

JessieAlbin · November 2013

I call bs on anyone who claims they can't prepare for a team green baby. My MIL is so focused on knowing the gender so she can buy easier... But that's pretty much only because she is obsessed with the girly pink things or the blue things, etc, and would rather buy them than gender neutral. It's a preference. And one that makes me giggle, because when she was pregnant with DH, she did not know the gender, or that he had a twin coming. Pretty sure people bought her tons of baby stuff, and they got by just fine for both kids.

The folks who complain the loudest about not being able to buy anything because they don't know the gender tend to be from the time when gender prediction was unavailable or unreliable. So much for older and wiser. *eyeroll*

abbeylanecb · November 2013

I sell baby gifts all day long and never has a person come in and wanted to buy a specific gender when the person is team Green. That is very strange and I doubt your friend got many things that were gender specific.

Mamamonzo · November 2013

loveyoga7 said:

toothpastechica said:
I think its rude for the reasons already mentioned. Plus most box stores will return it anyways...and in response to @loveyoga7 I think its equally rude to gift a pink frilly dress to a team green baby....don't get someone/ask for clothes if you don't like gender neutral stuff.

If you do get something you don't like/have doubles of/don't need something you get, thank them, and then put it aside and take it back to the store and ask if they will exchange it, if they won't donate it to a cause/fundraiser or re-gift it without the person who gave it to you feeling slighted.
I never said that I buy gender specific clothing for team green showers. You obviously read my comment incorrectly. Since the OP mentioned that she attended a shower where people purchased gender specific items and the Mom didn't know if she could exchange/return because bot every item had a gift receipt. So I made a point that this is exactly why my DH and I are not team green because my Mom and his Mom want to buy gender specific clothing for their grand child. I do not expect gifts at my shower nor do I personally plan on making a registry. If someone wants to get a gift great! If not, I don't care.

So calm yourself.

Plus not very store will let you exchange/return and if someone does not leave a gift receipt and how do you know what store they even purchased it at? I guess you could ask the person who gifted it to you but wouldn't that be more awkward?

What stores do you shop at that don't have their logo on the tag? I just looked at all the stuff we have purchased all the tags say target kohls and so on. If there is no receipt look at the frickin tag... Not. That. Hard.

Sarahjess06 · November 2013

Most people know to add a gift reciept. And even if they don't, and you know what store it was they are pretty good about returning.

AcaAwkward · November 2013

loveyoga7 said:

toothpastechica said:
I think its rude for the reasons already mentioned. Plus most box stores will return it anyways...and in response to @loveyoga7 I think its equally rude to gift a pink frilly dress to a team green baby....don't get someone/ask for clothes if you don't like gender neutral stuff.

If you do get something you don't like/have doubles of/don't need something you get, thank them, and then put it aside and take it back to the store and ask if they will exchange it, if they won't donate it to a cause/fundraiser or re-gift it without the person who gave it to you feeling slighted.
I never said that I buy gender specific clothing for team green showers. You obviously read my comment incorrectly. Since the OP mentioned that she attended a shower where people purchased gender specific items and the Mom didn't know if she could exchange/return because bot every item had a gift receipt. So I made a point that this is exactly why my DH and I are not team green because my Mom and his Mom want to buy gender specific clothing for their grand child. I do not expect gifts at my shower nor do I personally plan on making a registry. If someone wants to get a gift great! If not, I don't care.

So calm yourself.

Plus not very store will let you exchange/return and if someone does not leave a gift receipt and how do you know what store they even purchased it at? I guess you could ask the person who gifted it to you but wouldn't that be more awkward?

(A) if you don't plan on making a registry, then you are going to have to do more guesswork on items you want to exchange. Making a registry will make your life a whole lot easier.

(A)(1) I think it's really bizarre to say "I don't expect gifts and I'm not creating a registry" and in the same breath say "but won't it be annoying that I don't know where to take things back?" PICK A SIDE.

(B) Even if you don't make a registry, most tags have the name of the store on them. I only had one item to return that required some sleuthing (Carters is sold at loads of places), and it really wasn't that big of a hassle to figure it out.

Serenla · November 2013

Wait there are more colors than green, yellow, pink, and blue? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?!?!

Serenla · November 2013

Holy shit! This stuff comes in red!

maelic · November 2013

Serenla said:

Wait there are more colors than green, yellow, pink, and blue? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?!?!

Nah, they used to be available but then TEH GAYS took over the rainbow and ruined it.

/hogs allllll the colors

Serenla · November 2013

@maelic said:

Serenla said:

Wait there are more colors than green, yellow, pink, and blue? WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?!?!

Nah, they used to be available but then TEH GAYS took over the rainbow and ruined it.

/hogs allllll the colors

God damn it! I want all the colors!

NYJodway · November 2013

I plan to find out if we're having a boy or a girl, but we're going to be in the dark for a couple of weeks. Every time I walk into a store's baby dept. I find something adorable that I want to buy for my baby. Literally, EVERY. SINGLE. TIME. There are SO many options for gifts that have nothing to do with gender whatsoever, including clothing. It really shouldn't be an issue.

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