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Acknowledgment felt good...

IBackBevoIBackBevo member
edited November 2013 in Success after IF
So I decided to treat myself to a massage today. The past couple of weeks have been some of the hardest of my career and I have a huge hearing (really more of a trial) on Monday. On top of that, I have been sick as a dog (cold turned into sinus infection), lo has been sick and teething and not sttn...plus, I am pregnant with high bp. At any rate, the massage therapist commented how tense I was...asked if I had been in a car wreck or injured my neck because that is what it felt like. I told her, no just stressed. She said so sympathetically, "What you are doing is hard. Having a stressful job is hard enough but doing it while you are pregnant is even harder. " It felt so good to have someone acknowledge that outloud and I didn't even realize it until she said it how affirming that was and how much I needed that as everyone in my life (coworkers, boss , dh, my mother, etc.) expects me to just go at the same intensity/stress level as I normally operate at.

Edit: posting just to share the thought in case anyone else needs to hear...what you are doing IS hard (whether pregnancyor IF or ttreatments or having a lo) and that deserves to be acknowledged.
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2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
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  • Dragonfly1226Dragonfly1226 member
    I'm glad you got a little time out to relax. :)
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  • queenbonequeenbone member
    Nice! Sounds like the type of service everyone could use.
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  • kmc84kmc84 member
    Glad you had some down time! Even if it was brief!
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  • mcgeevamcgeeva member
    Sounds like you needed a much needed massage and break! Hang in there and good luck at your trial!

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  • TJ1979TJ1979 member
    A massage sounds amazing. Glad you got some time to relax and some validation that what you are doing is hard, and you're doing a great job.
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  • Mr. & Mrs. WoodtickMr. & Mrs. Woodtick member

    Glad you were able to get some time to relax. Maybe you should try to schedule one more oftern if you can.


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  • imoveritimoverit member
    " I needed that as everyone in my life (coworkers, boss , dh, my mother, etc.) expects me to just go at the same intensity/stress level as I normally operate at."

    Ugh so very true. Making a baby is hard!!!! Glad you got a massage.
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