Talk me down, 2nd+ Time Moms.

littlemonstermama · November 2013

In the last few days I have become terrified of the newborn stage. My daughter was a hot freaking mess as a newborn. If it wasn't colic, it was only a few minutes shy of the three-hours-a-day-three-days-a-week guideline. There were days that I would be stuck with her in a dark bathroom with white noise on full blast on the iPad.

WTF if this one is like she was? What do you do with colic when you have a 2.5-year-old to watch? Cartoons? Bribery? Benadryl? Ease my mind here.

nunzchucks · November 2013

Did you read Happiest Baby on the Block? DD wasn't colicky, but the techniques in the book sure helped us!

flerlgirl · November 2013

I think you just adapt, you know? I only have one other kid so no experience but you adapt like you did for your first. I wasn't used to getting up at all hours, I had no idea how to change a diaper, and it was hilarious to watch me try to feed him at first. But I figured it out.

And maybe this one will be quieter

littlemonstermama · November 2013

Yeah we read it and had to live by it. We lived in an apartment at the time, and we would have to walk up and down the building halls bouncing her as deep as possible and shooshing the entire time. As soon as we'd stop, she'd start screaming again. I can't believe we didn't get evicted.

I also think I'm going to try giving probiotics this time because I've since heard that it can help with gas.

ElTrain5 · November 2013

I'm a first timer so I can't speak from personal experience, but my sister is almost 2 years older than myself, and I had colic so bad that I actually damaged my vocal chords and spoke with a "raspy cheerleader" voice until age 4. And my mother is, to this day, alive and for the most part undamaged.

She does occasionally reference "giving me to anyone who would have taken me" on multiple occasions, but she made it through. You can do it!!!

Edit: I should also add, neither my sister nor I remember any of that, so do whatever you need to do to keep sane. No one will judge you and your kiddos won't remember.

owlcup · November 2013

I'm scared too. DD and DS were the easiest babies ever. Their pregnancies were really similar. This pregnancy is already so different so I'm convinced I'm going to have a screamer. I know that makes absolutely no sense, but I can't help it!

Also, my sisters baby was colicky and she just had her second and so far, he has been really easy going.

TonyaCody06 · November 2013

If it was THAT BAD, I wouldn't be here again for the 4th time

You will adjust and manage like everyone else. Each kid is completely different.

For me: DD#1 was septic at 7mo and could have died. She was eventually diagnosed with IgA deficiency. DD#2 is healthy! DD#3 had pyleonephritis at just a few months old and has VUR (bladder reflux up to the kidney) and needs daily antibiotics and yearly testing. I am praying for a healthy #4 but it is all in His hands.

I would gladly take colic over these other medical issues. It's not permanent. You will adjust, I promise! I never thought I could handle all this issues but I have. You were chosen to be this child's parent

MrsCase1 · November 2013

I am hoping that with the distraction of another kid, I will get less worked about the hot messiness that comes with infanthood. "Hoping" being the operative word.

littlemonstermama · November 2013

Glad I'm not the only nervous one! even more glad to hear that so many 2nd babes were calmer.

AshB11 · November 2013

My 3rd had colic and silent reflux. He cried all day every day for almost the first 6 months. It was so bad no one would even ask to hold them. It broke my heart that no one bonded with my baby for months. We went to the doctor numerous times for them to say he was fine! I'd never heard a baby cry so much. I can honestly say had he been my first he probably would of been my last. As a first time mom I can imagine it would of been very traumatizing! All of that said all babies are different! #1 was cranky due to constant ear infections from her clefts but totally manageable. #2 was easy peasy go with the flow as long as he was fed. Also, once you've done it your more confident in the fact that "this too shall pass". It might be hard but you find a way to deal with it. But I'm praying for a much more calm baby this time haha. Not only was it hard on me but I don't imagine it's fun for the babies either:( also my colicky baby has turned into a sweet little toddler:) my easy baby was a terror toddler haha.

christinemurray91 · November 2013

Haha, DD was very colicky too... I went to my moms every chance I got because I was so overwhelmed.

Accept help wherever you can get it, thats my plan.

That being said, this baby might be super easy. Every baby is different

(that being said, I'm terrified of having two. I'm extremely lucky to have family nearby... and they will definitely be seeing a whole lot of me)

AnnieJar · November 2013

The one good (and bad) thing is that time goes by a lot faster with two. My DS was a difficult baby and the days and weeks just dragged by when it was just the two of us all day, every day. DD has been significantly easier but time has also just flown by. Between the two if them there is always someone to feed, to change, to clean up after, to play with, to put to sleep, you get the point. The days just fly by! I am hoping for a CALM baby but knowing how busy I am with two and how fast time flies as a result I can only imagine it will pass at warp speed with three. So if it is tough hopefully the worst will be over quickly!

littlemonstermama · November 2013

@AnnieJar that's a really good point. My husband had to go back to work as soon as I left the hospital, and I was alone pretty much everyday. Hopefully having the toddler around will be somewhat of a distraction from it, if the next one is also a crier.

Marcilene1 · November 2013

danielle4348 said:

I know it's a scary thought. I can tell you from my experience that DS1 was colic and had acid reflux and cried non stop for the first 4 months of his life. The only way for me to keep him calm was to wear him in a Moby so he was up close to me while bouncing on a yoga ball. I also read Happiest Baby on the Block and those techniques helped alot as well.

Good News is that he grew out of it and was a relatively easy toddler (until we hit the horrible 3s). Even better news, DS2 was the complete opposite. He was the most calm and relaxed baby I've ever met. He seriously never cried. So take comfort in knowing that not all babies are the same even if they have the same parents I'm actually a little worried about what #3 will have in store for me since I've already had complete opposites.

YetterEA · November 2013

I am there with you, but in reverse...DD was a complete angel, only cried when hungry, slept through the night at six weeks, etc. so I am worried this one is going to be a nightmare!

deepoceanmama · November 2013

TonyaCody06 said:
If it was THAT BAD, I wouldn't be here again for the 4th time You will adjust and manage like everyone else. Each kid is completely different.

For me: DD#1 was septic at 7mo and could have died. She was eventually diagnosed with IgA deficiency. DD#2 is healthy! DD#3 had pyleonephritis at just a few months old and has VUR (bladder reflux up to the kidney) and needs daily antibiotics and yearly testing. I am praying for a healthy #4 but it is all in His hands.

I would gladly take colic over these other medical issues. It's not permanent. You will adjust, I promise! I never thought I could handle all this issues but I have. You were chosen to be this child's parent

I have an IgA deficiency, too! OK, weird internet connection to your kid, but I've never ever met anyone who also has one. My body doesn't produce it at all (or in tiny, untraceable quantities). If it eases your mind for your DD, it has never affected my life in a big way at all. Truly.

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