May 2014 Moms

What would you do? ( read if your bored, pretty long)

Alright I know some of you don't agree with a gender reveal party but it was something I and my fiancé thought would be cute to bring our families together. Cute right?

Okay here's the problem. My fiancé and I have been together 3 years but my mother and father have lived in a different country the past 4 years so only some of our family have met. But the biggest problem is our mothers have yet to met. So anyways I thought this would be a cute ice breaker.

Alright getting to the point... My fiancé is arabic, he has ALOT of family. So I planned on the party being held at my parents house. Guest list SMALL- our grand parents, his parents and his aunt that lives with his grand parents. And my aunt and uncle. Well... It's like we're getting married and his mom wants to invite everyone. She says some other uncle and aunt need to come also her sister uncle and THIER kids. And and because it's two days after thanks giving his cousins will be in town, with thier husbands and children.

It's spiraling out of control and I'm about to call the whole thing off. It just sucks iv had my heart set on this. And I'm the most impatient person ever I just wanna know the sex already.

I give up... One I can't put a 30 person guest list of just his side on my mother.

And two.. I just ... That's its I give u

Re: What would you do? ( read if your bored, pretty long)

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  • Exactly the reason why I didn't have my baby shower with DD. :( it's a ridiculous list of people I don't even like that I HAVE to invite. Out of courtesy...and they will show up. I wanted one this time around too. But probably won't happen. Sometimes family can be a little too formal...so what if I don't invite you...it's my darn party and I don't want you there!

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  • kiyamurphkiyamurph member
    edited November 2013

    First off, make your fiance deal with his mom and his side of the family.  That can be touchy.  Have him remind her that this is not your wedding and all of his family can come to that, assuming you're not having a small wedding.  Tell her that this is a SMALL affair and that the list needs to be kept to a minimum and stand firm on that.  The same thing almost happened for my wedding shower because my husband's mom tried to invite some of her friends, people I didn't know from Adam, and I had him talk to her about how there was limited space at my parent's house and this was not our wedding.  It's easy for people to get excited and think that everyone and their mom can come, but seeing as this is YOUR affair, your future in-laws should have no say in who you should invite.

  • This sounds like a wedding...where it turns into being about everyone else and not about the most important people - you and your fiance (and the baby of course)! If it's getting more stressful than fun for you, I'd call it off. I think the pp's idea of just holding  a "dinner" at your house and not letting everyone know the true intent and then revealing it that way sounds like a good alternative!
  • I like Miles2Go idea. Call it off and just have nice dinner with your moms and dads. Then do the reveal.
  • I talked to my fiancé and told him it's just to much. This isn't want I wanted and he argreed. I was scree of hurting his feelings. I told him to talk to him mother. I don't wanna go there. I let him know I love his family but it's becoming way to much and originally this is suppost to be a meeting of the parents. Not his whole said meeting my mother and father. I told him of his mom wanted to host something later on with his whole side that might be a good idea. Were both on the same page thank god. Just have to see what his mother has to say, if she freaks then it's off. Not worth it.
  • I think @Miles2Go has the best idea. I told my mom in no uncertain terms that we would do a cake reveal, but that it's immediate family only. My parents, his parents, our siblings and their SOs. We're taking my Grandma a wrapped slice of the cake later.
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  • Jesus I won't be back till I learn to spell. Lol sorry guys. Hope you kinda or that.
  • GOT* that. Oh my.
  • @pandadair We're taking my Grandma a wrapped slice of the cake later.

    Lol that's cute.
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