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JessrianJessrian member
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So I'm close to 35 weeks and in my last semester of school. I stopped attending class about a month ago because it's over an hour drive and I have pain from spd. Not to mention I could no longer fit in the desks. I've done all the work up to this point except for a presentation and exam which is a take home one. She is being difficult about my attendance knowing that I'm this far along and we talked about this in the beginning of the semester. Now she wants me to come in and do the presentation the first week of December even though I'm not to travel after 36 weeks. I'm considering taking an incomplete if possible but this is causing a lot of stress and anxiety.
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  • mkhimmkhim member
    Can you send in a doctor's note?
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  • dbucksdbucks member
    You said you talked to her at the beginning of the semester, but what was said/agreed upon?

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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Did you ask permission to miss that many classes? What's the attendance policy?
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  • Evee30Evee30 member
    ColeRose said:
    As an instructor in college I will say that is a LOT of missed classes. Our school policy is after 6 the student receives a W or F, INC are pretty hard to get. I wouldn't assume you will just get an INC at this point. You need to talk with the dept chair since that is the only option I can see for you right now. Tbh I am surprised your Professor agreed with all of this in the beginning and she isn't being an asshole, she can get in trouble for allowing a student to miss that many classes.
    THIS! I am an instructor at a college as well. Our attendance policy is a W or F after 3 absences and 1 month (and the semester isn't even over yet) is a lot of absences. If your prof. had you completing extra assignments to make up for your attendance that is one thing, but frankly, you probably should not have taken courses this semester if you weren't sure you could pull it off, or you should have had an agreement set in stone. Frankly, if you can drive, you may be better off biting your tounge and doing the work. I can't imagine the dean would be on your side with this one. At the very least you would need a very specific doc. not stating you were unable to drive at all (1 hour is nothing). I have twins on the way, almost 33 weeks along and STILL teaching, but I definitely have back ups just in case and have been very communicative (ok, that was longer than I wanted it to be) good luck!
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  • zou bisouzou bisou member
    Jessrian said:
    So I'm close to 35 weeks and in my last semester of school. I stopped attending class about a month ago because it's over an hour drive and I have pain from spd. Not to mention I could no longer fit in the desks. I've done all the work up to this point except for a presentation and exam which is a take home one. She is being difficult about my attendance knowing that I'm this far along and we talked about this in the beginning of the semester. Now she wants me to come in and do the presentation the first week of December even though I'm not to travel after 36 weeks. I'm considering taking an incomplete if possible but this is causing a lot of stress and anxiety.
    It doesn't sound like you've attended enough classes to have earned a passing grade.  You have to earn grades, not negotiate your way into them. 

    I practice what I preach here too.  A medical emergency caused me drop out of two classes in college.  I never thought of going to the profs and asking them to bend rules around me.  It was my personal circumstances that caused me to miss critical class dates.  It happens.
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  • JessrianJessrian member
    For one our school doesn't have a specific attendance policy. It's based I Upon the professors discretion. And while she has one which is 15 absences she told me in the beginning that didn't apply to me given the situation. Two, I have completed all course work given to me on time and al of her exams are take home so in class lecture is pointless. Last, it's not just the presentation, it's the next three weeks of the semester left and a final,presentation. Which means I would be more like 38 weeks pregnant. This being my last semester I do feel she should be more understanding and realize that I could easily take the last exam and not do the final presentation and accept a B in her class but I'm trying to be diligent an d finish all coursework.
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  • BeachMommy2BBeachMommy2B member
    Jessrian said:

    For one our school doesn't have a specific attendance policy. It's based I
    Upon the professors discretion. And while she has one which is 15 absences she told me in the beginning that didn't apply to me given the situation. Two, I have completed all course work given to me on time and al of her exams are take home so in class lecture is pointless. Last, it's not just the presentation, it's the next three weeks of the semester left and a final,presentation. Which means I would be more like 38 weeks pregnant. This being my last semester I do feel she should be more understanding and realize that I could easily take the last exam and not do the final presentation and accept a B in her class but I'm trying to be diligent an d finish all coursework.

    It's understandable that you want to finish since it's your last semester. However she does not "need to be more understanding".... It is your responsibility to attend classes, lectures, presentations, etc. It's not fair to the rest of the class that attends. Also you are in college, they don't need to hold your hand through it. You have to be responsible and deal with whatever consequences come from not attending class or a presentation.
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  • greenbeanqueengreenbeanqueen member
    Think about it like this. If this were a full time job would you just quit or go to work? Many people commute to work over an hour, work a full 8+ hour day, then commute home. Most people, at least in my profession, dont get the option of taking 4-5 weeks off before the birth of their child. I am working all the way up to my schools winter break which begins 3 days before my due date. I am on my feet chasing 8 year olds all day, I stay late for meetings, I do all my duties just like the nonpregnant teachers, I make time for parent conferences, I'm helping DH through college.. Many ladies on here do all that and commute an hour. Lucky for me my commmute is shorter, but if it was an hour, I would do what I had to do. IDK what your degree is in, but in a job, you probably wouldn't have one at this point... I'm sorry it's not working out for you, but I would just try to make it to those things she wants you to make it to, or accept that you have to take an incomplete.
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  • zxifnswdjdfnzxifnswdjdfn member
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    It sounds to me like you didn't have everything worked out in advance, and that's a big deal in these circumstances. I was enrolled in two classes this semester, I spoke to both professors early on, and ended up finishing one class early. The other class I had to go work out an incomplete contract with the professor today because I had a doctors note from my OB stating that due to recent medical complications I was not going to be cleared to go back until at least 6 weeks after baby arrives. I'm glad that I had talked to my professor early on, and kept him updated throughout the semester. But for you to say "well we talked about it" isn't going to do much. Chances are you'd need a note from your doctor and probably be willing to take an incomplete if that's even offered at this point. My teacher had known it was a possibility in my case a month ago and he was super-supportive, and even though I was trying to finish out early it ended up not working. Have you just been missing class or have you kept her updated and provided proof of valid reasons for missing class? Attendance is a major point of most classes, if you've just been not showing up, it looks like you aren't committed to keeping up with your work.
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  • kaiteygrlkaiteygrl member

    Do you have a special condition that prevents you from driving an hour?  As PP said, I don't think that's the 'travel' OBs are referring to when they say you can't 'travel' after 38 weeks.  When you stopped attending a month ago, did your teacher tell you that you were excused for the rest of the course?  I was able to receive an incomplete for a class I took in the first trimester but that's because I notified my teacher prior to even being seen at the ER at the first sign of a complication.  She gave me my options immediately and I communicated with her daily until all of her requirements were completed.  I understand it can be frustrating, but if it's important to you I would think you could suck it up and get it done.  Even if you have to attend your last few classes and project. 

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    For crying out loud, go. I worked a half day today on my laptop from the hospital.
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  • cmsf1111cmsf1111 member
    I agree with previous posters.  It might sound harsh, but your professor is under no obligation to accommodate your pregnancy unless you have documented medical restrictions from your OB. Every special allowance your professor gives you is unfair to your fellow students. 
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  • amberproamberpro member
    All she's asking for is a presentation , right? 1 class?

    1hour drive, 1-2 hour class, 1 hour drive back. You'll have to suck it up for, at the most, 4 hours. Just do it. This is a non-issue.
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  • SigirSigir member
    Can't wait until you get into the real world and have to work a job w a commute up until you deliver. Ha! You're living in a dream world where you think that your prof should revolve around you. If you want to graduate class, do the work. I am traveling into Manhattan today to run a focus group. I am going to feel exhausted yes, but it's my job!!!!

    I would have loved to see the face of my boss/ hr dept if I told them, sorry I can't commute to work anymore, my doc says no travel after 36 weeks. Lolz!

    Sorry to be so blunt I am finding that I am calling it like I see it at this stage of pregnancy.
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    Sigir said:
    Can't wait until you get into the real world and have to work a job w a commute up until you deliver. Ha! You're living in a dream world where you think that your prof should revolve around you. If you want to graduate class, do the work. I am traveling into Manhattan today to run a focus group. I am going to feel exhausted yes, but it's my job!!!! I would have loved to see the face of my boss/ hr dept if I told them, sorry I can't commute to work anymore, my doc says no travel after 36 weeks. Lolz! Sorry to be so blunt I am finding that I am calling it like I see it at this stage of pregnancy.

    100% this! I commute over 45 minutes each way every day and have to put in at least 8 hours of work!  I am currently 34 weeks pregnant and I will be continuing this pattern until I go into labor which is normal in the real world!  At most some women will take off a week before their due date.

    If my daily workload consisted of a total of 2 hours of commuting, 30 minute presentation (most likely less), 1.5 - 2 hours of just sitting there I would be the happiest pregnant woman ever!  I would do this everyday with the biggest smile on my face!!!

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