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How many accidents are normal?

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DD2 will be 2 in a few weeks. In August she exhibited signs of being ready to PT, so even though it was on the early side, we went with it. It went much smoother than with DD1, and within a day or 2 she was just having an accident or 2 a day, even staying dry through naps. Three months later, though, she is still having accidents. Some days none, some days 3 in a row. Usually it's because there is something interesting going on, etc. She is wetting herself during some of her naps sometimes, too, in fact three times this week. She wears a diaper at night, still. DH is getting frustrated cleaning up after her, and I am super pregnant and getting frustrated as well. I can't change her sheets and can't kneel down and clean up after her all the time. DH wants to put her in pull ups, but I don't b/c she seems to wet those with no problem. I don't want to backslide, especially with a baby coming soon. Are these accidents a normal part of the process, or is she not really ready to go with underwear full time?
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Re: How many accidents are normal?

  • usernewnameusernewname member
    Part of the process. Some days are bad, some days are good. I always recommend to my parents (I'm a toddler teacher and I do a lot of TT) that children can't always recognize when they need to go before its too late. Can you put her on a 30-60 minute schedule? This will avoid the accidents.

    To be honest as well, whatever you do - don't go back. Trust in your daughter that she will get it :)
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  • JoannaJesJoannaJes member
    She is young, so you have two choices...deal with the accidents or do pull ups and revisit the potty at a later date. Both of my kids trained closer to 3, with hardly any accidents, so it's not necessarily part of the process for everyone. I liked waiting and skipping the mess until they decided it was something they wanted to do on their own.
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    florassecret said:
    Part of the process. Some days are bad, some days are good. I always recommend to my parents (I'm a toddler teacher and I do a lot of TT) that children can't always recognize when they need to go before its too late. Can you put her on a 30-60 minute schedule? This will avoid the accidents.

    To be honest as well, whatever you do - don't go back. Trust in your daughter that she will get it :)

    I comletely disagree, taking a toddler to the bathroom every 30 minutes sounds like my own personal nightmare. Also a great way to create some power struggles. I will say that the OP's daughter will eventually "get it" no matter what, that is the gift of time. Is it really worth it to be cleaning up urine 3 times a day until she does? What benefit does that provide? Will the child feel unsuccessful and start to rebel against the toilet completely? I think these are things to consider as well.
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  • mm&esmm&es member
    JoannaJes said:
    florassecret said:
    Part of the process. Some days are bad, some days are good. I always recommend to my parents (I'm a toddler teacher and I do a lot of TT) that children can't always recognize when they need to go before its too late. Can you put her on a 30-60 minute schedule? This will avoid the accidents.

    To be honest as well, whatever you do - don't go back. Trust in your daughter that she will get it :)

    I comletely disagree, taking a toddler to the bathroom every 30 minutes sounds like my own personal nightmare. Also a great way to create some power struggles. I will say that the OP's daughter will eventually "get it" no matter what, that is the gift of time. Is it really worth it to be cleaning up urine 3 times a day until she does? What benefit does that provide? Will the child feel unsuccessful and start to rebel against the toilet completely? I think these are things to consider as well.

    This is what I'm worried about--power struggles.  She's been really resisting sitting on the potty the last few days.  Mostly when she is tired or not wanting to stop playing.  I don't want it to become a negative experiernce, when it was so positive for a long time.  I don't know why it is changing.  I think I'm getting more impatient, and she is sensing that.  So I think the most important thing is that I don't allow myself to get frustrated and poison the whole process.  If that means putting her in pull-ups, I guess that is what I'll have to do. If I wasn't so pregnant I wouldn't mind cleaning up accidents, but I physically can't do it right now.

    I pushed DD1 too hard and it got us both frustrated and put the whole process back a year.  I don't want to do that again.

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    JoannaJes said:


    florassecret said:

    Part of the process. Some days are bad, some days are good. I always recommend to my parents (I'm a toddler teacher and I do a lot of TT) that children can't always recognize when they need to go before its too late. Can you put her on a 30-60 minute schedule? This will avoid the accidents.

    To be honest as well, whatever you do - don't go back. Trust in your daughter that she will get it :)



    I comletely disagree, taking a toddler to the bathroom every 30 minutes sounds like my own personal nightmare. Also a great way to create some power struggles.
    I will say that the OP's daughter will eventually "get it" no matter what, that is the gift of time. Is it really worth it to be cleaning up urine 3 times a day until she does? What benefit does that provide? Will the child feel unsuccessful and start to rebel against the toilet completely? I think these are things to consider as well.

    I fell into the category of taking him every hour and it was a TERRIBLE idea for us. Complete power struggle and very frustrating for everyone involved. I stopped that and let him just have a few accidents. I noted the times and now it's become pretty predictable when he has to go. He has a large bladder and is able to hold it so he only goes about 5 times a day. I was taking him waaay too much in the beginning and he was very frustrated!
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