NBR/AW- Wedding day tips

BlondieBia21 · November 2013

So as I'm nearing the day, I'm starting to stress about all the planning/things going wrong/forgetting something. Anyone have any tips/things you wish you would have done (or not do)/any general wedding thoughts/ life hacks for the day of the wedding to share with me? You ladies are pretty smart (well most of you) so I want to hear your tips!

ETA- I added AW because I realized after posting that this will bring a lot of attention on me lol.. Which really wasn't the point, I promise.

youtubebeauties · November 2013

First thought is....elope.

Leosmom13 · November 2013

I didn't over plan the day and it turned out perfect! Try and be laid back about the tiny details, and you will enjoy the day so much more!we asked our photographer to only take candid shots and nothing posed and the photos came out beautifully and so personal!the day goes by so quickly so soak up all the love and excitement!

nittanygirl28 · November 2013

I made the conscious decision to be done with all the worrying and stressing and managing by Thursday evening (wedding was on Sat). On Friday I enjoyed the day with my mom and the girls then had a great time at the rehearsal dinner. Saturday I reminded myself to "live in the moment" all day. Anything that happened became just part of the day and a story to tell later. I refused to be "working" at my own wedding. Someone else handled all the last minute drop off items, the photographer had a shot sheet before that day, a trusted member of the family handed out all of the tip envelopes - I didn't want to have to worry about anything on my wedding day. I wouldn't have changed a thing - was it perfect? It was to me.

WheeLinTheSky3 · November 2013

Enjoy your day, don't let minor issues rattle you/ruin your day.

Take time to EAT dinner, you will be starving later if you don't.

Take time to savor it and take it all in, it will be over so fast.

Make sure you pee before you put on your dress It's not easy going after it's on.

Make sure your photographer knows ahead of time which shots are "must have" (ie you and parents, you and bff, etc.)

It is YOUR (and your SO's) day, don't let other people's opinions/behavior sway you or alter your excitement (you know who I mean blonders)

Have an awesome day!!!

Mae0926 · November 2013

I could not agree more with the picture thing. That's the one thing I wish I did differently. Have a list of what pictures you want ahead of time, and go over with the photog. Other than that, soak it all in. Dance the night away and just have fun! It's your party

Revez · November 2013

Someone told me the night before to be a guest at my wedding ie: no planning, whatever happens (within reason) happens. I'm a stress head and it really helped me relinquish control during the wedding.

Also definitely go pee before getting into the dress. Oh, and bring a tide to go stick.

I'm excited for you!

MitsB707 · November 2013

This may sound small, but be sure to take photos with your dress down and unbustled. Somehow I totally forgot and never got pics of the train of my gown down. I'll always regret that.

At some point during the night, try to take a moment with just you and dh to take it all in. It goes way too fast.

Also definitely try and have a receiving line to greet all your guests. We had over 200 people and spent most of the night saying hello to people. Had we done a receiving line, definitely would have gotten a chance to enjoy ourselves more.

Oh, and don't let ANYONE rain on your parade. Maybe try and designate someone (like moh) to regulate if anyone tries to get out of hand.

CourtJack · November 2013

Write your speech down. So many people think they can wing it and end up flustered and forget important things they wanted to say

If you DO have to pee, it helps if you straddle the toilet facing the wall. Easier to manage.

EAT. Like pp's said. It's hard and you prob won't have much of an appetite. But just make sure you do.

Bring flats if you are in heels

Steal as many looks at your DH as you can. Those will be great memories of the day.

Dunno if those'll help. But most important is to enjoy the day. Expect things to start late and don't sweat it

[Deleted User] · November 2013

Call and confirm your services the day before. Or have someone do it for you. Our cake that we spent hours designing never showed up. I had dropped off my cake topper the day before and the front desk girl closed our ticket. After my aunt called the bakery they had to rush and throw together sheet cakes. So we have no cake pictures. I'm still pissed.

shootthemoon · November 2013

Resign yourself to the fact that something WILL go wrong and to be ok with it. Surround yourself with great people who will keep all the things gone wrong out of your hair on the day. It makes for great post-wedding stories with your friends.

TeacherMom210 · November 2013

I think the ladies above nailed it. Seriously take the vitamin C. I got sick two days into our honeymoon and was miserable for the rest of the time. I really regret that. Also, remember that although it is an important day, it is only one day in your entire life. Remember that the marriage is way more important than the wedding itself.

rh10264706 · November 2013

Delegate! Ask other people to do minor things for you the day of, like give your tips to the different vendors and other things like that so you can enjoy yourself! Also take time to eat something at your reception. Everyone will be trying to talk to you but it's important to take a few minutes to eat!

thoughtfulmommy · November 2013

I don't think you have to have the mantra that something will go wrong. I'm sure you have planned it all out. *if* something does go wrong keep in mind that no one will notice.

DH and I love thinking back and remembering special moments. Make sure you take it all in and spend time with your FI. It sounds weird but you'll both be off talking to guests. Don't just do the cake, dance, etc with him. Run off for a bit together, dance together, take shots together. It's all about you two.

Ignore your cray cray MIL.

Edited: typing is hard

TexasGirl81 · November 2013

Other than your professional picture time with your H, make sure you delegate some time even if it's 5 min alone with your H. Get some selfies, and some of you and him on your phones. Those are the most fun and when you look at the pictures you will know that you two were alone for those few moments on your wedding day.

KMck27 · November 2013

It flies by. Like others said EAT. I wish I had danced more. I felt like I was pulled in every direction talking to people. I did however ask the DJ to play a song for my mom and I to dance to while people were eating. It was perfect.
Also, spend the next morning talking to your husband about the evening. We left for our HM at 6am. We reminisced about the day the entire ride to the airport. It was really awesome.

Congratulations in advance...oh one more thing. Don't share a full sized bed with your 6 year old niece the night before. It was a terrible idea... I didn't get a wink of sleep, not bc of nerves, it was bc apparently my niece is a kick boxer while she dreams. Haha

AprilRaine · November 2013

I wish I would have made a checklist for my day-of items and given it to one of my bridesmaids to be in charge of. I forgot my sash & my bouquet at home & didn't have either during the ceremony.

nittanygirl28 · November 2013

Oh-someone told me to make sure if you're going table to table to greet guests instead if a receiving line-make sure you do it as a couple. Might sound like common sense but I've been to weddings where the bride & groom split up and greet their own friends and family. I feel like that sends a weird message. Plus everyone wants to see the bride AND groom!

ashleyamberRN · November 2013

Ok this may not be for everyone but I took a Tylenol pm the night before so I could get some decent sleep. And not only make sure you eat, but eat the dinner and the cake at the wedding. You spend all that time picking something delicious and most people forget to even eat much themselves.

LokiLahve · November 2013

Take it all in and live in the moment.

Don't stress the small stuff. There are a million details you think about as the bride that most people there don't even notice. The important thing is what is happening to your relationship that day, not that things go exactly as planned. Those small 'mistakes' make the day special.

Delegate to your bridesmaids! Try to think of all those little things that may stress you and hand out a list to each if them a few days before.

EAT!

Congrats!!!!!

BabyE143 · November 2013

Don't sweat the small stuff! Things will go wrong just pick your battles. If you relax your day will be so much more enjoyable.

I second everyone EAT. DH and I were so hungry when we got to the hotel we wanted to order a pizza (it was 1am) but we were so tired so we ate an entire box of chocolates while in the hot tub. Seriously, we weren't even thinking about sexy time we were just plain starving.

Speaking of sexy time if it's not out of your mind orgasmic the night of don't stress. Heck some people are too tired to even DTD. Hubs and I just made up for it later. A lot. Sorry not sorry if that's TMI.

Dance your booty off! And have FUN. I told people (after we made the rounds) that if they wanted to talk to me they'd have to meet me out on the dance floor.

I'm so excited for you!! It will be an amazing day and all your hard work/ planning WILL pay off!

V&G101808 · November 2013

I made my BFF the go to person. She sort of played interference. She answered my phone all morning and only came to me when it was something really important. She made sure I wasn't stressed, it was such a huge help.

Also, something is bound to go off plan. It's not the end of the world. When I received my bouquet I literally said WTF because it wasn't at all what I had ordered. But what was I gonna do? The wedding started in 15 minutes so I took a deep breath, told myself it's ok, and walked down the aisle. Little things will seem like a big deal but remember they're just that... Little things. Don't let them stress you out. There are much more important things to worry about.

kwhite27 · November 2013

Just have fun! It goes by so quickly so soak up every minute of it.

Snowbird7 · November 2013

1. Write your husband a sweet letter the night before, and have someone deliver it to him in the morning before the wedding.

2. Be a little selfish. My makeup artist was busy so another woman offered to do my makeup. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I said yes. Thirty minutes later, I looked like an orange Snooki. It was horrendous. Luckily, my original makeup artist stepped in and fixed the whole thing, but I wish I had been self-focused enough to say "No, that's not what I want."

MyBaby2013 · November 2013

So many amazing pieces of advice! I'll add to try to take a moment to read your vows OUT LOUD to yourself. Reading them in your head is nothing in comparison to hearing them out loud. It will get the "ugly" emotional cry out of the way so that you can get through them at the ceremony.

Have an awesome day! Remember there can never be a more beautiful you!

lkobriant · November 2013

It's been mentioned but EAT!! Accept that there will be minor issues, maybe designate someone you trust to deal with them so you can focus on you. Ultimately remember what the day is about, you and Fi!!

kkay1982 · November 2013

Everything said above is great advice.

Remember that if something gets forgotten or turns out differently than expected in all likelihood no one will know. You may have spent hours, days, weeks and months planning everything to a T but if you end up with mums instead of roses at the last min everything will still look amazing and no one will know.

Enjoy yourself! The most wonderful thing I heard about my wedding from a lot of people was how natural it seemed and how much fun they had. Have a schedule but be flexible. Just don't let any of it stress you out and it will be a wonderful day.

Cosmic+Love · November 2013

Lots of great advice!

I just want to add, be sure to post some pictures for us!!

RK125 · November 2013

1. No one will know if something didn't go as planned, only you and you dh will. Don't worry about it.
2. Eat!
3. Don't hug your bridesmaids directly after putting on deodorant especially if they have their dress on (so glad I had bouquets that laid in their arms).
4. DRINK!!! Alternate between booze and water. You'll be happier in the am!

MissyCee · November 2013

A lot of ladies already gave some great advice. I would say the biggest thing is to just allow yourself to have fun and enjoy every second as it's happening, don't stress over every little thing. I will say that I did hire a friend to be my wedding day coordinator and she worried about everything for me and made sure things ran as smoothly as possible, it was a huge help.

jsiconolfi · November 2013

It may be silly but if you are drinking a colored mixed drink have them but it in a soda glass with a straw. You are much less likely spill (I was lucky it was champagne that I dumped down my dress prior to ceremony not something else.) also just stop and look at all you accomplished planning a wedding is hard work. Be proud of all you did. Enjoy and best wishes!

PB102012 · November 2013

So I had a surprise wedding in my backyard last year. When I made my debut in my wedding dress (had changed from the cotton sun dress I had worn for the beginning of the party) and prepared to walk down the aisle, the music didn't play. Soooooo I am standing there with my Dad with everyone staring at me in shock.... I had to ad-lib while our pastor was fixing the sound. Apparently everyone thought I did a great job but I was terrified.

My point is that you have to roll with the punches.... Not everything will be perfect (although I hope it is), but it's your day and is about you. Enjoy every minute of it. You will make a beautiful bride!

My tip- have a shot before walking down the aisle... Calms the nerves. :-SS

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