DH continues to have no clue...

AmeliaKris · November 2013

Lo was up when I left for work at 6. I fed her before I left and pumped 3.5 more oz which I left in a bottle. She ate the bottle. ..which is fine since she eats more first thing in the morning. Otherwise we do 4 oz bottles. Just texted him. Its 9 am. He just gave her 6 more oz!!!! I asked him if she napped yet...he says no. She is TIRED not Hungry ding dong. This is why I get pissed. He overfeeds her and on Monday she isa tired bear and iI have to get her back to normal eating levels. I swear I'm gonna freak out on him. Vent over...sorry but I'm so mad and at work. Grrrr. Thanks dh.

Leosmom13 · November 2013

Men have no clue! That's all there is to it. My dh is the same! Ugh!

janneann1127 · November 2013

Haha, yeah they don't get it. You gotta write him up a strict schedule.

LJUTCMommy · November 2013

This is why I only have the bottles that go up to 4 oz.

It's hard when you have a fussy baby. Everyone just assumes she's hungry. Luckily, DH and the sitter have become better at reading DD's cues.

I did have to train them though, pointing out what DD does when she's actually hungry/ tired/ bored/ wet seemed to help a lot.

carrotcake06 · November 2013

Can you pre make the bottles? I'm super particular when it comes to their bottles bc we're dealing w a scarce resource here. I pre make and label all of their bottles. I know I'm fanatical about it, but damn it, I worked hard for those ounces.

kkay1982 · November 2013

DH just had his week home alone during the days with LO. He did ok on feeding but LO hardly napped at all. But hopefully they'll get in the swing of it soon.

But the thing he is clueless about is how to be quiet when others are sleeping. During the week I am up by myself after I feed LO and lay him back down and I try to be as quiet as possible so LO and DH can sleep in. But come Sat and Sun when it's DHs turn to wake up early to go to work he moves around the house like a loud grizzley bear. This morning I got up and started making coffee and he said "I thought you were going to sleep in this morning"...I gave him a pretty dirty look but it does no good to be mad.

nnikki10 · November 2013

Yea dh's solution to everything is feeding!! Can you write out a schedule til he figures it out? Just " baby eats then plays for about this long then she needs nap" pretty general stuff so He can start to understand her needs better.

sftbllstr87 · November 2013

It's so frustrating when everyone always assumes the baby is hungry bc they can't calm them down quickly! If I say he just ate then he's not hungry! Don't waste my BM I worked so hard making/pumping! I totally get how you feel lol

LiylaRae · November 2013

Yup SO used to do the same damn thing. I told him that he was over feeding her and that she needed to sleep. I think he is finally starting to get it!

If we don't put LO down as soon as she shows signs of being sleepy then she gets fussy which cues SO to think she is hungry when she just ate 30 min ago!

Ugh men!

ktballz · November 2013

I got back to work in January and H will have LO alone every Sunday and I'm worried about this happening. He can't even manage to take her for two hours in the morning while I hang out in bed alone. I agree with writing out a strict schedule for him or maybe showing him information on bottle feeding breastfed babies.

Bunnyfer · November 2013

My DH has gotten OK with feedings....Sometimes he over feeds her...but thats few and far between. My issue is with her diapers...She had a sharting blowout sometime last night...enough that it was on her PJ's and her snuggle nest. He had to known she did this....yet she was in it all night...I found it this morning when I changed her...meaning she was in poop all night....So we got a bath this morning, and I am doing poopy bedding....ugh

DaniB091 · November 2013

I return to work in January as well, and DH took that month off work to stay with LO. I'm concerned this same thing will happen. He always assumes he is hungry. He watched him for about an hour and half last night while I was making a phone call. LO was tired when I started the call, and DH knew that. Well, he said since LO didn't fall asleep he just gave up.... That led to a very fussy and extremely tired baby. When I finally got him settled down, poor thing slept for over 2 hours totally passed out. I told DH that he will have to make sure LO gets his naps in January. I think he started to understand after seeing how tired LO was.

thoughtfulmommy · November 2013

My DH and family are the same. LO needs sleep more often than food. So if he's fussy sleep is normally the solution

AmeliaKris · November 2013

Thanks ladies. I sent him a text stating that I know he is trying the best he can and I will write it all down to make it easier. She is sleeping now. I normally am able to pump 4 bottles at 4 oz a piece at work. I am gone from 6:30 am til 7:30 pm. I feed her and leave the rest in a bottle to use for early morning. She should then eat at 9, noon, 3, and 6. I explained to him that when he overfeeds her it doesn't match what I'm getting out. His other 2 babies were formula fed and he doesn't get it. I just figured having done this twice before he would know baby cues. Thanks for letting me vent...

PrimRoseMama · November 2013

Make a check list.

--changed diaper?
-- too warm or too cold?
-- tired?
-- hungry?

Hungry should always be last.

edenrivers · November 2013

Last weekend after DH asked LO for the millionth time,"Why are you so fussy? Are you hungry?" I finally snapped back,"He's fussy because he's a BABY." You'd think by rhe second kid he'd catch on.
I like the checklist idea.

mommabmb · November 2013

I write out a list and I make DH (or the sitter) text me immediately if they consider any changes more than a half hour from the schedule.

nittanygirl28 · November 2013

carrotcake06 said:
Can you pre make the bottles? I'm super particular when it comes to their bottles bc we're dealing w a scarce resource here. I pre make and label all of their bottles. I know I'm fanatical about it, but damn it, I worked hard for those ounces.

This! I feel like I'm always trying to squeeze out enough milk. I hate the thought of it being wasted or poor baby being overfed which will inevitably lead to tummy aches and/or spit up. I'm super controlling I guess. I label the bottles that go to daycare so he's fed in order since we sometimes have to alternate BM and formula.

boymamaco · November 2013

My guy has no clue either. Its so frustrating! I have wanted to come on here and vent a dozen times but realize its just part of the gig. I try to be as specific as possible with him and realize its OK if it does it a bit differently.

zora51 · November 2013

kkay1982 said:

DH just had his week home alone during the days with LO. He did ok on feeding but LO hardly napped at all. But hopefully they'll get in the swing of it soon. But the thing he is clueless about is how to be quiet when others are sleeping. During the week I am up by myself after I feed LO and lay him back down and I try to be as quiet as possible so LO and DH can sleep in. But come Sat and Sun when it's DHs turn to wake up early to go to work he moves around the house like a loud grizzley bear. This morning I got up and started making coffee and he said "I thought you were going to sleep in this morning"...I gave him a pretty dirty look but it does no good to be mad.

THIS!! DH is terrible about being quiet..and frequently burps, coughs, or farts loudly right next to LO right after i get him to sleep! I've scolded him for it sooo many times but it does no good! In the morning, he'll come out of the bathroom with music playing on his phone and lay it on the bed where LO and i are sleeping. Thaaaaaanks dude!!

Luckily i EBF so DH hasn't fed LO so cant overfeed him.

GL!

lialakacz · November 2013

why do men always go for the bottle? My DH does the same thing...if the baby is crying, there is a checklist you go down to figure out what's wrong...don't just pop a bottle! In our LO's first month, he was giving her 3 oz every hour one day. We went through 25 diapers that day.

girlmama83 · November 2013

orlaithsheanon16 said:
Men have no clue! That's all there is to it. My dh is the same! Ugh!

Eh. I hate when women generalize all men.

CaliforniaDream87 · November 2013

lindsey61811 said:

orlaithsheanon16 said:
Men have no clue! That's all there is to it. My dh is the same! Ugh!
Eh. I hate when women generalize all men.

Exactly, this. Just because you feel your husband doesn't have a clue doesn't mean all men are that way.

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