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July 2013 Moms
andrea0418
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Help! People holding baby (long)
andrea0418
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I need some help ladies! Let me start by telling you what happened last night.
We went to a birthday party for our friends daughter. DH works with the dad but I don't see them too often. The mom works at the hospital I gave birth so she saw him then and not since. The party was about 45 mins away and Ty slept on the way. He was happy as can be when we got there! As soon as we walk in everyone wants to see the baby and hold him. DH hands him off and everyone proceeds to pass my poor baby around and even let 3 little kids hold him. Of course Ty is crying because these are all strangers to him. Everytime I would get him settled down someone else would ask to hold him then he would cry again. I know that it's my fault and I can't be so nice. I just need to say no when people ask to
hold him.
As soon as we get in the car I'm in tears already and Ty is screaming. I tell DH why I'm upset and that We can't let him be passed around. DH then proceeds to yell at me and tells me it's my fault because I don't take Ty places and he needs to get used to people. Basically said he's ok with Ty crying, that's how he is going to get used to people. Oh and that I'm going to have to homeschool because Ty will be so attached to me. Poor baby cried all the way home and I cried too. It was awful and DH was so mean.
Now to my question...
We go to thanksgiving at DHs sisters and his side of the family. I'm already dreading going because everyone is going to want to pass around Ty and he is going to be miserable. But it's DHs family so how do I go about telling people no without looking like a total bitch? These people don't live far from us but have never made an attempt to form a relationship with Ty. So they are basically strangers to him. What should I do? Obviously DH is going to think its ok to pass the baby to every single person. I shouldn't be dreading thanksgiving already!!
We went to a birthday party for our friends daughter. DH works with the dad but I don't see them too often. The mom works at the hospital I gave birth so she saw him then and not since. The party was about 45 mins away and Ty slept on the way. He was happy as can be when we got there! As soon as we walk in everyone wants to see the baby and hold him. DH hands him off and everyone proceeds to pass my poor baby around and even let 3 little kids hold him. Of course Ty is crying because these are all strangers to him. Everytime I would get him settled down someone else would ask to hold him then he would cry again. I know that it's my fault and I can't be so nice. I just need to say no when people ask to
hold him.
As soon as we get in the car I'm in tears already and Ty is screaming. I tell DH why I'm upset and that We can't let him be passed around. DH then proceeds to yell at me and tells me it's my fault because I don't take Ty places and he needs to get used to people. Basically said he's ok with Ty crying, that's how he is going to get used to people. Oh and that I'm going to have to homeschool because Ty will be so attached to me. Poor baby cried all the way home and I cried too. It was awful and DH was so mean.
Now to my question...
We go to thanksgiving at DHs sisters and his side of the family. I'm already dreading going because everyone is going to want to pass around Ty and he is going to be miserable. But it's DHs family so how do I go about telling people no without looking like a total bitch? These people don't live far from us but have never made an attempt to form a relationship with Ty. So they are basically strangers to him. What should I do? Obviously DH is going to think its ok to pass the baby to every single person. I shouldn't be dreading thanksgiving already!!
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Re: Help! People holding baby (long)
He seriously couldn't understand why I was so upset!
@ramy3695 it pissed me off too!
Ty has only been on the outside 4 months! Of course he is attatched to me. Yes I have a moby and a ring sling.
Ty is a very happy baby. If all those people would have just talked to Ty while I was holding him last night he would have been fine. I don't know why people think they have the right to just hold every baby they see. But last night was a wake up call and I need to have a game plan for the next social event!
Karen - 36 DH - 39
We go to my parents every Sunday and Ty gets passed between my mom, dad, sisters, bil, sisters bf... But he knows them all and has spent sooo much time with each of them. I'm just going to tell DH that to Ty, handing him to his family members is like handing him to a stranger off the steet. I'm just so upset that I don't have DHs support!
When we got home last night I went right upstairs with Ty. When I came down this morning I saw he had done all the dishes and folded laundry. He must be trying to suck up because he knows he was wrong. He had to know I wasn't just trying to be bitchy last night because I was seriously bawling and I don't cry that often!
Your H needs to be bitch slapped.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
Me too!! Weirdly I am only "shy" about nursing when in laws are around...