Delayed Circumcision

JoJo716 · November 2013

I know this is a long shot and probably controversial but I am seriously struggling. I posted a while back on the ap board about this and got some great responses but I wanted to see if anyone here had this experience. When ds was born, dh and I agreed to have him circumcised. However, the ped who was going to perform the procedure, did not because he suspected ds had a urological issue and recommended we see a urologist. We did and he was diagnosed as having a chordee. The urologist told us to come back at 6 months and we would schedule surgery to correct it and perform the circumcision. So we recently went back and now the ped urologist informed us that he does not have the issue and is developing normally. However, we can still proceed with the circumcision. I am struggling with the surgery aspect. DS will have to go under general anesthesia. I am so worried about putting him through this whole ordeal for a circumcision. Has anybody else dealt with a delayed circumcision? If so, how was recovery?

botanicalbliss · November 2013

I would just leave it alone and not circ. Putting a baby under general anesthesia is not my cup of tea, but if you're going to do it still better to do it now when he won't remember the pain.

jedimindtrick · November 2013

I don't know if I would do it or not. I think DH would want it done though. I have a friend who had his chordee and circ done at 6 mo. Same exact thing, urologist wanted to wait on circ. He said it was really no big deal. We were thinking we were going to need to do anesthesia for our guy because his pedi thought the urologist would have to cut his adhesions. But luckily they used and ointment and pulled the skin back by hand. I was nervous about putting baby under but my friend made me feel better. They have pediatric anestheiologists who do this routinely. But being that it's unnecessary I don't know what I'd do. Good luck

mommatotwo2 · November 2013

That's a tough decision. Our first daughter had to have kidney surgery and the surgeon told us that anesthesia is as safe for any baby over 6 months old, as it is for an adult. If circumcision is important to you and you know that you will do at it some point, I'd probably do it now, so he won't have any memory and also before he is super mobile.

kcwnc · November 2013

I close friend's son had the same issue but both her and her husband wanted him circumcised. Though they were nervous as well he did fine going under and had nearly the same recovery time as our son did having the procedure done when we left the hospital. I personally didn't want to put my son through it but I left the decision up to my husband.

sundaesprinkles · November 2013

That's a tough one. I probably wouldn't do it. But I'm someone who was heavily conflicted about it and still am but gave in to pressure (DH) and had it done.

JoJo716 · November 2013

Thank you so much for your replies! This is the first time I have not felt completely alone on this issue. Only dh, my parents and a close friend know about this and they are so adamant in their opinions that we should proceed. They make me feel like I am crazy for even questioning it! At this point, I would prefer to not have the surgery. However, dh is adamant and it has been causing a lot of stress. Thank you again for your support. It is tough having to be in the position to decide if my baby has surgery. I almost feel like if we do the surgery, any pain or god forbid, complications will be my fault.

pnutg · November 2013

KateRN08 said:
I probably wouldn't do it at this point even though I'm pro circ

Ditto!

emmy236 · November 2013

DH was so pro circ before he was born but when the actual time came it broke his heart to see him in pain. I asked him about your situation and knowing how hard it was, he said he wouldn't do it now.

Kissimi21 · November 2013

Personally, I wouldn't. Anesthesia is risky for anyone and should never be taken lightly.

FmrAFBrat · November 2013

If you do decide to circ get a second opinion on the chordee. My older DS had a similar issue and if he had been circed already it would have been more difficult to repair.

Usually if it's spotted in the hospital, there's an issue. My DSs wasn't anything I would have noticed without an explanation it was so minor. I would worry that if there was a problem found and he was older it could be traumatic.

For my DS it was an outpatient procedure at 8 months and it really wasn't a big deal.

Lolalipsy · November 2013

My brothers were circumcised under general anaesthesia, granted they weren't babies, they were 4 and 8yo. They were perfectly fine afterwards and had minimal pain (getting a whole load of gifts helped).

I wouldn't do it now but I struggle with it at any age. Still, if it were important to me then I would rather get it out the way as a baby.

kmcd23 · November 2013

I'm not pro-circ, so I'm biased, but I don't think I could put him under general anesthesia for that unless it was really necessary.

Either way, good luck with your decision. Do you have time to decide and get ok with whatever that decision is?

snowgirl427 · November 2013

This is a tough one. I'd be Leary of putting him under, but am pro-circ. I honestly don't know what I'd do although I probably wouldn't do it...

surpriseaddition · November 2013

My first LO had to be put under to have MRIs done on her brain on 3 different occasions between 6 months and a year. For that, all they did was give an oral medication, which then wore off after a couple hours. Do you know what type of anesthesia they would use? Personally, the reasons you'd circ have not changed. I was against circ with my son, but the male ped really pushed it. He said he had several patients do it older, and the older they get the worse it is (we're talking teenagers). LO is still a baby so it should be way easier now than down the road.

JoJo716 · November 2013

@kmcd23 The ped urologist told us to think about it and come back in a year. He could tell I was not really in favor. However, I also feel some pressure because I feel like if we are going to do it, we should do it soon. I have never had an 18 mo old but I am concerned recovery would be tougher at 18 mo vs say 7 or 8 mo.

littledaisies · November 2013

@JoJo716 My son will be getting circumcised in December. We planned on doing it as soon as he was born but the urologist advised us to wait due to a webbing issue. The doctor said the circumcised couldn't be done precisely due to the webbing. We opted to wait to get both taken care of at the same time. I thought about delaying the procedure or skipping it but after talking it over with our doctor, we decided to get it done now. Our doctor explained that it will be easier to get it done earlier especially before our son starts going through separation anxiety. I'm very nervous about having him go under general anesthesia but I feel like getting it done before he can remember it will be easier on everyone.

bhjones1980 · November 2013

We are in the same boat, we didnt do the circ at birth since the doctor suspected mild hypospadias, but a urologist cleared him for that when he was about 10 weeks old.

We are waiting until he is a year old, that is the youngest our recommended urologist will put a baby under.

I am also having second thoughts about it now since I am really worried about putting him under, but DH is adamant he gets circ'd

Shelynla · November 2013

That's tough. My son has chordee and is having a procedure done to fix it, as well as the circumcision, on 12/9. I am nervous about it because of the anesthesia, so I can understand that! That said, our first son is circumcised, and I think we would probably would lean towards having it done anyway if we were in your situation. Even for the procedure he's going to have, the doctor said that it's a pretty quick recovery. Good luck in making a decision!

Oohgurl · November 2013

I don't know what I would do but I asked my DH what he would do in this case and he said to would do the circ. He said if his daddy is circ'd then he will wonder why his is different. That is my DH's opinion anyway.

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