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Soft cup vs. Diva?

Mrsbuttercup0806Mrsbuttercup0806 member
edited November 2013 in LGBT Parenting
Good morning! I am in a hetero marriage but my husband is mostly unable to ejaculate during sex. While we wait for my referral Dr. appt. I thought we could give the cups a try, just looking for a recommendation of which kind? I do already have a Diva cup and have used soft cups - I was just wondering which one seemed more user friendly full of sperm ;P. I thought you guys might be the pros in this area. Thanks!
First comes Love Nov 11,  2003, Then Marriage: Aug. 23, 2006. Baby??? TTC since May 2010. Started seeking additional medical intervention (again) Summer 2013, finally appointment is booked!
Formerly buttercupaug 06 - and I was almost silver :(
PAIF/SAIF/PGAL/PAL ALL WELCOME!
Aug 16, 2013 - SA done - All good strong numbers
Apr 3, 2014 - Consult with OBGYN to get my testing started.
Mar 6, 2014 - Surprise BFP!!!! EDD Nov 9th. Consult with OBGYN changed to prenatal meet and greet!
May 2, 2014 - NT scan perfect! Can't wait to find out what team we're on. 
June 11, 2014 - it's official, we're TEAM PINK!!!
Welcome Piper Laine!! November 10, 2014
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Re: Soft cup vs. Diva?

  • trisholiotrisholio member
    I have not used either, we use a sterile cup (similar that you would pee in at the dr office) and then use a needless syringe to insert the sperm.  We have purchased the items from a medical supply store and also got a few from our RE office.  

    Best of luck to you and your husband!
    T & G My wife and I married 9/10/11 in Niagara Falls, NY
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  • Mrsbuttercup0806Mrsbuttercup0806 member
    @Kaysa2 - he would ejaculate into the cup and then we would insert it over the cervix for an hour or so to get the sperm where they need to go - he isn't able to ejaculate during sex very often due to sensitivity issues so it's tough to actually get the sperm anywhere near the cervix LOL. Thanks @trishoilio!
    First comes Love Nov 11,  2003, Then Marriage: Aug. 23, 2006. Baby??? TTC since May 2010. Started seeking additional medical intervention (again) Summer 2013, finally appointment is booked!
    Formerly buttercupaug 06 - and I was almost silver :(
    PAIF/SAIF/PGAL/PAL ALL WELCOME!
    Aug 16, 2013 - SA done - All good strong numbers
    Apr 3, 2014 - Consult with OBGYN to get my testing started.
    Mar 6, 2014 - Surprise BFP!!!! EDD Nov 9th. Consult with OBGYN changed to prenatal meet and greet!
    May 2, 2014 - NT scan perfect! Can't wait to find out what team we're on. 
    June 11, 2014 - it's official, we're TEAM PINK!!!
    Welcome Piper Laine!! November 10, 2014
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  • GoaliesWife123GoaliesWife123 member
    edited November 2013
    We used the softcup for our first two at-home ICI's. Neither of those resulted in a positive, but I did feel like the sperm was in the right place and able to get where it needed to go. One of the most important things to do, practice. The second most important thing to make sure to do is to have an orgasm. I know that might be a personal thing and TMI to talk about but do some research and you'll see why I'm giving you that advice. Best of luck. 

    TTC our first. Married to, and madly in love with, my beautiful wife. Living with our fur baby and enjoying 19 nieces and nephews. 
    • DW and I have been tracking, preparing, getting medical testing since January 2013.
    • First Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 08/02/13: BFN
    • Second Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm 09/11/13, 09/13/13, 09/15/13: BFN
    • Third Cycle: Unmedicated ICI w/ Donor Sperm: 10/13/13, 10/15/13, 10/17/13, 10/21/13: BFN
    • January 2014: Sonohysterogram shows excellent lining & tubes have no blockages
    • Fourth Cycle:  Monitored clomid cycle  w/ ICI's at home: 1/24/14 and 1/25/14. Ovulation verified:  BFN
    • Fifth Cycle: 02/2014 Femara 5mg with ovidrel trigger CD14: BFN
    • Taking a few months off to evaluate if we want to keep trying


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  • wishiwaspreggowishiwaspreggo member

    Yeah, I'd definitely try to orgasm if I was doing ICI.  It contracts all the organs and helps pull the sperm into your uterus.  We orgasm for a reason, right? :)

    During IUI, though, I don't think it really matters because the sperm is already in the uterus.  They'll make it up to the Fallopian tubes on their own.

    Good luck!  I'd try to find a cup that was comfortable in your situation.  Maybe some pre-seed to help it out a little?  I've heard a lot of straight folks talk about that being helpful for them.

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