public meltdown and bad night vent

coffeeandbooks · November 2013

So we had a guest in from out of town (one of our single friends) and we took him for a day hike. DH wanted a short hike but I actually was opting for a longer one because normally LO takes his best naps in the carrier while walking.   Except today he didn't and he only slept for half the hike. So, yep, I made a bad call. We had lunch plans for after the hike and LO was overtired and he had our first real full on public meltdown in the restaurant. There was high pitched screaming and crying. Everyone is giving me stink eye because I am the mother including DH because he blames me for the fact that we went on the long walk.   My house guest is totally red from embarrassment.
We get the check and pack our stuff to go and then go through a really wretched car ride home.   When we get home, DH and our friend go into the living room to play guitars and I am just trying to decompress . I then want to put LO down in the bedroom but DH is still playing music nearby..
LO and I then proceed to have the most epically bad put down session ever..(as I write this I am not even sure it is over) in part because DH is keeping him up with the music...
Anyway, in the midst of LO screaming, I finally say to DH hey can I talk to you and then ask him to please go downstairs away from our bedrooms.   And then he is mad because I reprimanded him in front of his friend.
So anyway it sucked...DH is blaming me for LO crying and embarrassing him...and we are fighting in front of company who is probably like omigod I am never having children

another day in paradise....

pnutg · November 2013

It happens to everyone. Don't feel too bad! And I definitely hush my husband when the baby's sleeping and he's being a little too loud.

surpriseaddition · November 2013

All I can say is when you're the one in it....it always seems way worse. I'm sure your houseguest isn't thinking as much about it as you think. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day!

JoJo716 · November 2013

I am so sorry! I know that feeling and it sucks. I have found that most people understand though. When ds starts to meltdown in public and I start getting embarrassed, thankfully the people around me have said, relax, it's a baby! I agree with pp's that it always seems worse when you are in it.

TradeMama · November 2013

I've been there. There are good days and bad days.... Then there are great days that make you forget the bad ones. Hang in there.

Boo0512 · November 2013

I'm sorry you had a crappy day. As parents, we're all going to have those days. I hope you have a better day tomorrow!

mammie · November 2013

I'm sorry you had such a rough day. I can completely relate DD had an epic meltdown on the bus one day to the point that we had to get off the bus. I nursed her on the side of the road and then waited till the next bus came. The whole bus just kept looking at me like I was the worst mother.