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  • EmilyA724 said:

    @EmeJay - My problem is the inverse of yours!   My very religious Christian friend really, really wants to be the godmother of C and I's future child.  She's C's best friend from childhood and she's brought it up with us many times.  C is really uncomfortable with it because we aren't religious.  And while I love our friend, I kind of worry that she'll tell things to our child that I'm not comfortable with.  We have a lot in common, but we strongly disagree when it comes to religion and politics.  We avoid talking about it because neither of us will see eye-to-eye.

    It's really hard because we're gay and she's an Evangelical Christian. 

    It's not a problem we have to face now but I admit it's in the back of my mind and I don't know what to do. 

    That probably didn't help.  But I at least kinda know how you feel.  It's hard.

    If you aren't religious are you going to baptize your child? If you aren't, then that's at least a problem solved without having to offend any one.
    Unfortunately, people take offense that you don't plan to baptize. The choice to not believe is seldom respected.

    ETA: In my experience.

    I'm having a quote fail above, but away.

    Yes to this, my mother gave my non-religious sister nonstop grief until she agreed to baptize her child. I however, am far more experienced at ignoring our mother and have no plans to baptize any future children.

    I will take them to a variety of churches when they're old enough, so they can get the feel of things and make their own decisions.

    This is my stance too. I plan to(who knows if it'll work) educate my children on a variety of religions. If they chose to believe in something, I will support it. They can get baptized if & when they choose. My family will get over it. 
    I was raised Catholic in an Italian-American family so being Catholic is part of my family tradition more than just being religion. My mom had a hard time when I put my foot down against being married in a church, because she felt like I was turning my back on family tradition. Luckily, we made it through that fight and now she understands, so I don't think baptism will be such a big fight. I'm just very up-front with her about my plans so there aren't any surprises.

    I love religions as an idea though and think they're fascinating. I have already saved a lot of children's books that discuss various religions for my future children.
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  • I want the desire to get pregnant to go away. 

    I really never thought in a million years that I would get pregnant this "late", suffer a miscarriage and then try so adamantly to get pregnant again.  This is such a complicated process - who knew? I spent the majority of my life trying not to get pregnant and now, BOOM. It's like an atom bomb - life turned upside down.  Life would be much simpler if I just didn't care - but I do.  I feel vulnerable and unsure, inadequate and lost. 

    I also feel so foolish. I'm learning so much about my body and kicking myself in the arse for not learning earlier. These doubts and insecurities come and go, looking forward to better days.
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    EmilyA724 said:

    @EmeJay - My problem is the inverse of yours!   My very religious Christian friend really, really wants to be the godmother of C and I's future child.  She's C's best friend from childhood and she's brought it up with us many times.  C is really uncomfortable with it because we aren't religious.  And while I love our friend, I kind of worry that she'll tell things to our child that I'm not comfortable with.  We have a lot in common, but we strongly disagree when it comes to religion and politics.  We avoid talking about it because neither of us will see eye-to-eye.

    It's really hard because we're gay and she's an Evangelical Christian. 

    It's not a problem we have to face now but I admit it's in the back of my mind and I don't know what to do. 

    That probably didn't help.  But I at least kinda know how you feel.  It's hard.

    If you aren't religious are you going to baptize your child? If you aren't, then that's at least a problem solved without having to offend any one.
    Unfortunately, people take offense that you don't plan to baptize. The choice to not believe is seldom respected.

    ETA: In my experience.


    We plan to baptize our baby.  We're looking for a church agreeable enough for us to join.  C's brother found out when he was little that he wasn't baptized and freaked out because other kids said he's going to go to Hell.  I'd rather avoid that and besides, my family thinks it's important.

    I do have an issue with having a godparent who is supposed to lead our child spiritually.  I'd rather my child not be indoctrinated into things I don't believe.  If he or she wishes to make that choice later, I will absolutely support them.  I want my kids to be have a religion, if they want one, and I'll teach them what I know.  But I am agnostic, and having an evangelical godparent goes against my beliefs.  We've discussed her role as a special aunt, but... I don't know, I'm conflicted.  I have godparents and they're far from spiritual guides.  They just sent me birthday cards up until I turned 18.

    ETA: I live in the Bible Belt, so my kids WILL be told terrible things.  We're trying to do as much damage control as possible and these are the things we have to think about. 

  • Ok. Here goes:

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  • Krispy Kremes are way too sweet

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  • I'm pretty sure if y'all went out and got Krispy Kremes, I would feel much better about myself.

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  • I'm pretty sure if y'all went out and got Krispy Kremes, I would feel much better about myself.

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    You know.. I may have to go out of my way to get some today. Just for you.
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  • I have a very childish FFFC I've been dying to post all day.

    Tomorrow is opening day of deer season and we get together with DHs family and get into the woods. Starting last year, BILs gf started coming with us and since then, I have made it my goal to get a deer before her. She and I are the only ones who have never taken a deer, so I have become instantly competitive. She also had expensive equipment and a gun her dad bought her, as well as skipping school/work to go hunting. Last year she complained to her dad on the phone for an hour about how FIL shot a deer she wanted to shoot but didn't for some reason. Her entitled attitude makes me want to get one before her soooooo bad.

    Wish me luck tomorrow!
  • I cut my finger on a banana today. I feel pretty fucking stupid cutting my finger on fruit, let alone one of the softest fruits ever.

    I guess I should explain that I was splitting a bunch in half and the skin got wedged under my fingernail. It's still pretty silly.

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  • Late checking in but here's one brought upon by something someone said a little earlier in here.

    Call me sensitive Sally, but it really grinds my gears when someone says something like "you can't understand because you don't have kids."

    My BFF says this constantly and I have not yet had the balls to say anything to her about it, and I probably never will.

    And um, duh? Do you think I have no clue that my life and view of the world is going to be knocked on its ass when I finally get to take my own home?

    I feel like it's an exclusive club.
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  • 55 said:

    This might be the lamest one, but....I have done nothing for the past hour even though I really had to pee because my timid, adopted cat who has always run from us stepped onto my lap, laid down, and went to sleep. I may have cried some happy tears. We got him on September 9. This is the first time he has ever been in my lap, and it was incredible. I was nearly as happy as if I was holding my newborn for the first time. 

    That's awesome! We adopted a cat in March and he's just starting to sit on or near us.
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  • Sometimes I get confused and can't remembered if it was TeeJ526 that I spammed or Jaytee16 

    I like your spam. :D
  • I live by the rules that says something about not judging or hating on someone else who has it worse off than me. Someone loses their health coverage? Yup, worse off than me.
    Yep. I won't judge someone that is living on a tight budget and trying to make ends meet that gets upset when something like that gets pulled out from under them. For some, that plan is all they can afford.

    I judge people like DH's niece that are whining because their premium went up a few dollars a week, their deductible increased a bit, and she doesn't want to pay. She looked into switching her daughter to a private plan and got pissed when A) it wasn't cheaper than her employer plan (duh) and B) they asked for optional statistical information. And they are planning on trying for another kid starting like now. And she's been announcing that all over FB for week.

    FFFC? I hope she has secondary IF at least long enough for them to get their shit together. They can't afford the one they have and there's no way they can afford day care for an infant and DH's 82 year old mother cannot do full time care for a newborn (she's the one that will end up with it). Though since they won't be able to afford proper treatments, she'll likely end up doing unmonitored Clomid and end up with twins. At least then she would stay home with the kids and not shove them off on the elderly.



    You hope she has secondary IF?? How did this thread get to 9 pages without anyone else picking up on what a shitty thing this is to say?
  • TeeJ526 said:
    Sometimes I get confused and can't remembered if it was TeeJ526 that I spammed or Jaytee16 
    I like your spam. :D
    I should just spam you both in perpetuity. I'm sure @Jaytee16 has an opinion but it won't matter
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  • I live by the rules that says something about not judging or hating on someone else who has it worse off than me. Someone loses their health coverage? Yup, worse off than me.
    Yep. I won't judge someone that is living on a tight budget and trying to make ends meet that gets upset when something like that gets pulled out from under them. For some, that plan is all they can afford.

    I judge people like DH's niece that are whining because their premium went up a few dollars a week, their deductible increased a bit, and she doesn't want to pay. She looked into switching her daughter to a private plan and got pissed when A) it wasn't cheaper than her employer plan (duh) and B) they asked for optional statistical information. And they are planning on trying for another kid starting like now. And she's been announcing that all over FB for week.

    FFFC? I hope she has secondary IF at least long enough for them to get their shit together. They can't afford the one they have and there's no way they can afford day care for an infant and DH's 82 year old mother cannot do full time care for a newborn (she's the one that will end up with it). Though since they won't be able to afford proper treatments, she'll likely end up doing unmonitored Clomid and end up with twins. At least then she would stay home with the kids and not shove them off on the elderly.



    You hope she has secondary IF?? How did this thread get to 9 pages without anyone else picking up on what a shitty thing this is to say?
    I stopped reading the health insurance posts because it made me cry. True story
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  • TeeJ526 said:
    Sometimes I get confused and can't remembered if it was TeeJ526 that I spammed or Jaytee16 
    I like your spam. :D
    I should just spam you both in perpetuity. I'm sure @Jaytee16 has an opinion but it won't matter
    >:)
    @BlackBooks - bring it on, I love me some spam! My FFFC: I get a little more excited than I probably should when I see that little red notification at the top of my screen - I can't wait to see what amusement awaits me on my wall!
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  • Lets not all clutch our pearls and pretend we have never wished that certain people would stop procreating.

    I will say however that I feel like its bullshit GM can make that comment while in the same thread gasping that someone doesn't feel bad someone else is losing health insurance coverage. Then again, who's surprised.
  • Late to the party, but today I was trying to decide between Panera and Chipotle on the way home from work. They're across the street from each other so distance wasn't an issue and I couldn't decide which one I was feeling more.

    The deciding factor was that Panera has a drive-thru so I didn't have to get out of the car.
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  • Late to the party, but today I was trying to decide between Panera and Chipotle on the way home from work. They're across the street from each other so distance wasn't an issue and I couldn't decide which one I was feeling more. The deciding factor was that Panera has a drive-thru so I didn't have to get out of the car.
    I went to an Atlanta Bread today for the first time. I knew that it was "like" Panera, but I had no idea HOW SIMILAR. Holy crap, the way you order, the way you wait...

    PS the Champagne Brie salad with Grilled chicken ontop was AMAZING.... 
  • My confession....I am trying so hard to "fit in" with people who understand what I am going through with IF (here on the bump and just attended a support group tonight) but I feel more alone than I ever have in my whole life.
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  • Honey127 said:
    My confession....I am trying so hard to "fit in" with people who understand what I am going through with IF (here on the bump and just attended a support group tonight) but I feel more alone than I ever have in my whole life.
    :( I'm sorry you feel that way. 

    Thank you for responding....I needed this tonight more than you know.
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  • jaytee16 said:




    TeeJ526 said:

    Sometimes I get confused and can't remembered if it was TeeJ526 that I spammed or Jaytee16 

    I like your spam. :D

    I should just spam you both in perpetuity. I'm sure @Jaytee16 has an opinion but it won't matter
    >:)

    @BlackBooks - bring it on, I love me some spam!

    My FFFC: I get a little more excited than I probably should when I see that little red notification at the top of my screen - I can't wait to see what amusement awaits me on my wall!

    @jaytee16 You have a special place in my <3 because I think you were the first person to spam my wall. :)
  • Honey127 said:

    My confession....I am trying so hard to "fit in" with people who understand what I am going through with IF (here on the bump and just attended a support group tonight) but I feel more alone than I ever have in my whole life.

    I'm really sorry you feel that way. :( ::creepy internet hugs::

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  • stufie said:

    I wish we had Krispy Kreme. We may have poutine but I feel like I am missing out on some sweet American foods.

    We have KK here - they even sell them at Costco
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  • EmeJay said:
    I wish we had Krispy Kreme. We may have poutine but I feel like I am missing out on some sweet American foods.
    We have KK here - they even sell them at Costco

    Jealous. I have never seen them in our province!
  • Honey127 said:

    My confession....I am trying so hard to "fit in" with people who understand what I am going through with IF (here on the bump and just attended a support group tonight) but I feel more alone than I ever have in my whole life.

    I'm really sorry you're feeling this way @Honey127. I'm here if you want to talk or vent or need some wall spam ;) (((Hugs)))
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  • Late to the party, but today I was trying to decide between Panera and Chipotle on the way home from work. They're across the street from each other so distance wasn't an issue and I couldn't decide which one I was feeling more.

    The deciding factor was that Panera has a drive-thru so I didn't have to get out of the car.




    Panera has a drive-through!!!!!???????? Where the fuck have I been?

    The one by my last home didn't, but when we moved we found the one by our new place does! I was so excited!
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