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June 2013 Moms
GalLaura
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I screwed up. Long.
GalLaura
member
We were invited to a wedding today. On the invite the baby was invited too. It's about 1.5 hours from where we live. I said maybe we shouldn't go because it will be hard with a baby when we got the invite. My dh said it would be fine. I don't know the people but my dh has for a long time.
Anyway, flash to yesterday. I'm a bit stressed about going. Our lo isn't sleeping well and breast feeding at this place doesn't sound like a good time. My dh tells me to chill about it.
So today is where the shit hits the fan. Lo barely slept last night, the 25 minutes he did, I took a shower. I start to freak about what I'm going to wear. I hadn't bought anything because who has time to shop, we have one car and no stores around here. I also have no idea where to shop in Sydney for clothes especially since I'm breast feeding. Now The baby is awake, my dh decides he's going shopping for shoes for our trip in January. It's 10 and we need to leave at 12. The baby wakes up, I look at myself and think you look awful. You need a hair cut and color, (so much grey now and haven't had color since before baby was born). Some of my pre baby clothes fit and I try them on but look huge, and how am I going to breast feed in them. My dh comes home and needs a nap before we go. Now the baby is overtired. I can't get him to sleep. Dh finally gets up and is like you haven't wanted to go. Just stay home. My temper is up so I say fine. Now I'm crying and the baby is crying. I go to see when he's leaving because at the end of the day I want to go. He tells me how mad he is, that I should of thought if clothes etc sooner. To be honest he is right but I'm overwhelmed in general. New baby, new country, no sleep, not looking my best.
So he leaves, I sob and the baby is up again after 20 min nap. I tried to stop him and come back for us but it was too late. I'm depressed and my lo won't nap. I'll be alone all day and night and I have no friends or family here. Not feeling good and needed to vent.
If you made it to the end. Have some wine from listening to me whine.
Anyway, flash to yesterday. I'm a bit stressed about going. Our lo isn't sleeping well and breast feeding at this place doesn't sound like a good time. My dh tells me to chill about it.
So today is where the shit hits the fan. Lo barely slept last night, the 25 minutes he did, I took a shower. I start to freak about what I'm going to wear. I hadn't bought anything because who has time to shop, we have one car and no stores around here. I also have no idea where to shop in Sydney for clothes especially since I'm breast feeding. Now The baby is awake, my dh decides he's going shopping for shoes for our trip in January. It's 10 and we need to leave at 12. The baby wakes up, I look at myself and think you look awful. You need a hair cut and color, (so much grey now and haven't had color since before baby was born). Some of my pre baby clothes fit and I try them on but look huge, and how am I going to breast feed in them. My dh comes home and needs a nap before we go. Now the baby is overtired. I can't get him to sleep. Dh finally gets up and is like you haven't wanted to go. Just stay home. My temper is up so I say fine. Now I'm crying and the baby is crying. I go to see when he's leaving because at the end of the day I want to go. He tells me how mad he is, that I should of thought if clothes etc sooner. To be honest he is right but I'm overwhelmed in general. New baby, new country, no sleep, not looking my best.
So he leaves, I sob and the baby is up again after 20 min nap. I tried to stop him and come back for us but it was too late. I'm depressed and my lo won't nap. I'll be alone all day and night and I have no friends or family here. Not feeling good and needed to vent.
If you made it to the end. Have some wine from listening to me whine.
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Re: I screwed up. Long.
<(*-*)> (that's a little hug dude)
I hope your LO (and you) gets a little more sleep soon!!
And BTW it's totally crappy that he left you and obviously has no idea what you are going through- in typical man fashion.
I couldn't have said it better. Sorry your DH is being insensitive. Ditto to all the internet hugs! And wtf to him frolicking about shoe shopping when he could've been helping with LO so you could get ready? Sounds like a sit-down is in order.
I like what PP said: If/when LO goes to sleep, put your feet up, have a glass of wine, and watch your favourite movie!
BFP#2 9/28/12 EDD 6/5/13 J.B. born 6/6/13
Sleep deprivation made a bad situation even worse.
Thanks again and I'll let you know how it turns out.