Anyone else feel bad for DH?

LB8427 · November 2013

He's being such a good sport. I feel like hell and he's cleaning house, making meals, oh yeah - supporting our family! All while I'm so nauseas and tired I can't move off the sofa. We usually go out on a date night or out with friends on Friday nights and I feel like I let him down when I said I'm not up to anything beyond the sofa.

I know he would say I'm being ridiculous, I'm making our child, but I still feel like all the attention is on me. Anyone else feeling selfish?

flmomof4 · November 2013

Nope, growing a baby is hard work. I expect him to help out where possible. I am still working full time, taking care of DD, and cooking too so it's not like it's all on him.

cookieinva · November 2013

As he sits next to me drinking a big ol' glass of wine....nope. Don't feel bad for him at all.

knitsandgiggles · November 2013

DH did pretty much everything during my first tri of my first pregnancy. He is being quite helpful again. He says that all he is doing is cleaning/cooking, but I'm growing a whole person and that's pretty hard work. I greatly appreciated his waking up with dd this morning so I coukd get aj extra 2 hours of sleep.

Mungojim · November 2013

Oh no! I do *NOT* feel bad for him! Sure, I'm appreciative that he's pitching in more - but, that's the least of what I would expect!

If I could trade places, and he could be the pregnant one and I could be the "extra helper," I would!

mlebates · November 2013

Nope.

biglewzer · November 2013

Sorry, can't relate.

LB8427 · November 2013

Haha. I know, I know. I am definitely doing my fair share of work here. I'm just used to being able to do more, but these past few days have done a number on my productiveness.

paxilchyk · November 2013

I do feel a little guilty because he is having to pick up all my slack. I'm the main parent/housekeeper while he's the main provider. Since I've been hit with morning sickness and exhaustion he's had to take on a lot more in addition to work. He's been pretty great about it, but I feel useless since I can barely get up to make a peanut butter sandwich without feeling awful.

abrazz · November 2013

I am very thankful for him, but I do not feel bad for him lol. We just had a siblings weekend get away and he got tanked :ar! . Now it's like a free for all because he knows I will always be the DD. I'm also completely supporting us while he has been in school for the past 3.5 years (to get an associates degree) and I am over it. AND it's hunting season so he is off at his buddies helping clean their latest kill. I do however enjoy my venison so I won't complain, but this momma is tired. I am so happy that your DH is helping out. I should never ever say anything negative (I will do so in the coming months however) because there are many ladies who have no one to help and I respect them so much because it's tough even with help. I can't imagine not having him as my life long partner in this crazy life.

nursecramer · November 2013

Nope. I am too full of self-pity at the moment.

iris427 · November 2013

I almost feel bad except I feel like he got himself into this mess LOL

LB8427 · November 2013

a_brasuell said:
I am very thankful for him, but I do not feel bad for him lol. We just had a siblings weekend get away and he got tanked :ar! . Now it's like a free for all because he knows I will always be the DD. I'm also completely supporting us while he has been in school for the past 3.5 years (to get an associates degree) and I am over it. AND it's hunting season so he is off at his buddies helping clean their latest kill. I do however enjoy my venison so I won't complain, but this momma is tired. I am so happy that your DH is helping out. I should never ever say anything negative (I will do so in the coming months however) because there are many ladies who have no one to help and I respect them so much because it's tough even with help. I can't imagine not having him as my life long partner in this crazy life.

I hear you on the drinking. We (before baby) drank a lot... I'm am now notching just how much since I'm always sober and I realize just how many glasses he pours... Also understand the hunting - but for us, it's golf. So. Much. Golf. But he's an attorney and I'm still in school - it's sort of understood that I've got the household things - he works around the clock and NOW cooks, cleans and grocery shops. For everything he does wrong he does so much more right. So incredibly blessed.

Megz52188 · November 2013

I felt so guilty last night!! He cooked, did dishes, rubbed my back and then as I was going to bed I realized I forgot to do his work clothes in the laundry something I always do!! Glad he's helping tho and pitching in especially since I'm working full time.

Aimes33m · November 2013

I mostly just feel bad because I am so exhausted I'm no fun anymore. I fall asleep every night at a ridiculously early hour. I'm boring! Ha.

TurtleMonsters · November 2013

Nope, that is what being a relationship is, sometimes one person carries everyone through tough times, and other times you're be making what seems like more sacrifices. don't forget to tell how much you appreciate even the little stuff. I know I appreciate that from DH, even when it's expected that I do things (like cook because he doesn't do it right;). Besides, your excuse IS you are making a baby. It's hard work, don't down play not feeling up to things. There are probably going to be a lot fewer date nights in your future, but you figure out how to have them at home more often, when there is a little one there.