Late Term and Child Loss

Hard day :( (mainly a vent)

edited November 2013 in Late Term and Child Loss
The past few days have been really tough.

We had a phone consult with our RE last night to talk about when he would give us the green light for another IVF (we don't want to cycle until next year , but wanted to see what he said) and also a new med protocol. So that was tough.

Then he looked at all my medical records from my pregnancy and asked why I wasn't being checked more often since I had a leep procedure done. He also said he would bet the uterine infection that 'caused' my PROM was prob bc of IC and I should have had a cerclage. Preventing dilation may have prevented infection which would have prevented rupture. Enter intense feelings of guilt!! I had been asking about a preventative cerclage since day 1 bc of my leep, and the week before my water broke I was practically begging for a cervical check bc of Intense back pain and cramps. My dr said the don't do preventative cerclage's there anymore and that I would be checked at my next appt. So my RE said to find another dr who will do it for next time.

Then today, exactly 1 month since Jesse was born, I got a huge bill from the hospital. They 'forgot' to run it through my insurance. Of all days! Thanks for the reminder, hospital.

(Edit- I deleted the few sentences about my sister b/c she came on here and sent me a private message because it upset her.  I know this is a safe place, but...I guess I want to avoid even -more- drama in my life)  Ugh!! I want to scream and rip my hair out- it is so f*ing unfair!!!!! To top it all off DH is traveling for work and won't be home until tomorrow night :(. I'm going to the monthly IF/Loss support group tonight (for the first time as an IF AND Loss person) and hoping getting out of the house helps.

If you've read this novel, you deserve a bowl of cookie dough and a giant bottle of wine! It feels so good to just get it out to people who understand :(
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TTC since 2008
Dh:34, no issues.  Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
 6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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Re: Hard day :( (mainly a vent)

  • I'm so sorry you are having a rough day. I remember the tough reality of my after loss RE consult. We will be doing another IVF in January or February too. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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  • Have you tried speaking to your sister?
    My grief counselor suggest avoiding all people who are not respectfull of your needs right now. Now is that time to be selfish and grief in an open and apprioate way.  If it was me, I would definitely not go and tell her why its not OK for you to go.  
    Good luck at your meeting tonight, hopefully it helps.
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  • So sorry you're having a rough day. I agree with pp that maybe you should talk to your sister. Some people just don't seem to get it. Its almost as if it is no longer real to them because time has passed and they don't have to figure out how to make it through each day with the grief. I hope you get something out of your meeting and tomorrow is better!
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  • I have definitely talked with my sister before. We've been struggling with infertility for years and now have a our loss compounding that pain. Her behavior is definitely not new ( or improved, ha). I think it's a case of her just completely not getting it At.All, and not realizing how lucky she is :-q
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    TTC since 2008
    Dh:34, no issues.  Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
    4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
    Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
     6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
    1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
    Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
    2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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  • I am so sorry. What a crummy day! (( hugs))
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  • I'm so sorry you've been having a rough time...it always seems when it rains it pours. Sending positive thoughts your way that the days get better asap! :)
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  • I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Hope that you can find some comfort in the meeting tonight and for tomorrow to go by quickly so your hubby will be home with you. Hugs.
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  • Thanks everyone- the meeting was really good and I am feeling a little calmer.
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    TTC since 2008
    Dh:34, no issues.  Me:31, Endo, slightly hypothyroid, deformed ovary, paracentric inversion.
    4 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone +TI cycles= all BFN
    Lap in 2012 to remove large unresolving cyst discovered endo and double lobed ovary.
     6 Gonal-F, Cetrotide, HcG, Crinone IUI cycles= All BFN,
    1st IVF w/ICSI- June '13 Antagonist: Gonal-F, Menopur, Ganirelix, HcG, Estradiol, Crinone= 7 retrieved, 4 mature, 1 unfertilized, 2 abnormally fertilized, 1 normally fertilized.  2DT of only embryo and our miracle BFP.
    Our beloved baby boy was born sleeping Oct. 13, 2013 due to pROM/IC/Uterine infection.
    2nd IVF w/ICSI- Feb. '14 EPP/lupron/antagonist: Estrace, lupron, HGH, Gonal-F, Menopur, HcG, PIO, lovenox, doxy/dex.=21 retrieved, 16 mature, 15 fertilized!!  5dt of 1 blast/ 6 frozen. BFP!  Beta 1 9dp5dt:83.9  Beta 2: 11dp5dt: 145.2  Beta 3  14dp5dt: 497  Please be our sticky rainbow baby!

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  • sorry you were having a rough day...I would def. not go to your sister's party.  sorry that she doesn't get it.

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  • I am so sorry my dear for shuck a rough day. And I will keep your sister in my prayers that she gets a tap on the head to know that now is a time for her to be your sounding board and allow whatever feelings you have to be allowed. I send you a big virtual hug!
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