Moms of 2+ How do you do it??

No longer the best · November 2013

My 3 year old niece just left. I'm so tired. I couldn't get Malcolm to nap because he was so distracted by his cousin and I didn't want to ignore her to get him down for a nap so he was cranky, she was kinda bored and my house is a disaster. I bow down to you all and I'm going to buy a jumbo pack of condoms.

NicoleReed0324 · November 2013

No idea how people do 2 haha I'm in awe of them.

buggybear87 · November 2013

Your little guy isn't used to the noise and having to share you. That makes a difference. DD2 can sleep through anything because her sister is so loud all the time. She's also used to me having to put her down to do something with DD1. It's all about consistency. I think what you did today is harder than having 2 of your own. Kudos to you!

needanustart · November 2013

Going from one to two there is adjustment period, but you eventually settle into a routine that works. Then it changes again

you just figure it out as you go!
I also live on caffeine and fortunately it doesn't affect Lo through nursing. I used to joke that I just blow like 20 lines of coke every morning to keep up but I got side eyed by too many moms with no sense of humor.

RedCherry1109 · November 2013

Sometimes it hard when you have 3 kids wanting you all at the same time but they have to learn patience. Sometimes DS3 will sleep through the noise and other times they wake him up. DS2 still(most of the time) takes a nap and luckily they have gotten into the routine of taking their longest nap at the same time. Some days I can't wait for DH to get home so I can have a few minutes to my self but I wouldn't trade it for anything. My OCD use to drive me crazy but over time I've learn to let it go and pick the house up during naps and when they go to bed.

FordFalcor · November 2013

Haha. For me, I figured out a way to make it work because I had to. Those first few weeks/months were insanity but somehow we found a groove. There are still really tough days where the kids take turns waking each other or making me want to poke myself in the eye but for the most part, we got this.

kari.sandall · November 2013

I've always had 2 (twins), but I wanted to say I think it's different to have your kids and to babysit. I always feel like I need to entertain kids I'm babysitting; where as I'd assume your own kids can entertain themselves sometimes.

WasNotWas · November 2013

This...and VERY clear boundaries for DS1

TheTamedShrew · November 2013

I'm glad someone posted this, because I ask myself this question every. frackin. day.

I wanted to have 3 or 4, but it's hard to imagine the next one at this stage

tiffletons518 · November 2013

A LOT of caffeine, more than the occasional meltdown, and frequent angry sex to release frustration. Yup. That about covers it.

WasNotWas · November 2013

42Butterflies said:
All of the above. But that moment when your children laugh at each other and kiss one another? Yeah. That moment erases the other moments of insanity.

When Ty cries Bradley says "it's okay Tyler I am here" and I die

No longer the best · November 2013

Ah! Sorry I had to take off since LO was having a meltdown from not napping!! My niece lived with us for a few days when she was almost 2 and it (almost) made us re-think having a kid. But then as my one girlfriend put it 'there is a reason you don't give birth to a toddler'.

And I guess eventually the oldest gets used to hanging out on his own for a bit while you feed/put the llittlest one down for a nap (I hope).

But still you ladies are champs!

WasNotWas · November 2013

@notabletobetagged there is a lot of "whisper game" played when Ty is sleeping on me

No longer the best · November 2013

I know stupid spaces in my name!! I want to come observe one of you Mama's when we're thinking of having our second.

tiffletons518 · November 2013

42Butterflies said:

All of the above. But that moment when your children laugh at each other and kiss one another? Yeah. That moment erases the other moments of insanity.

So so so true. My oldest (after having a flat out meltdown when she found out I was pregnant) tells me regularly that she's so glad I had another baby and that she loves him so much. And, DD2 loves to kiss on him, not always as gently as she should, but the love is there. Lol

needanustart · November 2013

Yeah graham often brings his lunch sits in the floor next to Arlo's bouncy seat and says he wants to 'keep him company.' It definitely makes the chaos worth it. I also have to give props to DH on this one- he is glued to DS1 from the second he comes home from work until he's asleep. His help is the only way I could exclusively nurse Arlo. You definitely learn your partners limits and capabilities with the first so I don't think we would have had Lo so soon if I didn't think I had an awesome father in our house who could handle it.

No longer the best · November 2013

@calikat80 yes I can see how a helping partner makes a big difference. DH was home with me for half the day today and he was wonderful!

WasNotWas · November 2013

NikkiP15 said:
Hope it is ok I jump in with a question! Those with 2 or more LOs: do you like the age spacing? What age spacing would you recommend most?

More than 25 months...I love Bradley more than life but I would love for him to be potty trained and a bit more self-sufficient

needanustart · November 2013

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NikkiP15 said:
Hope it is ok I jump in with a question! Those with 2 or more LOs: do you like the age spacing? What age spacing would you recommend most?

I don't think there is any perfect spacing. I say when it's a good time for your family to have another baby in the house, start trying. It's an adjustment for the kids no matter what age. And my sisters are 44, 42, me at 33 and 29 and we all fight like cats and dogs one day and hang out like best friends the next so age differences fade over time. Do what's best for the parents sanity and bank account!

ASmallWonder · November 2013

Two of your own is definitely different than one plus one of someone else's. You will never unexpectedly find yourself with a 3 year old and a baby

My brother can't ever figure out how we even deal with Aiden and I always try to explain to him that we've had 3.5 years of every day practice with him. Plus, he runs my brother ragged when he visits because "Uncle Pip" is a fun visitor and my brother is happy to oblige his every whim. He forgets that as the kid's parent, you learn to be ok saying "No, go play for a bit because I need a break/have something to do."

It's not easy, don't get me wrong, but it's something you get to figure out a little at a time

kmkaull2 · November 2013

The first two months were really rough on us. My husband works long hours and late nights. Evenings were just a nightmare when everyone needed and wanted mommy. Nursing was hard for us to establish, and of course in the early days that's all we did. I found the transition to be hard, even though both of my kids are well behaved/easy going.

Then we kind of hit a groove--baby developed a schedule, and the four-year-old started back to school. Routine and structure really helped. I feel like we're doing pretty well now. DD just lights up at the sight of her brother, so that is awesome. I do go through a lot more wine now. No joke.

As for spacing . . . different for everyone. Mine are 4 years apart (adoption and then bio baby). Just the way it worked out for us. It was hard to get them both, so I don't really care about the spacing. I love it because DS is fairly independent, potty trained, etc. She is not after his toys yet, so there's no animosity. :-)

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