Sex

KrisM86 · November 2013

I'm surprised there hasn't been a "how often are you having sex?" Poll with all the polling going on...so here it is!

TuckleUp · November 2013

I still have very little interest in sex. Poor husband!

lilbit0910 · November 2013

i wish i had sex more often. but i am tired, so tired ... when will it end??

JSS1002 · November 2013

We do it at random times - Saturday afternoon while LO is napping, etc. Otherwise we'd both be too tired all the time.

JBDamonM · November 2013

I'm in the same boat. Little interest, always exhausted. It sucks. I feel like DH and I had a great sex life pre pregnancy - I want it to come back

burneyonboard · November 2013

I'm still so tired and not really interested. If anyone chooses we are teenagers again...you must share how you find the time or energy.

lilbit0910 · November 2013

@libbylouhoo this made me LOL especially because i have def had these thoughts as well

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JSS1002 · November 2013

I don't think my husband and I would be speaking to each other if we didn't have regular sex. I don't know how you ladies do it. Or, uh, don't do it. We are both crabbbbbbbbbbbbbby if we don't.

JSS1002 · November 2013

clgsquared said:

JSS1002 said:

I don't think my husband and I would be speaking to each other if we didn't have regular sex. I don't know how you ladies do it. Or, uh, don't do it. We are both crabbbbbbbbbbbbbby if we don't.

This would be us too. If we go more than two days we are both bitches.

Yeah, like, he becomes so crabby that I can't stand him, and then I pick apart everything that annoys me until we do it and then we both calm down. Ha.

sapphire021 · November 2013

Only once here... back in August! My sex drive is way down underground... I hope it finds it way back soon because I'd like to have another baby at some point

sparty11 · November 2013

We are about every week to week and a half. But I've been on my period now for about 2 weeks so that is putting a damper on things. I want to try and keep some normalcy to our sex life. It is hard at times.

ceamac0127 · November 2013

I have little desire but we do it every week or every other week because it's part of marriage and we need it to keep connected in our relationship. I don't want to just be parents, I want to be his wife.

JSS1002 · November 2013

cece2682 said:

I am having a hard time with it for a few reasons , but one is how insecure I am about my body right now. And It's a mix of pregnancy weight and then eating like crap and no exercising at all. I'm gaining instead of losing. And y belly is gross. He hasn't even seen it yet because I'm so embarrassed about it. If I lost the flab on it , I wouldn't be so insecure about the stretch marks, but combine the two and no one need to see it. It bothers me so I can only imagine what he would think. Plus we've been arguing a bit lately and that doesn't make me wanna do anything when he's being a douche!

Never underestimate the power of a little sexy time to get him to stop being a douche and start doing whatever you want. ;-)

OhSewCrafty · November 2013

By the time we crawl our tired asses into bed at night, I am so over touched and over needed I just want to go the eff to sleep. I feel bad, but I'm not going to force myself to have sex just to say we did it. That's just as bad, IMO.

JSS1002 · November 2013

cece2682 said:

cece2682 said:

I am having a hard time with it for a few reasons , but one is how insecure I am about my body right now. And It's a mix of pregnancy weight and then eating like crap and no exercising at all. I'm gaining instead of losing. And y belly is gross. He hasn't even seen it yet because I'm so embarrassed about it. If I lost the flab on it , I wouldn't be so insecure about the stretch marks, but combine the two and no one need to see it. It bothers me so I can only imagine what he would think. Plus we've been arguing a bit lately and that doesn't make me wanna do anything when he's being a douche!

One thing I've learned over the years...all men could care less about a little jiggle once they get a glimpse of the ti*s, as*, and vajay jay! You carried a human being inside of your body. You get to be a little imperfect at this point!
Yea I know but I think my weight issue is starting to become more about what I'm doing to my body after pregnancy. I need to get my ass back in the gym and zumba!!!

Then start today and just do it, no more excuses. Honestly, I'm sure your husband is 10000% fine with how you look, but YOU are not fine with it, so time to make some changes. That is my situation 100%. I just started back at the gym and weight watchers last week -- I felt a million times better just walking through the door.

ChicagoBroad26 · November 2013

cece2682 said:
Eh I think he cares. He's very much into his own physical appearance and tells me I should go to the gym. And I know I need to. It's just getting up and going and getting started! Once I get going I'm good. Maybe I'll go tonight!

If my husband told me this it would be a one way ticket to couch ville. I am losing weight because *I* want to and feel better.

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JSS1002 · November 2013

ChicagoBroad26 said:

Eh I think he cares. He's very much into his own physical appearance and tells me I should go to the gym. And I know I need to. It's just getting up and going and getting started! Once I get going I'm good. Maybe I'll go tonight!
If my husband told me this it would be a one way ticket to couch ville. I am losing weight because *I* want to and feel better.

DItto, unless he genuinely wanted me to go to the gym like "hon, I've got the kid, go to the gym, I know you want to." Because I LOVE workign out, so I can see my husband saying that to me.

I dated a guy once who was very, um, uncomfortable with my weight and body and clearly that didn't work out. My husband has never uttered a syllable to me about my weight, and when I bring it up, he's like "if that would make you happy, then yes, lose some weight, but I don't care." Ha.

Re: the above post -- I also lost all the baby weight super fast while nursing, even got as low as 20 lbs below my pre-pregnancy weight.... then quit BFing and gained 10 lbs back, which has proven to be quite hard to lose again.

smiles21866 · November 2013

At the end of the day I'm so tired of being clung to, spit up on, cried on, and having snot rockets drip down my leg I just want a shower. And I don't want anything else in my personal bubble. Ahhhh, my poor DH.

BellaBean76 · November 2013

All BFing mommas. Did your sex drive return after you stopped BFing? I would like to continue BFing through the holidays (b/c I'm lazy and would like to eat whatever I want!) but my sex drive is ZERO. Just wondering if it will likely return when I stop. My original goal was 6 months which came and went...

JSS1002 · November 2013

BellaBean76 said:

All BFing mommas. Did your sex drive return after you stopped BFing? I would like to continue BFing through the holidays (b/c I'm lazy and would like to eat whatever I want!) but my sex drive is ZERO. Just wondering if it will likely return when I stop. My original goal was 6 months which came and went...

My sex drive definitely returned when I quit BFing, and it became less painful as well. That was honestly one of the reasons I quit BFing -- I was sick of feeling worn out and disconnected from my husband physically.

kgs0505 · November 2013

We're doing it all the time right now. It's been really great actually. Despite our marriage issues, this has been what really allowed us to reconnect and start healing. It has really broken down the barriers. Maybe it's temporary, but it's been pretty much daily for a couple months except for when I had my period. At any rate, I'm enjoying it. We haven't been this active in a really long time and it feels good. Now our sleepless nights are because of us, not babies.

bibliophileemily · November 2013

Geez, is it normal for husbands to initiate? I have the drive; my husband is the one who is always too tired! (At least he's only claimed to have a headache once...)

ClandestineX · November 2013

Every other day/every few days, this is a drastic change from pre baby and my husband really acts like he cannot handle it. Oh well. He really doesn't understand that the moment I put the baby down doesn't mean get all over me, I am not a touchy feely person to begin with and all the holding and touching another human has my nerves shot. Last thing I want is someone all over me right when I put him down. Then he takes it personal.

kgs0505 · November 2013

burneyonboard said:

I'm still so tired and not really interested. If anyone chooses we are teenagers again...you must share how you find the time or energy.

Okay, I cannot possibly be the only one who is doing it practically on a daily basis! As for time, we give up sleep in favor of sex. Although every 3 or 4 days, we have to actually sleep more than 5 or 6 hours or we are zombies. Granted, we have 3 kids who all sleep through the night. We are rediscovering our relationship with each other, as opposed to being only mommy and daddy. It's been a lot of fun.

KrisM86 · November 2013

kgs0505 said:

burneyonboard said:

I'm still so tired and not really interested. If anyone chooses we are teenagers again...you must share how you find the time or energy.

Okay, I cannot possibly be the only one who is doing it practically on a daily basis! As for time, we give up sleep in favor of sex. Although every 3 or 4 days, we have to actually sleep more than 5 or 6 hours or we are zombies. Granted, we have 3 kids who all sleep through the night. We are rediscovering our relationship with each other, as opposed to being only mommy and daddy. It's been a lot of fun.

See, I'd love to do it every day or every other day. However, DS is still up at least once and often twice a night. He has a knack for waking up either right as I'm climbing into bed (meaning I end up in bed even later and more exhausted) or in the middle of sex (mood killer.) I'm hoping once he is sleeping through the night, we'll be back to at least a few times a week.

ClandestineX · November 2013

BellaBean76 said:

All BFing mommas. Did your sex drive return after you stopped BFing? I would like to continue BFing through the holidays (b/c I'm lazy and would like to eat whatever I want!) but my sex drive is ZERO. Just wondering if it will likely return when I stop. My original goal was 6 months which came and went...

Yes it did when I was BF, my husband's touch disgusted me for some reason.. Like I'd instantly get irritated, it was no fun for anyone. I think it had to do with PPD too.

kgs0505 · November 2013

KrisM86 said:

kgs0505 said:

burneyonboard said:

I'm still so tired and not really interested. If anyone chooses we are teenagers again...you must share how you find the time or energy.

Okay, I cannot possibly be the only one who is doing it practically on a daily basis! As for time, we give up sleep in favor of sex. Although every 3 or 4 days, we have to actually sleep more than 5 or 6 hours or we are zombies. Granted, we have 3 kids who all sleep through the night. We are rediscovering our relationship with each other, as opposed to being only mommy and daddy. It's been a lot of fun.
See, I'd love to do it every day or every other day. However, DS is still up at least once and often twice a night. He has a knack for waking up either right as I'm climbing into bed (meaning I end up in bed even later and more exhausted) or in the middle of sex (mood killer.) I'm hoping once he is sleeping through the night, we'll be back to at least a few times a week.

Yeah, I hear you! We have that issue if we are doing it in the morning. Sometimes we just let them cry for a few minutes to finish up. They are safe, and healthy, just demanding their morning bottle.

ARJ6511 · November 2013

I still have very little interest.

Debbie0580 · November 2013

ClandestineX said:

BellaBean76 said:

All BFing mommas. Did your sex drive return after you stopped BFing? I would like to continue BFing through the holidays (b/c I'm lazy and would like to eat whatever I want!) but my sex drive is ZERO. Just wondering if it will likely return when I stop. My original goal was 6 months which came and went...

Yes it did when I was BF, my husband's touch disgusted me for some reason.. Like I'd instantly get irritated, it was no fun for anyone. I think it had to do with PPD too.

I felt the same way while BFing. I was so "touched out" by the end of the day. I'd have sex with DH because I felt like I should, not because I really wanted to. I weaned DD (fully) about a week ago and my drive is back for sure, other than finding the time. It seems we each have something going on every night of the week.

bhjones1980 · November 2013

JSS1002 said:

BellaBean76 said:

All BFing mommas. Did your sex drive return after you stopped BFing? I would like to continue BFing through the holidays (b/c I'm lazy and would like to eat whatever I want!) but my sex drive is ZERO. Just wondering if it will likely return when I stop. My original goal was 6 months which came and went...

My sex drive definitely returned when I quit BFing, and it became less painful as well. That was honestly one of the reasons I quit BFing -- I was sick of feeling worn out and disconnected from my husband physically.

I was going to ask the same thing, I have ZERO sex drive right now and hope it returns after he weans.

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