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beck41982
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MIL making me CRAZY!
beck41982
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Although I know my MIL means well and is very excited, she is making these last few days/ weeks extremely stressful. I am 37 wks, 2 days pregnant. At my weekly apt, dr said I am progressing and it could be some time this week. Since then, my MIL is calling relatives, friends, and even telling our children that I am in labor and that its gonna happen "today"! Even though Ive told her Im not in labor, she insists that I am. Just to relax and get some peace, yesterday I turned my ringer off on my phone and she showed up at my house and insisted that I go to dr to be checked. I told her no, Im NOT in labor, I just had a tough night last night(expected this far along). She insisted I at least call the Dr to see if they wanted to see me, and sat there and watched me and told me what to say! I feel like when Im in labor, Ill know bc it is my body. How the heck would she know Im in labor, and I don't even know myself!?
Am I alone here? Anyone else having similar situation?
Becky A.
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Re: MIL making me CRAZY!
You could laugh at her and say, "no. I'm not. If you're having contractions, you should go in!" Or you could be more firm and say, "no. I am NOT in labor. I will NOT call my doctor. That would be a waste of time. If I WAS in early labor, it would be MUCH too early to go be seen and since it's my body, it'd really be none of your business."
I'd never have let her in uninvited and never have called my doctor and listened to her about what to say. No. Just say no. And recruit your SO and tell her if she keeps telling people you're in labor and lying, you won't tell her when you ARE in labor and won't update her post appointments (though I'd start telling her, "doc says all is fine!" instead of details like "I could go this week!").
Yeah, Im just going to get my husband involved and tell her to chill out. I did try reading to her from my dr.s website the signs of labor(which I thought would prove to her that Im NOT) but she hears what she wants and says, "see, I told you"! That's when I gave in and called the Dr. Im beginning to think she's a bit unstable? Last night she told our other children that I would have the baby "tonight" and they would have a baby sister by morning! So of course they were disappointed when they woke up with no baby sister....
Were you there when she told your children that? That is so, so wrong. She owes them and you an apology. I wouldn't leave her alone with my kids if she's telling them things like that.
Ronda, no I wasn't there when she told them that. They told me later. I had a discussion with my husband this morning about him needing to have a talk with her and how stressed out she is making me. Also I told him that when I do go into labor that we are not calling her right away and he agreed. Hopefully this helps, and I have decided to allow her one phone call per day. All others will go to vm
Good I am glad you are setting boundaries.
I know you wanted her to just shut up, but you really shouldn't have called your Dr when she told you too and you especially shouldn't have repeated what she said. Now, she knows how to get your goat. But, it was a lesson learned. Now you know.
Next appointment, say "Everything is fine" and leave it at that. If she presses for more, it's none of her business and you don't have to tell her anything. You need to sit her down NOW and tell her that her actions are not ok.