Thank you gift for husband

TMH2013 · November 2013

So during the time I've been pregnant and sick, my hubby has really been great! He has been cooking and cleaning and today he finished my work by washing the dishes that I started on but got too sick to finish when he came home. He didn't even say a word, just got right to it. I want to do something for him to let him know I appreciate him. I know I've been difficult and demanding at times :-) and he really has helped try to make me comfy. Anyone do anything special for their husbands as a thank you?

Crasian · November 2013

That's really thoughtful of you! I'd like to get my husband a gift too because he's also really stepped up to the plate, but he's such a pain when it comes to gift giving. He really likes to research the hell out of anything he buys and he's really particular.

This weekend, he drove me to a mall in the Valley (we're in Santa Monica and making the drive can be really annoying because traffic is so terrible) and I know that wouldn't have been his first choice on how to spend his Saturday. Every other Saturday night, his company hosts a board game/potluck night that he loves to go to (he is a huge board game nerd! Not exactly Dungeons and Dragons but in that sphere of nerdiness), so I went with him and played like, 4 games which is a lot for me. Most of the time I don't even go, so that was my big gesture

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Crasian · November 2013

Other thing I was thinking of doing for the holidays maybe was to do some original art based on the board games/video games he likes...thinking about nurseries has gotten me feeling creative after a long creativity hiatus, and I've done a few pieces for the baby's room. It's gonna be tricky to do something like that without him noticing though!

Meery82 · November 2013

You're growing his child. He owes you.

curlylocks3 · November 2013

I haven't, and the idea that I should leaves a bad taste in my mouth. My husband is my partner, and while I normally ended up doing more of the housework pre-pregnancy its because it was a division of labor that worked for us at that point. What works changes as life changes, and just as he's really taken on most of "my" jobs, I'd do the same if the situation was reversed and he was sick, no questions asked.

I make sure to tell him I appreciate everything he does and thank him for taking care of me but thats it.

tbmadeamistake · November 2013

I'm giving mine a baby

. Both pregnancies (this and my first) were/are due right around his birthday, so I always joke that I'm getting him a baby. I make sure I say thanks when I notice him picking up the slack around the house, but I also agree with PP that it's something he should be doing as part of our partnership. Sometimes I give more, sometimes he does, it's natural.

For what's it worth, whenever I ask about a push present, I get told that he's giving me a baby, so I figure we're even!

rockopera · November 2013

It's your husband, you would probably know him better, and what he would appreciate, better than internet strangers.

Pintobean39 · November 2013

Meery82 said:
You're growing his child. He owes you.

That's what I was thinking .... When the baby is born hand it to him and say "you're welcome"

spinsoffresonance · November 2013

Pintobean39 said:

Meery82 said:
You're growing his child. He owes you.
That's what I was thinking .... When the baby is born hand it to him and say "you're welcome"

All of this. I am giving DH a gift; I'm growing his baby. Afterall it is his fault that I'm sick 24/7 and nothing gets done around the house, LOL.

I don't feel like you have to go all out with a gift, something simple like cookin his favorite meal, getting him his favorite beer/wine or greeting him at the door wearing sexy lingerie should be enough.

awc1986 · November 2013

He'll get a great gift next year when I push his child out of my berjina.

dmizak · November 2013

I agree @joules235. It's not as if he is asking for something. @TMH2013 just wants to do something nice for her husband. I don't see anything wrong with that. I know I love to get gifts out of the blue, why wouldn't he?

I think you should get a gift card to his favorite restaurant and make a date night.

curlylocks3 · November 2013

LuckyNumbers said:

joules235 said:

I'm going to disagree. In most cases you decided together to get pregnant and while he should be helping out more than usual, there isn't anything wrong with showing your appreciation. I'm not talking a brand new backcountry ski setup and a week long heliski trip. A dinner and a little sexy time will be well received and benefit both of you. You are giving him a baby but you get a baby too.

Thank you for saying this. I'll probably get flamed, but if the tables were turned, I'd want to know that he appreciated my extra efforts and want to be acknowledged. The idea that husbands should just be thankful that they're not being berated/nagged/whatever doesn't sit well with me.

He's my husband, I love him - it's not his job to read my mind (or vice versa), it's my job as a wife to let him know I'm happy I married him and I appreciate him. Being pregnant doesn't change that.

Who said anything about berating and nagging their husbands? You take care of the people you love, simple as that.

Meery82 · November 2013

I do think a heartfelt thank you or a small, thoughtful little something is a nice idea, but I don't think you have to go all out. In sickness and in health, right?

wtfisup · November 2013

I like to do gestures of appreciation for him all the time anyway. He's the most important part of my life. He made me homemade pot pie last night and french toast this morning. I don't feel like cooking, so ordering him a small gift is easier on me.

AnnaKaie · November 2013

Me and my husband appreciate each other. But, he decided long ago that we would never keep score. We both work and we both do things around the house. We are on the same team and don't do anything so we will get something as a reward. He is doing an amazing job taking care of me while I feel like crap. And I held things together when he was working 60+ hours a week. Giving gifts is nice. But doing something for your team mate in hopes of a reward takes the spirit out of life.

afk2013 · November 2013

Where did the OP say anything about this being an expectation? She's doing it because she wants to.

I like the date night idea. Movie/restaurant he would like? Sporting event or concert?

shellbell9482 · November 2013

I don't kill him when my hormones are off the charts - I think that's "thank you" enough! KIDDING!!!

I made my hubby escape for a boy's night. He really needed the time off, so he hung out with one of his close guy friends (who is also married) and they hung out at a pub for a few hours. He really needed to unwind and I'll be honest, it was nice having the "time off" myself!

alyss0nl · November 2013

"in sickness and in health"... I would do the same if he were sick. Besides, he gets to play his video games after DS goes to bed, so it's a trade-off.

TMH2013 · November 2013

Thanks ladies for all your thoughtful and funny ideas! My original reason for wanting to do something for him was just because this is our first kid, and I feel that guys are generally ignored during the entire process. Yes, I've been very sick and he's stepped up (I wouldn't expect him to do anything less, but it's still awesome that he's there and doing what he can). He's a chef so he's usually very particular about meals but I'm thinking of maybe just giving him a massage and letting him know I appreciate him. Even though I'm sure he knows that, there still is something about reinforcement. He never asks me for anything, I just want to do something for him.

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