Cry it out at 2 weeks ?

vargasgurl · November 2013

I have a question would you or have any of you tried the cry it out method on Newborns? My OB suggested it at 2 weeks and I thought it was too soon to do this to a newborn. She's a really nice Dr but I just didn't agree w this ... I thought at this stage they need the nurturing. Maybe it's because I am a FTM ? Well now my dd Is 1 month old and I can not get her to stop crying without being picked up. So somethimes it's for the obvious reasons ... She needs to be fed,burped or changed. Lately though ... She really just want s to be held ... She stops as soon as I pick her up and falls asleep right away ... Only to wake up when I put her back down. Thoughts and suggestions welcomed ... I'm having a hard time letting her cry.

chelseyestelle · November 2013

I'd be looking for a new pediatrician. Definitely too young!

Jalee85 · November 2013

Way too young!

jennlin · November 2013

Ridiculous....

vargasgurl · November 2013

Lol! I knew the pedi comments would do this .... However I really need to figure out how to get my little girl to stop crying and sleep in her sleeper

... I won't do cry it out because I just can't do this right now.

vargasgurl · November 2013

Correction it was not my OB ... PEDIATRICIAN . I know what she said makes her out to sound like an ass... But aside from that comment she has been super nice and helpful my SIL uses her and highly recommended this woman and her baby seems to really like her. I will add though ... She did not agree w her advise on crying it out either.

CousinVicki · November 2013

I don't care how nice she is I would find a new one . She is clearly clueless to give that asshattery advice

SnoopyLuv · November 2013

Why yes! That sounds like a great idea! This little person that's been inside of you for 9 months will be perfectly fine alone and doesn't need you at all. And as for crying? Whatever, it's just the only way they have to communicate. What the fuck are these pediatricians smoking?

There's a reason you have a hard time letting her cry - you're not supposed to.

yesthisiskim0401 · November 2013

I'm gonna need a big bag of popcorn for this

Lilpoppy · November 2013

I will say after my baby cried for a couple hours straight while holding him I put him down in his bouncer for a couple minutes and took a breather...When i came back and picked him up he stopped finally. I think If you need to step away for a moment your baby will be okay.... Does everyone agree or thoughts?

Painterlady · November 2013

Dump that doc...get a new one! Waaayyy too young!

vargasgurl · November 2013

I agree w this ... Completely which is why I DONT LET HER CRY IT OUT! Trust me I felt 2 weeks was too soon ... Now she is 1 month I still feel it's too soon ... I don't stress out if she cries for 2 minutes ... But I was trying too see what is everyone else doing. I haven't had much sleep but I don't even care because I'm not working so I can sleep later. My fear is that she will be that naughty baby only likes to be held. One look at that face and I just can't watch her get upset and I know she only wants nurturing.

baby101010 · November 2013

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vargasgurl said:
Lol! I knew the pedi comments would do this .... However I realnly need to figure out how to get my little girl to stop crying and sleep in her sleeper ... I won't do cry it out because I just can't do this right now.

Have u tried white noise? That soothes my.little guy right to sleep without being held. I habe a machine in the room... and an app on my phone for when he isn't in pack n play in my room

vargasgurl · November 2013

missgpsu said:

As everyone else said, way too early for CIO. For a helpful note, DD was doing the same thing with falling asleep in my arms and waking up when I put her down. My pedi said I might want to swaddle her during the day when I knew she was tired. I usually only swaddled at night. Mine is 6 weeks old and she said at this age they are more aware of their limbs and get startled by the moving of limbs when you lay them down. This worked both yesterday and today. Worth a try.

THANK YOU ! I swaddled mostly at night and not much during the day .... I will definitely try this and see.

vargasgurl · November 2013

baby101010 said:

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Lol! I knew the pedi comments would do this .... However I realnly need to figure out how to get my little girl to stop crying and sleep in her sleeper ... I won't do cry it out because I just can't do this right now.
Have u tried white noise? That soothes my.little guy right to sleep without being held. I habe a machine in the room... and an app on my phone for when he isn't in pack n play in my room

Not consistently .. But I think I will try this tonight. Thanks !

finnybooboo · November 2013

Also, it's too early to really spoil them at 2 weeks by being held "too much". Our LO only wanted to be held too but she finally will sleep in her rnp now. Maybe it's just a phase. Hang in there momma!

kimbo1216 · November 2013

Is this for real? I am someone who sleep trained using CIO. So I'm clearly not against it. But one month is WAY too young to do this. Even the king of CIO himself, Ferber, does not suggest starting CIO until a minimum of 4 months.

At one month your baby is still adjusting. I'm not saying to rush over at her every peep. It's one thing if you can't pick her up the second she cries. But I wouldn't just let her cry and cry. One month is just too young to expect her to self sooth.

kimbo1216 · November 2013

quartermisses said:
I'd nope octopus that pediatrician.

However, (to play devil's advocate) we did just go in for our 2 week check up this morning, and they gave us a packet of stuff from AAP that suggested if you're just at wits' end, letting the bay cry for no more than 10 minutes. I totally side-eyed it, but maybe that's what the pediatrician was suggesting/going off of?

Sometimes babies do need to cry. It's how they release stress. I think thats also why babies go through the "witching hour" phase. BUT...I still wouldn't CIO on purpose.

Also. What I think the aap pamphlet is saying is that sometimes when you are at your wits end, it's better to just set your baby down and let them cry than continue to hold them. Your stress will only make them cry more. They can feel it. And I think it also comes from that whole "never shake a baby" thing. If too stressed, you might be trying to rock or bounce baby and start shaking them too much without even realizing it.

So I think it's saying its better to walk away and let baby cry for a few minutes than to continue to hold them in that stressful situation.

Gatorsgirl731 · November 2013

Sometimes when I know DD is not hungry and she just needs to sleep. I put her on the boopy like I do when we eat. She usually falls asleep in this position anyway. Then when I think I have sat there long enough to get up I sit another ten min.

Oh and what everyone else said.

beckybeth123 · November 2013

You can't spoil a one month old. Even if you hold them all the time, I guarantee that by the time they can move around on their own, they will want to. And I would find a new doctor ASAP. I used CIO with my son and it is hard when they are older and you know they are just being stubborn vs actually needing something.

CarolinaGirl411 · November 2013

Your OB needs to stick to her patients when it comes to their suggestions, not their newborns!

kdjudd · November 2013

Hell no. Please get a new doctor.

Bakeshan28 · November 2013

way too young for CIO. I suggest wearing her if she prefers to be close to you so you can still get things done!

CousinVicki · November 2013

My husband's response to this "you have got to be f 'ing kidding me ". Lol

EmJ&B · November 2013

No no no no

A baby that wants to be held isn't naughty. You can't spoil her. No CIO

vargasgurl · November 2013

I mentioned that I wrote this post to my husband and he is saying that the Pedi did not say to cry it out ... What he took from the conversation was that she suggested that it was ok to let her cry for a bit while we figure out why she is being fussy and that we didn't need to panic and pick her up right away.
I didn't take it this way when she suggested it.
How did we interpret this so differently? Maybe I was being sensitive and thought her suggestion was to let her cry seemed cruel for a newborn.

Mae208 · November 2013

Yikes! The thought of a newborn crying it out breaks my heart!

vargasgurl · November 2013

Thanks for all the advise ! Obviously I knew better than to post this 2 weeks ago when I was given this advise .... Because I wasn't going to follow it and because I KNEW you were all going to flip out about this . We are on the same page ladies ... But I wanted your feed back and suggestions for better options going forward. New Pedi it is !

RedZee · November 2013

Since you already heard that it's crazy to let a newborn cio. .. with DD1 or pedi said that we could try having her sleep for longer night stretches by not feeding her as soon as she cried. I understood this letting her cry and neglecting her and was furious and ready to switch drs. DH understood it as offering the pacifier and rocking her for a minute before offering boob, which did lead to more sleep. It is an emotional time and i think misunderstanding things like this is fairly common. In general though, your ped will give you parenting tips. You don't have to follow every piece of advice. Do what works for you and makes sense for you.

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