Terrified of dropping LO

Re: Terrified of dropping LO

• =Lee=B member

  November 2013

  I've sneaking in from the 6-9month board as I saw your title.

  If it helps any my husband hadn't really held any babies and was worried at first.  Our daughter is now 8months and for months now he's been throwing her up in the air, carrying her on his shoulders and hanging her upside down.

  We do have a long standing bet about who will be the first to drop her...but it's yet to happen and neither of us are over gentle with her.

  The first days and weeks you will feel worried and will be amazed with how you managed to dress babe without breaking off any fingers.  But, it won't take long before you realize just how innate it is to not drop a baby.  How strong a baby is and how many protective instincts they are born with. 

  When your baby does arrive you will likely still have some of these fears but chance are you will be so overwhelmed with joy and overcome by exhaustion your thoughts will be taken over with trying to remember when you last fed or changed baby and where the soother is etc.

   

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• ILMomma member

  November 2013

  My DH and I were exactly the same way. My arms would kill after holding someone elses baby from being so tense. All I can say is it completely changes after you have your own. I think after a few weeks we both were way more comfortable.

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• babyf86 member

  November 2013

  I was just like you. I had no baby experience, I didn't even want kids up until a few years ago, but it all changes with your own.
  
  The first few days will be overwhelming and you still may have some of those fears. It took me about 2 weeks ( and I think I was struggling with the baby blues so I had the feeling the fears would never go away). But now (my LO is 5 weeks) and I feel like I've been doing this for years.
  
  In the first few days just take it easy, get some help if you can (maybe mom or friend), and just remember it gets easier.

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• Lindsaym5! member

  November 2013

  Try not to worry so much. I never had any experience with babies myself. Had never changed a diaper before. All I can say is as soon as you have your LO it changes. It's your baby not someone else's so there is just something about that that makes you comfortable. You will be fine and a great mom!

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• MargaretC5 member

  November 2013

  My DH also had no experience with babies and expressed a lot of you same fears as you.  We took a class that taught baby basics like holding, bathing, swaddling, changing diapers (they actually gave us dolls to practice on) and some other basic stuff.  It was a lot of the same stuff you can read in baby books, but the hands on class really helped my husband.  He was still super nervous when our LO was born but got the hang of it in a few weeks.  He still quotes stuff from the class!
  

  

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• swspear member

  November 2013

  I think a lot of people share this fear - so you're not alone! 

  
  

  Before our LO, I had never ever held a baby!  And I had a scheduled c-section so I still didn't *really* hold him until the first week was up (i.e., I had only held him laying down but never standing up or moving around).  

  
  

  As the ladies previously posted, it actually will come very naturally for you.  After a couple days of practice, it seems like you've been doing it forever.  One thing that helped me was having a big baby because he was a bit squishier and felt more solid than an itty-bitty baby   

  

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• PB102012 member

  November 2013

  I always felt this way before I had LO. However, this fear fades once you have your own (at least it did for me). I now have learned to do multiple things while holding LO. If I didn't learn how I wouldn't be able to get anything done during the day. Also, if you need to get household duties done, you can use a carrier? That's also fantastic and might make you feel comfortable walking around?

   

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