STMs who had twins after a singleton...

Stephanie2167 · November 2013

I have an almost 3 1/2 year old and I had a shower with her. We're a military family so we don't live near friends and family so obviously I wasn't expecting a second shower. But, I had a lot of friends and other twin mommas tell me "Because you are having twins people will buy you lots of stuff. They just can't help it."

My experience has been quite the opposite. I've had a few friends send an outfit and maybe a box of wipes. We can support ourselves and we have purchased all the items we need for the girls. This is not a "why aren't people buying us things" post. I'm just interested in other STMs experiences.

LucyRicardo3 · November 2013

I had some friends say they "wanted to" plan something for the twins but did not get it together and dropped the ball, no biggie.

Most people just dropped off diapers, gift cards, or food after the girls were born. Some of our very generous family ordered things from BRU (necessities like cold weather pj's and larger sized onesies).

We'd only lived in the area for about a year prior to getting pg and my DD was also 3.

kiwi443 · November 2013

Are you team green or did you find out the sex of the twins? I feel like that may have an impact.

I was not expecting a shower, but friends threw a small one for me shortly after we found out we were having two girls (my oldest is a boy). People were also very generous after they were born. I was surprised and of course, grateful.

Stephanie2167 · November 2013

Not team green. I'm having two more girls.

Thanks ladies.

TheDairyQueenx3 · November 2013

We have an almost 4 year old and I'm 33 weeks with these little guys. Also we are a military family as you can see in my profile pic haha (that was the day DH got back from Afghanistan for the second time) so we are a long way from family and friends too. I didn't have a second shower. I didn't really want one. We bought what we needed ourselves and then the family and friends back home who wanted to buy stuff we just made a registry for and they picked away at it and my mom bought the cribs and bedding since I wouldn't let her throw the shower. We did however have a little party a shower basically for our son instead I me becoming the new mom it was for him becoming the new big brother. He got a step stool to match the nursery with "big brother advice" written all over it from guests so he could look on the cribs, and he got a special blanket to use when he holds them. He also got a boppy and cover he picked out when he helps hold them and a big brother diaper changing kit ( had a rattle a stuffed animal and some little mini travel sized creams and stuff) to help me out as we change them, and he got a nursing basket filled with snacks, new toys, all sorts of stuff for him to pull out when I nurse the boys so it's a special time for him as well. He also got some silly gifts like ear plugs and funny big brother shirts. And a big brother picture frame. Someone got him matching outfits for all three boys. He loved being the center of attention and made him feel like he had an important roll being big brother

but that's what we did instead if a shower.

LottaLattes · November 2013

I had a friend who really wanted to throw me a shower, which I gave her a fairly small invite list for. I did have a 7-year gap between my second child and the twins and really didn't have anything. And last, these are the first two for my husband so his family wanted to do a little more.

bumpuser924057 · November 2013

I had a small sprinkle that was graciously given by a few of my wonderful MOMS Club friends, and we did have a lot of friends and family buy us a little something for the babies - mostly outfits, especially girly ones because I already had a boy.

TheDairyQueenx3 · November 2013

He got other stuff too like big brother specific books and stuff a matching stuffed animal to the small ones that will be at the NICU with these guys but sorry for the novel with spelling errors there. Mobil bumping here! Hope it helps some (people also got baby stuff for the twins I forgot to mention but he just opened it and and was all excited to put it in the nursery.

Jfila13 · November 2013

My son is 17 mos and my twin girls are a week old. Did not have a second shower; close girlfriends took me out to dinner & a movie, and they set up a meal train for interested friends. Truthfully, that has been the best. Not having to cook has been so amazing!

carrotcake06 · November 2013

My oldest was just over 3 when the babies were born - all boys. My mil kept telling me she wanted to throw me a shower where she lives, 5 hrs away, and I really just didn't want to travel, and she didn't get it together, so it didn't happen. Plus they were early.

People were VERY generous after the babies were born. I was really overwhelmed by it, actually.

babywillmake3 · November 2013

I have a 2 year old boy and we are having twin boys. I am getting two showers again, one at work and another with a new circle of friends. I didn't go out and request them, people volunteered and wanted to. Both will be low key and more diaper driven instead of things. My friend shower will be a gift card shower for restaurants that deliver in our area and grocery store cards (their idea not mine). I gave up trying to dodge people offering, because in all honesty we need the help. Twins are a special circumstance because the volume of things I had for one (bottles, clothes etc) need to be doubled.. So I'm taking the help that was offered and hiding my pride

MrsCali_Bride · November 2013

No shower for the twins over here. People gave us clothes and a couple of bath towels & blankets for them for Christmas when I was pregnant with them, but otherwise we pretty much purchased what we needed for them ourselves. One of my friends did ask what I needed (I said a baby bathtub, towels, washcloths and baby wash) and she brought those plus her Boppy to us when she visited us in the hospital. My MIL offered to buy one of the cribs as their gift to us but we were in a little 2 bedroom apartment with no room for it. When we bought our house this past May, she kept her word and sent us a check so that we could purchase the crib ourselves. We ended up being able to buy both cribs and mattresses with not much out of our own pockets.

Rynleigh · November 2013

Our situation was a little different because our first two singletons were both girls, and both significantly older (10yrs and 5yrs when the boys were born) - because the twins were boys and younger, we had a lot of people donating things. But if they'd been born earlier and they were girls, I can't imagine that many people would have given us stuff. I'm sure we would have received help on the big stuff, like a spare crib and a double stroller, but I don't know if we'd have gotten much help on things like clothes.

We never had a shower for the boys, but most of our family lives out of state and it was easier on everyone to just send things instead of trying to organize a day when people could all show up. That and I have a total of about three female friends... and only one of them lives in the same state I do LOL

I don't think it's right to tell people that they're going to get more stuff just because they're having twins - it depends a whole lot on the dynamics of your friends and family and how excited they get about you having twins.

sparkman-to-be · November 2013

I'm having babies 3&4. Also girls 3&4. I have been adamant that I have no shower but found out yesterday on accident that there is a surprise shower being planned for the 17th. I look forward to celebrating the babies but feel a bit awkward about it but whatever. It'll be fun.

Seldaar · November 2013

Stephanie2167 said:I have an almost 3 1/2 year old and I had a shower with her. We're a military family so we don't live near friends and family so obviously I wasn't expecting a second shower. But, I had a lot of friends and other twin mommas tell me "Because you are having twins people will buy you lots of stuff. They just can't help it."My experience has been quite the opposite. I've had a few friends send an outfit and maybe a box of wipes. We can support ourselves and we have purchased all the items we need for the girls. This is not a "why aren't people buying us things" post. I'm just interested in other STMs experiences

DW and I have DS who will be just over 24 months when the twins are born.

DW has had one "sprinkle" so far, which is apparently the formal term for a shower for a 2nd baby. Her office is also throwing here a sprinkle here soon.

Our circle of friends does these things. We hosted one, and went to a couple of sprinkles before DS was born.

We have received some very generous gifts so far, but a lot of the most useful stuff has been in form of hand-me-downs, not brand new stuff.

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